to ask whether it would it annoy you if a man didn't spend any money on a date?

[NameChanger567]

Just that really.

I am more than happy to pay for my own food and drink on a date and I would never expect a man to pay for me.
But would you feel put off if for example you went to a bar or restaurant where you just bought your own drink/food and he didn't buy anything?

That would be a bit odd! It would definitely put me off!

I would feel uncomfortable with anyone if I was drinking and eating and they just watched me with no refreshments of their own.

And just watched you eat / drink?
That would be most awkward and odd.

So he sat there watching you eat? I'd think it odd if the agreement had been to go to a bar/restaurant, perhaps not so much if you suggested it spontaneously and he wasn't hungry/thirsty.

Yeah, that would put me off.

It wouldn't bother me at all if no money was spent on the date. But one person eating/drinking and the other one not is odd.

I can't imagine how that would come about though. Why would someone suggest food/drinks/meeting in a place that serves them, or alternatively agree to a date featuring those things, if they had no intention of joining in?

Do you mean he didn’t buy himself anything or he didn’t buy his date anything?

Yes. Completely weird behaviour.

I'd hate that !

Did he not even have a drink? Did you offer to buy him one?

Yes, I'd find that very odd. With no explanation? Did this happen and did you ask?!

I’m guessing the op means he didn’t buy her anything rather than he didn’t buy anything at all even for himself

You mean you ate and drank something but he ate/drank nothing? Yes I would find that weird on a date. If he wasn't hungry he could have suggested cinema, walk in park, etc, but to arrange or agree to a date in a restaurant then not eat or drink is weird.

I'd be wanting to know why to be honest.
I'd also be wondering why it wasn't better arranged before hand if he couldn't or didn't want to eat anything where you were at.

Really? I'm going by what the op actually said.

But would you feel put off if for example you went to a bar or restaurant where you just bought your own drink/food and he didn't buy anything?

Well, it wouldn't feel like a date at all. If you just met for a walk in the park, fair enough, but if he sat there while I had a drink and worse, something to eat, then I'd think he was either completely flat broke, really tight or weird.

Sounds really weird. I agree if we were just strolling round then that wouldn't be an issue at all but if we were in a restaurant and he didn't eat that would feel weird. Any more details of this particular date?

Yeah, that would probably put me off!!

I went on a dreadful blind date once, many moons ago, & he kept saying 'my turn...your turn' with the drinks & then, at one point, he got out a coin purse & counted out the exact amount in coppers to the poor barman. I genuinely tried to leg it out of the bathroom window!! Ended up deploying the 'call me with a fake emergency' plan with my best friend!! 😆

If we have all interpreted what you said correctly, then of course it is weird.

Are there any details missing.... I don't know, maybe you met up for a walk and you wanted to go in the cafe at the end and he hadn't brought his wallet ?

What happened was that I met a guy for a date (nothing was really planned about getting food or drinks) and he nodded towards McDonalds and I asked whether wanted something to eat. I said yes and when we were at the counter I ordered a meal and he ordered nothing. I thought he would order something. I sat there eating it awkwardly while he had nothing. He said he had already eaten at home.

Another time I met a guy for drinks. We had previously arranged to go for drinks. When we were in the bar, I ordered a drink and he ordered nothing. I was really annoyed to be honest.

That's really bad luck to have had dates with two men who didn't understand how to act normally. Even if you weren't hungry, you'd get a drink to use as a prop to make your date feel less awkward and 'watched'. A drink isn't always about quenching thirst. Weirdos.

you just bought your own drink/food and he didn't buy anything?

You mean he sat with you in bar bar and didn't order anything?

I wouldn't be comfortable with that behaviour. I don't like eating or drinking unless everyone has at least been offered food/drink.

The behaviour described is decidedly odd to me. I've never been in that situation but hope I would find a way to ask what was wrong.

Nope that's all too weird.

I'm past dating I've no interest at all in meeting anyone etc.
But.. I would be weirded out at that.

A coffee as a casual meet.
A walk in the park on a nice day.
A.stroll by the sea and an ice cream is brilliant.

But a trip to McDonald's?.. I don't think I could on a date tbh, I'm aware that probably.makes.me some horrible.judgey person or what have you.. and them not eating or ordering anything? Nope nope nope.

Ah tbf that sounds more like a mix up? So that’s different and not really as bad as it sounds but tbh I would be put off a date suggesting McDonalds 😬

Both are odd, they could've ordered a soft drink to at least keep you company!

They’re tight AF so you dodged a bullet I’d say. Jeez what is up with men these days?