Not to wear a bra at home with teenage sons?

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PerfectRun · 11/08/2022 16:47

A genuine question. I don't know if I'm doing what everyone does or scarring them for life!

There me and two teen sons at home. In my own upbringing, I never saw my mother downstairs without being fully dressed, she would never have dreamt of having breakfast in her dressing gown, or watching TV in PJs, for example.

In the hot weather, my standard outfit at home is shorts and a loose t-shirt with no bra. My lounge wear in the evenings is light PJ trousers and a stretch cotton cami.

If it makes a difference, I'm mid 50s, slimish and not big boobed.

They haven't said anything, but then I don't suppose they would.

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SandraTeaspoon · 11/08/2022 23:59

Draughtycatflapreturns · 11/08/2022 16:58

Mines tied round my head with a packet of frozen peas in the cups.

🤣🤣

Arucanafeather · 12/08/2022 00:02

Maireas · 11/08/2022 17:18

I don't think mine looked in my general direction during his teenage years.
He'd be hard pushed to describe what I'm wearing even now.

😂

Rosecottage888 · 12/08/2022 00:06

DS1 was 15 when DS2 was born. He would regularly come downstairs to find baby attached to one and pump attached to the other. Only thing he ever said was Jesus mum how long will this go on for 🤣

MooFroo · 12/08/2022 00:10

I wear soft bras at home - not underwires and so comfy

TheOrigRights · 12/08/2022 00:22

I often go bra less and my sons (23 and 13) and never said a thing. I'm pretty sure they don't think anything of it - I'm just their Mum.

MrsDragonLady · 12/08/2022 02:14

I have 4 sons. I don't wear bra's unless I'm going to work. I have huge boobs. I also have my nipples pierced.
Can you see my nipples? Yup, most likely.
Do I care? Not one bit!
Breasts. Are. Not. Genitals.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 12/08/2022 08:21

AlmostAJillSandwich · 11/08/2022 22:17

Honestly it comes down to personal preference/feelings. Not wearing a bra makes me feel completely exposed and i hate it, even in a room by myself/wearing several layers like t-shirt and jumper. As such the only time i don't have one on is when showering.

As for other women braless in public, to me it looks/feels very sleazy, and something very obvious that men in particular are going to notice/ogle at. It just feels much more conservative and respectable to cover up. You wouldn't walk round with it obvious you've got no knickers on, so why do so without a bra on.

As for your teen boys, it could be very awkward for them with you being their mum. They're obviously aware you have breasts, and nipples are much more prominent without a bra on. They can't help but notice it im sure, and it may be too embarrassing for them to bring it up to you. I HATE when my dad walks round in just his underwear, it just feels obscene, i certainly wouldn't walk around in just my underwear around him! I've brought it up so many times but he just lives in his underwear only once home, and seemingly he doesn't care how uncomfortable it makes me.

This level of internalised misogyny is really sad and disturbing.

PolishingCandles · 12/08/2022 08:31

My bra is like a blokes best suit, it only comes out for weddings, christenings and funerals.
Large double cup and I don't care what anyone thinks about it, including my adult sons.
They grew up seeing my tits hanging around, including uncovered and never batted an eyelid.
They're just another appendage, like my arms and legs as far as I'm concerned.

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