Not to wear a bra at home with teenage sons?

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A genuine question. I don't know if I'm doing what everyone does or scarring them for life!

There me and two teen sons at home. In my own upbringing, I never saw my mother downstairs without being fully dressed, she would never have dreamt of having breakfast in her dressing gown, or watching TV in PJs, for example.

In the hot weather, my standard outfit at home is shorts and a loose t-shirt with no bra. My lounge wear in the evenings is light PJ trousers and a stretch cotton cami.

If it makes a difference, I'm mid 50s, slimish and not big boobed.

They haven't said anything, but then I don't suppose they would.

What are your feelings about breastfeeding in public?
My bra comes off after work every evening, and no one bats an eyelid, but we're the kind of family that changes with the door open and don't shut the bathroom door unless we're going for a number 2!

YANBU.

Crack on.

It's your home and thinking your sons might take offense or see something sexual in their mother's boobs is really off.

First thing I do after work is undo my bra and remove it via sleeves, fling it in my room then say hello. FREE THE BOOBS! If you’re worried about nip slip, get some of those sticky daisies.

Bras are entirely optional at any time.

The only places I wear a bralette (never wear bras, way too uncomfortable) are work or an evening out. Walking the dogs, going to the shops etc I don't. At 47 I couldn't care less if it looks different and people know I'm not wearing one. I certainly wouldn't put one on for the sake of my teenager, I really don't think he notices or cares.

It's v clear when one does and doesn't have it on...

Very true. That’s why I don’t wear one if the cut of the top or dress means the straps show.

Ok, so I'm all for wearing what you want. As a woman, it's no big deal seeing nipples or boob outline (although for me, I would wear something where it's not so obvious that I'm bra less🤷🏼‍♀️)

But

How would you expect your son to broach this if he's uncomfortable? It's super embarrassing. He's not going to want to talk about him mum or sisters nipples

As long as your boobie isn't floating in their cornflakes in the morning, I doubt they'll care.

Even if your small busted?

I'm conflicted here because I have a really tiny chest bordering flat so for me I can't relate to having huge boobs!

I also agree though for people with big boobs you should be able to take your bra off in your own home other wise your making an issue and sheltering your kids.... over what? Because mum was braless?

I thing perhaps if you are really big boobed you need to wear a decent top though!

I don't always wear a bra out of the house!

You’re their mum. They’re probably completely oblivious to the fact that you have boobs in the first place.

And?

I rarely wear bra. I wear clothes, so my boobs are covered, but I don't care if people can tell I don't have a bra on.

I don't find that this is the case at all. Maybe you are wearing the incorrect size?

If I went missing I doubt my two teenage boys would even be able to give an accurate description of me to the police, let alone know if I was wearing a bra.
Go for it. They don't care, and if they do just remind them we have to live with their stinky feet and rank armpits!

Why does that matter?

So what?!

I mean, we may or may not live in a naked house but I can't imagine my sons having any sort of opinions on my breasts?!

I'm going to stay with friends next week. There will be some teenage boys and some husbands around. When we're home in the evening I'll be in my pyjamas after having a shower when we're home from the beach. I will be very surprised if any of them are shocked that my boobs are a different shape under my top because of my underwear choice.

Doesn't bother my son at 19. One's a reconstruction anyway, and the other will be done soon as well.

My sons know if no one is here and it's just us the bra is off... they honestly don't care 🤷🏼‍♀️

We all wander about naked when we feel like it, currently all watching tv in our pants. It isn’t a sexual thing and our kids could not be less interested in their parents bodies.

Same here! And yes I've asked my eldest and his words were
" why not!? If I have a shower and walk around in my pants I don't want my family commenting on it" 😀

It's v clear when one does and doesn't have it on...

I think it's a lot more problematic to be appraising people's bodies in enough detail to establish what kind of underwear they are wearing underneath their clothes, than for someone to wear/not wear a particular style of underwear. In fact I would say looking at people like that is creepy.

If a woman is wearing a shirt, why the fuck does it matter if she's wearing a balcony bra, a crop top, a t-shirt bra, a vest, a wonderbra, or nothing underneath? Do you have x-ray vision to be offended by what's underneath her clothes?

I do not get the thought process.

I don't think that highly sexualised clothing would be appropriate around teenaged sons (I don't subscribe to the current "no clothes are inherently sexual" bullshit that seems to be trendy atm). But casual, comfortable clothes, worn without a bra, are completely fine.

My mother used to sunbathe topless with teenage sons at home... & their friends. 1970s. The neighbour boys loved to peeping tom.

One of my teen boys has no filter & babbled on a bit about me being braless once. He wasn't uncomfortable with it, only me felt weird! I hate going without a bra, anyway.

What???? I don't think they will even notice. It is just a body in unremarkable clothes.

Surely wearing a wonderbra and low cut top would be more noticeable. Which loads of people used to wear all the time in front of their unscarred children.