To ask what in life has made you saddest and how you ever got over it?

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Something in life hasn’t worked out I hoped / expected it would. It feels a bit like heartbreak - that’s all I can liken it to.
Im so sad and could cry all the time. I cannot say what it is as it is so identifying to me.

What made you the saddest you’ve ever been and how did you get over it? Or learn to live with it?

I'll take a look, thank you. Sending love xxx

The absolute saddest thing was when I found out my partner if 5 years had cheated on me for 6 months, we had a 1 year old at the time.

After years of being alone kicked out home at 15 , alcoholic mother no father.
I really thought I finally had the family I wanted and it came crashing down. That was years ago and Nothing compares to that awful feeling the day I found out and the subsequent years of torment from him. But, I have actually had a lovely life since and thank god he did that as we'd still be together and I'd be a very unhappy soul.
Twist and turns of life can sometimes work out better. Sometimes not all the time

My dad killing himself last year. I remember the phone call like it was yesterday. I have come to terms with it but will never get over it. The grief of losing someone to suicide is like no other grief. Not a day goes by when I don't think of what his final moments must have been like.

Did your ever trace your baby Op?

I'm so sorry. Heartbreaking.

I'm so sorry.im sorry your dad was so ill he saw no other way.And sorry you lost him.here with an ear if you ever need it.

Losing my mum at only 27 and 34 weeks pregnant with my first baby, I'll never get over it. Life goes on but it isn't as good without her.

This thread has made me tearful. People go through so much yet keep going, somehow

What in life has made me the saddest? Possibly being too tired to live it. Tired on a soul level.
A traumatic childhood with a difficult parent made me a pathetic adult who can't seem to see people for who they truly are. I fell out of that childhood into an abusive relationship, had a severely disabled child whom I've watched suffer for a decade, I became disabled myself due to physical & mental stress, lost friendships because it's impossible to continue them with so much to juggle.
Infertility, bereavement, betrayal. Everything I start fails, every job I try I fail at. Every friend I make turns out to be abusive, it's like I attract them because of what my childhood moulded me into. A naive, pathetic fool.

On day I'll lose my child and it'll be so much worse, I'm grateful for every day in that respect. But when they're gone, I hope I'm not too far behind. It really has been an uphill struggle. It won't be worth it without them.

You wouldn't tell looking at me, I keep my head down and smile a lot. I try and make life better for others. But underneath the facade, I've given up. The world is full of pain. Patiently waiting for it all to be over.

2 miscarriages were devastating and I have just lost one of my closest school friends to pancreatic cancer - 3 weeks from diagnosis. Time has helped to grieve the miscarriages, but my friend's death has been very difficult and everything is still so raw. I was also groomed and raped when I was 18, and that haunts me and has impacted on intimacy. I am sorry you are struggling, OP. Sending lots of love xxx

@primefeline 💐💐💐

I know lots of people have to deal with a lot of extremely difficult things but seeing so many personal stories on this thread is incredibly moving. It makes you think. I hope everyone has a better day today.

@absolutenightmare I agree suicide is like no other grief. When dh hung his self it was the lowest point of my life and I posted on here about it

the way I coped with it, as you don’t get over it, but that it was dh choice. He had had enough of life and depression and couldn’t see any other way out

him killing his self stopped the pain for him but for me and family and friends it was the beginning

counselling via cruse helped lots plus suicide groups

lots of love 💐💐

Realising that an ex bf was cheating on me with (at least) 2 other women and a bit of a conman. He married one of them a year later. He did one of those complete disappearing acts after sending me a text confessing and I had to get an STD test. I thought we had the perfect relationship one day and then the next I received this text and I have never seen him again to this day. It was terribly difficult to deal with as I didn't know what was a lie and what was true (not much of it as it turns out).

Time helped, but I also told a friend who by complete chance turned out to be a close friend of his new wife what he did when I met her socially a couple of years later, complete with showing her some photos and videos with the overlapping dates. She already had doubts about him so the information was passed on to the wife and I don't things are entirely going well...

Always best to aim for clean break ups, don't mess people around, and treat people as well as you would like to be treated yourself.

This is tragic @girlfriend44 so sorry. Did you ever find your son?

My mum admitted she's never felt anything for me. To all those who think their children don't know and you can hide it. No. You can't. I'm not "over it" I'm a cold bitch, virtually no self esteem, no trust in anyone life's great. But I don't let her know that.

Definitely when my mum died. Life has never quite been the same since really.
I do have a good life, but really miss having a close blood relative who is not either of my children (I’m an only child and my dad passed away when I was young - tbh that probably altered the path my life took more, but we had a difficult relationship).

@Blondeshavemorefun this is exactly how I've come to terms with it, that it was my dad's choice. I'm part of a Sobs group which I've found very helpful. Talking to others who have been bereaved by suicide has been paramount to my journey through the grief, no one else understands.

My DS took his own life almost 2 years ago.
It was completely out of the blue. No-one knew anything was wrong.
I am broken beyond repair.

I'm so so sorry.

@PeanutAnarchy I can understand that

you lose my dd wouid tip me over the edge

tho guess it’s how dh parents felt

I’ve always said a parent should never have to bury their child

I'm so very very sorry.

My best friend died in an accident when we were both 16.
I think of him at all my life milestones (marriage, babies, career progressions) and all the things he and his family have missed out on.
He was the one friend I had at school, he protected me from all the bullies.
They played a popular song at his funeral and every time I hear it I see his face.

This is so true.
I do a lot palliative care medicine.
what matters in the end is love , and each other.
Philip Larkin was a genius observer of humanity.

Might not be as heartbreaking as some of these on here but when I had my missed miscarriage. Literally never felt pain like it, been through family deaths, been through lots with my husband but nothing has ever made me feel as low and depressed as going through that had. I was over eating, binging to make myself feel better, I was watching horror movies (I hate horror movies) just to try take my mind of it. I literally struggled to see the light at the end of the tunnel and honestly would of died if I had the option.

ExDH cheating on me with my best friend and the subsequent divorce
Time has been a great healer
Losing my Dad 3 years ago I’m still grieving but you get used to it
The only thing that works for me is to embrace my emotion and let it out but then mentally box it off for a while until I need to do same again
Endlessly rinse and repeat and gradually it gets less raw
Sorry to hear you are struggling - hope my explanation makes sense

My mum getting dementia. It was heartbreaking. To me it was worse than my not being able to have children.