NC for obvious outing reasons. Sorry it's a bit long but full story ...
Big birthday coming up this year think 50 and the only thing I really wanted as a present was to go away with DH and our young adult children. Not a big, extravagant trip as a) we don't have the spare cash and b) we are all working at various jobs and c) we have already had a summer holiday this year. Also, the month of my birthday is stuffed full of other commitments (other family birthdays, a wedding, work, things going on for the YA dc). So I decided on a 4 day trip to Europe to a city I've never been to before, not too far away. But it has taken me a long, long time to make a decision on a destination and the dates when we can all squeeze it in. So I'm really glad I've finally decided.
Today DH went out with one of his best friends for lunch. When he came back he told me that he'd told his friend about our plans for my birthday and his friend had reacted in a really "meh" way. He said he gave him the impression it was a bit boring/pants/nothing to get excited about.
Bear in mind this friend gets a lot of free and very low cost trips away because his DW is a travel journalist and so they go away about 4 times a year on long weekends funded by her work. They are older and go without their dc and dgc. She earns a lot otherwise (he is retired and barely earns anything) and also pays for their longer family holidays.
So who is being unreasonable here? DH's friend for being lukewarm about our plans, DH for telling me about his friend's reaction, or me for being fucked off about it? I just DON'T understand why DH chose to tell me this when he knows it's taken me about 6 months to come up with a workable solution.
Or am I BU for giving a toss?
Thanks for reading for all that. I genuinely don't know if I'm being a bit of a twit.