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AIBU?

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Original poster

To hate the phrase "we are pregnant"...

89 replies

Tuilpmouse · 18/08/2022 05:48

.... I just can't stand jt. However supportive you are of your pregnant partner, as you don't have a human growing in you, you are, by definition; not pregnant!

How did this ridiculous phrase ever start?

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allboysherebutme · 18/08/2022 22:36

Me too. X

2anddone · 18/08/2022 22:37

Totally agree...."We are Pregnant"....absolutely not unless they are both passing 6-8lb people through their bodies either by caesarean or otherwise they cannot say "we are pregnant"

Nightmare2022 · 18/08/2022 22:40

I absolutely hate this phrase. Yet another way for men to erase biological women from the English language.

Billi80 · 18/08/2022 22:40

never heard a genuinely happy couple days this

Billi80 · 18/08/2022 22:41

*say this. Nausea at the thought causing typos

TheUsualChaos · 18/08/2022 22:43

BloodAndFire · 18/08/2022 12:37

At my antenatal class, one bloke said "we won't be having any pain relief in labour, we don't believe in it."

Dear god it would take every fibre of my being not to challenge that and make a bit of an awkward scene 🤣

Rosiestraws · 18/08/2022 22:44

itsjustnotok · 18/08/2022 08:07

I never really understand these sorts of AIBU? It’s pointless to me. Of course there are people who will feel the same , equally there are some who will simply not care or in fact like it…surely that’s life.

I'm guessing OP is starting this thread to subtly point out that people who say this are irritating. That's the point! And the multiple PP agreeing with OP add to this and hopefully people who say this will start thinking how silly it is 😆

OP I agree completely!!

SweetSakura · 18/08/2022 23:06

Yanbu.

"We are expecting a baby."

"She is pregnant".

Saying "we are pregnant" enrages me. But I don't know if I am just being a pedant.

HelloBunny · 18/08/2022 23:07

DH has never been pregnant. I have.

ErrolTheDragon · 18/08/2022 23:13

BloodAndFire · 18/08/2022 12:37

At my antenatal class, one bloke said "we won't be having any pain relief in labour, we don't believe in it."

I can't help hoping that if he said that during his partner's labour at a point where she'd have liked some, she gave him cause to actually need some too.

RCFerg · 18/08/2022 23:14

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 18/08/2022 05:50

Lives too short to be hating something so trivial, I’d personally just be happy for the couple.

I don't think it is trivial when the birthing parent is risking their life to bring the baby into the world. The non-birthing parent shouldn’t get credit for that.

CornflakesOnTheSolesOfHerShoes · 19/08/2022 10:55

FirstFallopians - I was the one who said I’d feel petty objecting, and I completely agree with you that it’s a fully valid objection. But it’s usually my sister who I hear it from, when referring to her friends, and I don’t want to be starting fights by criticising her language when she’s just passing on some good news…it was bad enough that I started a huge argument about surrogacy when she told me her gay male friends were hoping to have a baby!

aurorauk · 23/07/2023 10:28

Tuilpmouse · 18/08/2022 05:48

.... I just can't stand jt. However supportive you are of your pregnant partner, as you don't have a human growing in you, you are, by definition; not pregnant!

How did this ridiculous phrase ever start?

I agree totally. It's so stupid! Is he pregnant too? Nope! So why say "we"?!

PinkButtercups · 23/07/2023 21:35

Sameee!

No you did not grow 3 humans, two being at once, thank you.

I am pregnant not 'we'.

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