To have ‘defaced’ this photograph??

[Boobsakimboo]

We have lockers at work, in our break room where everyone goes and one co-worker,
Jim, has a photo of a famous, topless page 3 girl on the inside of his door.
the girl in the photo was 16 when it was taken, and he’s had it since around the same age - he wrote into The Sun and got a signed one sent- so it’s very precious to him.

several women have mentioned to Jim that they’d rather he didn’t have it there as the locker door is often left open and we can see it. Jim thinks we’re prudes, because it’s famous page 3 girls, and IN his locker it’s not an issue.

Anyway, cut to last week. I was alone in break room. Locker door was open so I’m looking at this picture. There were Sharpie pens sitting on the table. So I gave the child in the photo quite a substantial bikini top with the permanent marker.

shit has hit the fan! Management don’t quite know what to do. Jim is furious, and the workforce divided into those who think it’s funny and those who think it was wrong.
no-one know who did it… Jim
his suspicions …

So MN, was AIBU??

How dare you destroy the nice man's child exploitation image. You hysterical feminist! Won't anyone think of the men and their wank fodder.

You still destroyed it

It's interesting that the OP says both shit has hit the fan! Management don’t quite know what to do and Anyway, photo gone. No consequences for anyone.

Oh yes the poor 48 year old man with his treasured sexually explicit picture of a child. Poor guy.

‘What a nasty bitch.’
ouch. So which are you, one of those men who calls a woman bitch anytime she doesn’t anything he doesn’t like or worse, a woman who should know better?

Yeah, a nasty bitch destroying an old mans kiddie porn.

What in the actual fucking fuck is wrong with you?

Good for you!!

Your colleague should not have brought this in the workplace in the first place.

The locker belongs to the company and is in a shared work space, it is not his personal space to use as he wishes.

He was warned that the picture was causing offence and for good reasons and his immediate reaction was to use the misogynist defence that other people are ''prudes'' for complaining.

I do also think management should have pre-empted this and told him to remove the image as soon as concerns were raised so it is their fault for failing to act. It is bizarre that in this day and age managers would take the risk to condone this...

You did what you did because the people in charge fail to take action and you are perfectly right not to accept any pictures like this in your workplace.

I would say the same if it was a woman bringing pics of a half naked Harry Styles or a gay man bringing in pics of men wearing very little by the way. The workplace is not an environment where you display this type of material.

I remember when I was a student in the 1990s working part-time in a big London hotel and a male staff member had pinned in the staff room a cartoon of a couple having sex which I thought was totally inappropriate. One of the female employees also confided in me that that guy had once pointed at the cartoon and said he would like to do the same thing to her...I am sure if confronted that pig would have said he was only ''joking'' and that people should not be prudes. I also worked part-time for a small organisation where the CEO, a gay man, left magazines on his desk opened at the page where male escorts were advertising. A staff member lodged a complaint against him because of it and he was gone soon after.

The point is people should leave their fantasies/sexual imagery out of the workplace....

And they would both be the same age now and she’s probably famous for it

Why be offensive to the OP?
Is it because she's an outspoken woman?

@Samarie123 Things we're NOT different 'back then'. Child pornography was ALWAYS child pornography. You sound a bit thick.

This.
Having a pin up of a topless under- eighteen year old up in the workplace ? I am astonished anyone thinks this is fine. Having an adult woman’s topless image, (or a man with his penis on show) is surely not ok wherever you work ?

''@easylisten
MN is increasing being flooded with first world problems!''

The objectification of women, misogyny and the over-sexualisation of teenage girls are not ''first world problems''.

They are serious concerns for any decent society who wants women to feel respected and safe in the workplace and in life in general.

was it classed as child porn back then? It’s a pair of tits ffs. We all have them.

@Samarie123 that is not an excuse for anything. How bloody ridiculous. It was still wrong back then.

Of age! What sort of terminology is that? I suppose you would think it appropriate if you had a daughter ‘of age’ who shared topless pictures of herself or dated a Jim?
In England a child is defined as anyone who has not reached their 18th birthday, so the picture is of a child. There’s only one person that sounds silly @WaitingForWinter1 and it’s the person claiming a 16 yr old isn’t still a child.

I presume @Samarie123 is just being contrary as opposed to a supporter of indecent child images as a bit weird to be so angry at the OP.

@Samarie123 yes and things are different now! The OP didn't do this back in the 80s or whenever making and owning sexually explicit images of children was just fine she did it in 2022 when it is very much NOT OK. Because he refused to take it home or keep it out of view, because he obviously got some sort of titillation out of making women uncomfortable. At work. And management did nothing.

I’m totally appalled at people on this thread thinking it’s ok and trying to justify it. Are you just being contrary for and argumentative because you want a good only me fight? Something gone wrong with your Sunday?

*online fight!

how can you compare a pair of tits with a penis. A penis is a sexual reproductive organ! Are people seeing breasts as sexual? Weird

You don’t think Jim is seeing those ‘tits ’ as sexual?😳

It’s a pair of tits ffs. We all have them.

most men have dicks, doesn't mean it's ok for me to have one as a screen saver at work.

This.