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Working out in back garden - neighbours complaining.

296 replies

LuciferKitty · 12/08/2022 12:33

I had a baby a few months ago and trying to shift the baby weight which I have gained.

The last few mornings around 10:30am I have been going into our back garden to do a workout on apple fitness+. I have been wearing my headphones as quite frankly my neighbours don't need to hear the cheesy "come on, push it harder" motivation chat from the fitness instructor.

This morning after my workout (I do HIIT - 20 minutes), the neighbour next door came to the door and asked if I could work out inside as they are trying to relax in their back garden in peace and watch their fish. I was a bit taken aback. My DH heard this and came to the door and politely said that I'm not making lots of noise, it's day light and we are entitled to work out in our garden. He pointed out what will they think when our daughter is older and playing in the garden? The neighbour responded "that's different" Hmm and apparently my panting noises are a bit "erotic sounding". At this point we said to the neighbour that again, I'm not making excessive noise and that I'm simply working out. His response? "Well join a gym then"

I'm actually really annoyed. We have CCTV outside the property so I checked to hear how loud I am when working out and honestly hardly any noise, mostly just heavy breathing which the camera struggled to pick up. It's not like I'm making noises like Monica from friends when she gets her massage.

I also have a gym in the garage so why would I join a gym? We live in a detached house so no risk of noise to adjoining walls etc. there's not that much floor space to do the workouts inside the garage. Before baby I didn't do the HIIT.

The reason for me working out in the back garden is my DH is working from home and my baby is napping so I don't want to be creating noise inside to wake up baby or disturb DH working. If baby wakes up the monitor pings a notification to my phone so I will know if she is awake and will stop workout to tend to baby.

Neighbour only moved in about 6 months ago and never had any issues since.

Who is BU? Me or the neighbour?

OP posts:
InFiveMins · 12/08/2022 18:19

They are batshit.

In future, completely ignore them and just crack on as normal.

Luxa · 12/08/2022 18:22

What a weirdo neighbour!

puddingandsun · 12/08/2022 18:38

Omg, to save and buy a detached house to then not be allowed to exercise in your own garden for 20 mins! Beyond selfish of them.

sunglassesonthetable · 12/08/2022 19:02

I'm very childish but this has had me weak.

OP huffing and puffing at her HIT workout. Other side of the fence old aquatic features getting all steamy under the collar. Carry On Fishpond.

And I can't even read the words 'erotic noises' without snorting with laughter.

You'll be laughing about this forever OP.

But take no notice of the NDNs for GS. 🙄
Plums.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 12/08/2022 19:08

it seems op and her DH have collectively said No to the neighbours
good

StoneofDestiny · 12/08/2022 19:11

Are your neighbours Wee Frees by any chance?

MrsLargeEmbodied · 12/08/2022 19:13

yes, i agree, that they can probably see you, and it is not the noise, that is just their spurious excuse.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 12/08/2022 19:15

and given you live so far north, i expect rain will stop play pretty soon

LuciferKitty · 12/08/2022 19:20

StoneofDestiny · 12/08/2022 19:11

Are your neighbours Wee Frees by any chance?

No clue. I honestly only know their first names. Couldn't really tell you anything else about them.

OP posts:
ClarksonHammondMay · 12/08/2022 19:20

The neighbourly is BU.
That being said, I’m one of those people easily irritated by the bodily happenstances of others - people chewing, sniffing, breathing through snot etc, so if he is like me, I understand his irritation.
But to come and ask you to stop a 20 minute workout when you’ve even gone the effort of wearing earphones? That’s just wanky.

WhereYouLeftIt · 12/08/2022 20:13

StoneofDestiny · 12/08/2022 19:11

Are your neighbours Wee Frees by any chance?

I doubt Wee Frees would allow themselves the pleasure of watching their fish. Pleasure, of any sort, is to be frowned upon!

Wiccan · 12/08/2022 20:37

Madamecastafiore · 12/08/2022 17:27

Put a pornographic movie on through speakers in the garden and go out for the afternoon.

Problem solved he will have wanked himself to death before you get home
🤣🤣🤣🤣

EL8888 · 12/08/2022 20:38

As an aside who tells their neighbours what they are allowed to do in their own garden? It’s impressively controlling and entitled. I have literally never told a neighbour what they can or can’t do in their garden.

dawngreen · 12/08/2022 20:59

Every time I go on the internet I see a news story about some one off this site lol. Guess its a erotic tale the next one.

Ladyof2022 · 13/08/2022 18:01

You are definitely NOT B.U. They are being ridiculous and entitled!

I know you are miffed but honestly, just try to laugh it off.

Many of us on here would pant even louder next time and even let out the off "OH YES!!!" as well.

Some of us might even knock on their door of an evening and tell them to keep the noise down, because we can hear the tapping of cutlery on their dinner plates.

Madamum18 · 13/08/2022 18:01

They are being ridiculous

Ladyof2022 · 13/08/2022 18:01

Sorry that should have been the ODD "Oh yes" (not off)

SmudgeButt · 13/08/2022 18:05

Put on the annoying "push it faster" motivator on and use big mega speakers so the whole neighbourhood can join in.

Mildmanneredmum · 13/08/2022 18:10

Well, all I can say is the last time I did yoga it wasn't the sound of the breathing that would have caused any noise......

Bibbetyboo · 13/08/2022 18:10

Oh they can fuck right off. It’s hard enough to find time and motivation to do exercise with a little one so good on you. You are being perfectly reasonable and you are entitled to use your garden as they are. Don’t change anything and try not to think about it as you feel the burn.

If just being out of breath sounds like sexy times to them, they probably need a bit more exercise themselves.

fatchilli123 · 13/08/2022 18:18

I reckon you need loud music to dance to on the patio with friends . Can you find a few more new mums who would enjoy exercising round in your garden ☺️ please

LaurieFairyCake · 13/08/2022 18:23

I would literally say "oh do fuck off"

HarryBlaster · 13/08/2022 18:24

Maybe not use the headphones so it drowns out your erotic noises 😂 seriously though , they are being massively unreasonable and I would be furious.

Bodynegative · 13/08/2022 18:26

You're seriously not being unreasonable. Ignore them

Diva66 · 13/08/2022 18:34

I can heartily recommend the marine aquarium in MacDuff for peaceful relaxing fish watching.