To have said something?!

[Briony22]

At the supermarket earlier, and parked in a parent and child space with DH and 10 month old DS.

As I was getting DS out of the car a car pulled into the parent and child space next to us, and a woman got out and started walking towards the supermarket without any kids.

I called after her and said "You know you've parked in a P&C space, yeah?" and she started huffing and puffing that she had her son with her, who was in the car. I pointed out that the spaces are for parents with children who need the extra room to get them out of the car, and then she said that her son was disabled and that she had a disabled badge. I then said that the disabled spaces were in another area of the car park, at which point she started getting her son out of the car and telling him that he had to come into the shop "because that mental lady was kicking off".

I'm just so sick of entitled fuckers using these spaces without any need to when I've often struggled trying to get DS out of his car seat without sufficient space.

DH was mortified and said I should have just left it.

WIBU?

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

You should probably think before shouting at other people in the car park in future.... You have no idea what's going on in that lady's life. The one you shouted at. For no good reason...

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Double standards.

My MIL saw a guy (on his own) parking a huge 4x4 in a P&C bay. She called him out and he said it was the only bay big enough for his vehicle!

She didn’t need to display a badge. She wasn’t in a blue badge space.

Parent and child spaces are to make it easier for you to get your child out of the car. For her to leave her child in the car (was anyone else in there with them?) means she didn't need the larger space. Then to use the blue badge reason. She can only use the blue badge to park in a blue badge space, or child space now it seems, if the child was getting out. You were brave for saying anything @Briony22 but I don't think you are in the wrong.

I didn't know she had a child with her.

Well that's why you should have just minded your own business tbh. The majority of us survived before the introduction of these extra spaces and they aren't the law just a courtesy 🤷‍♀️

No, YOU keep missing the point that YOU told a woman she couldn’t park in a P&C bay and had to move to a disabled bay, after she told you her child had a BB.

She doesn’t have to display the BB in a P&C bay and you had no right to tell her to do anything.

What is it that you don’t understand about that?

No, actually BB holders can park in BB bays, P&C bays and standard bays.

So much ignorance on this thread.

Was the car park so full he couldn’t have gone to the far end and overlapped two spaces? I doubt it. Unless he physically couldn’t walk the length of the car park he was being a knob.

I’m shocked at your casual dismissal of the right for disabled people, and that you think it’s ok to tell disabled people where to park.

So fucking superior.

My daughters have blue badges and nowhere have I read that you can park in a parent and child parking space with them. I am not being ignorant. Don't be so rude.

@FixItUpChappie You could use that argument for almost anything, though. In the olden days people survived without electricity, but I bet you find it convenient!

@Meraas I actually didn't tell her she couldn't park in a P&C bay, nor did I tell her she had to move. I simply called her out on her taking up a P&C bay needlessly.

While I'm shocked at the abuse I've received from a number of posters, I'm big enough and ugly enough to accept that most people are saying I was unreasonable. I apologise to anyone I've offended but I can assure you I'm not anti-disabled. I will certainly be keeping my thoughts to myself in future!

Yes because disabled people are some of the most vulnerable in our society and they get treated like second class citizens.

You also sound very much like OP. Entitled. Patronising. Unable to mind your own business.

Yours and OPs attitudes are really shocking.

I haven’t dismissed anyone’s rights. And OP didn’t tell the woman to move. I think you need to step away from this. You are getting far too upset and inferring things that aren’t true.

@Meraas I actually didn't tell her she couldn't park in a P&C bay, nor did I tell her she had to move. I simply called her out on her taking up a P&C bay needlessly.

Your OP literally says ’she said that her son was disabled and that she had a disabled badge. I then said that the disabled spaces were in another area of the car park’

You were telling her to move, OP. Own it.

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.
she has a disabled child. You have literally no idea what her daily life is like. Not all p&c car spaces are wider, some are just closer to the destination. If she was leaving her disabled child in the car, closer to where she will be is absolutely better.

but like you said, ypu did not know she had a disabled child, or that a bb holder can park in them without an issue. You didnt know because you couldnt know those things, yet you still made a choice to be an awful person today. Do better tomorrow.

So you and OP are in cloud cuckoo land and refusing to admit what you have both said, yet I should be the one to move?

I think you should step away as you are upsetting people with your ableist views.

The rules on using a parent and child space www.confused.com/car-insurance/parent-parking-problem/parent-parking-bay-rules
Same as using a blue badge in a blue badge space. If the child or blue badge holder are not getting out of the car, you shouldn't use the space. But the rules are dependent on which supermarket you park in, so some might be happy with you parking there and your child not getting out but some might not and you might get issued with a fine

To those who referred to me being "cuntish" and "nasty", you've really upset me, and I suggest you think before spouting such vitriol in future - you have no idea what's going on in someone's life.

Those words aren't nice, but probably not as bad as being confronted in real life by someone, like that women was.

You're right, you don't know what's going on in someone's life - take, for example, that woman with a disabled child. You have no idea what's going on in her life, yet you still spouted vitriol her today.

Your bloody out of order

It clearly says: So, if a Blue Badge holder parks in a parent and child space, it’s not illegal.

Let this be a lesson to you. Maybe keep your mouth shut without knowing facts and embarrassing yourself (and husband) .. You had a space, get over yourself.

What exactly have I said that I am refusing to admit?

@NeedMoreMilk Think about what you've just said.........

I’m just going to copy and paste my previous response to you because I’m tired of explaining to you when you choose to be obtuse

Are you for real?! After the woman told OP her disabled son was in the car and she had a BB, OP told her ’the disabled spaces were in another area of the car park’.

So OP knew he was disabled. Stop justifying the unjustifiable. And it’s because of OP that the poor woman felt pressured to get her son out of the car.