To hate the phrase "we are pregnant"...

[Tuilpmouse]

.... I just can't stand jt. However supportive you are of your pregnant partner, as you don't have a human growing in you, you are, by definition; not pregnant!

How did this ridiculous phrase ever start?

YANBU. I can't stand it.

Will we be giving birth too?

YANBU. Accompanied by a photo of a smug looking man, seemingly taking credit for growing a baby. It really annoys me!

Yes I don't like it either.

I'm pregnant now and it's very much me that is pregnant. If my DP said 'we are pregnant' I'd probably laugh.

I never really understand these sorts of AIBU? It’s pointless to me. Of course there are people who will feel the same , equally there are some who will simply not care or in fact like it…surely that’s life.

But I think it's just some people's way of saying they are doing it together and both parents are very much involved.

you’re right I think this is the logic behind it and this is why I really hate it - no matter how much he wants to be involved it’s her that is carrying, physically growing and will deliver that baby, not him, no matter how much they want to fool themselves that he is also carrying some part of the load.

Agree, totally cringeworthy! It makes me think the couple are joined at the hip and do not have a separate life or identity.

Totally agree OP. It is awful. 🤮

Agreed. Annoyingly silly.

Agree, silly and twee.

I used to know a woman who didn't work, husband worked in the city and every year she'd say 'we got a great bonus this year' or 'we're going for a great promotion'. I always thought it was weird and unfair on the bloke who actually did the work that he got a bonus for.

YANBU. I hate it. I'm all for equal parenting, but until breastfeeding is done, men and women just can't be fully equal parents.

I had a row on social media once with a local politician who was arguing that midwives should be asking the father about his health and mental health etc at midwife appointments, as it was just all so centered on the woman and the baby that he felt left out. 🙄

Yanbu. "We are expecting a baby", "we have a baby due soon" etc are fine.

YANBU I can’t stand this!! Total erasure of women’s experience. Love the pp who says they reply “we are accountants” when asked what her husband does 😂

Yeah I hate it too. The woman is pregnant. The man provided a sperm (presumably enjoying the process immensely because... sperm) and his role throughout pregnancy is to be a supportive human being, not a nauseating arsehole determined to make it all about him.

Haaaaaaaaate it.

I know of several 'we are pregnant' men who are not supportive (other than with an audience) and do not do their fair share of anything that needs doing. Definitely no 'we are doing housework' vibe.

So no, I wouldn't agree that it's any sort of barometer of support, it's just an attention-seeking and annoying manner of speaking in my view.

Makes me cringe, very precious way of saying it

I can't stand it either

YANBU - I physically wince when I hear this.

Yanbu its revolting

Unless it's a lesbian couple who've both conceived at a similar time, YANBU.
It's ridiculous and devaluing of the pregnant woman.

It fucks me right off.

It just feels like another thing where a man is unable to accept a woman can do something he can't so has to jump on the band wagon!

YES I hate it. It's so twee, and honestly sounds kind of culty.

YANBU. It’s attention seeking bullocks and usually used by a certain type of couple

If a bloke said that to me I hope I'd manage to look wide-eyed and say "really? You're breastfeeding? How are you doing that? Is it safe....oohhh.... you mean Sally's breastfeeding. "