To give £50 as wedding gift

[LittleMermaidRose]

I'm going to be a bridesmaid for my friend in a month.
Just for context, she has paid for our dresses, hair and make up. We've to buy our shoes and bag.
She has spent quite a lot on the wedding in general with the help of her and her fiancé's parents. My partner will be attending also.

I wanted to know if people thought £50 cash would be enough to give as a wedding present?
I would absolutely love to be able to give more but atm money is just so tight. I'm working an extra job just to try to make a little bit more money but that money doesn't really go very far!

I know that she wouldn't want me to stress over something like this but I can't help but feel terrible if that's all I can afford, when I feel like she deserves so much more.

I feel obligated to give her a lot more as she has spent lots of money on me. I have contributed to two hen nights as well which were quite expensive (for me)

I'm just feeling pretty bad about it, I'd love to have your opinions on this x

No, you should always give what you can afford. The wedding invite should be freely given because the bride and groom want you there on their big day, not at the expectation of getting a certain monetary value back

That's perfect, we've sometimes given less if it's all we can manage.

Good thing the OP didn't buy her dress then isn't is

No it isn't.

It’s o my on here I see people say that £50 is tight. We got between nothing and several hundred pounds in individual gifts and the ones that have nothing we didn’t get offended we were just delighted people cared enough to travel and come to our wedding.
many best friend who was a bridesmaid have us £50 she’d gone and got a £50 note from the bank and put it in a beautiful card. It was lovely and felt like a huge amount.

@Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious

Yes. It damn well is

Average in the U.K. is £100

If money is tight then don't worry about the £50, a thoughtful small present will mean more than cash.
Honestly just do what you can afford

@Itloggedmeoutagain
All dipends on the person I suppose I love those candles and are worth it to me but maybe not to others. You could spend money on something that I thought was crazy but it's all relative

Yes of course

@PastaCheese
Just because that's the average doesn't mean it's required. I doubt any couple would be happy if they knew people were giving them more than they could afford

@PastaCheese I don't believe that for one moment, loads of people can't afford £100 on a wedding gift.

Average in the U.K. is £100

Says who?

I honestly think £50 is the norm

Ignore @PastaCheese . You give what you can afford and any friend worth having will love you whatever. No decent person would want a friend to be scrimping and saving in order to meet some arbitrary value of gift.

Tight is when you have the money but won't part with it. OP doesn't have £50 to spare so she's actually being very generous.

I think spending £50 is absolutely fine. Not on the high street has some lovely personalised gifts. In the past I have got gifts from there (most recently a map print of the wedding destination with wedding date on it) when I have needed to spend a little less than I might want to. Or a voucher for an afternoon tea or similar might be another option?

No it damn well isn't. People shouldn't invite guests just to hope they get big cash gifts. You should invite them because you want them there and any gift, is a bonus.

One of my friends got us a £50.00 M and S gift card which she wrapped up in some Pervy Pig tea towels and two Pervy pig mugs. It was one of our best presents, we love a gift voucher 😂😂

£50 Is too much, it would be a lovely and generous amount for a close family member but even for a close friend it's a lot. Agree with a PP that perhaps £30 Or a nice gift to commemorate the day would be more appropriate.

Firstly Pervy pigs! 😁😁

We are going to one of DH's best friend's wedding on Sat and we are giving £75 voucher for a lovely local hotel. In the past I've given anything between £25-75, never more. I can afford more by the way but frankly I don't understand why I would give more than that, I certainly didn't expect anything financially on our wedding day. When you get married and invite people you want them there to celebrate your day, not give you money! It will often cost them money to attend (travel, new clothes, hotel etc) and I just felt grateful they came. Other than my FIL (who gave us a very generous gift) I don't have a clue what people gave us but I do have lovely memories of them on the day.

@maddiemookins16mum Pervy pig has just had me howling

OP, myself and DP recently attended a wedding and we gave £50 as a present. I think it's a perfectly reasonable amount

I think it's absolutely fine. Maybe you could give a small token gift as well, I loved some of the small gifts we got for our wedding.

My bridesmaid gave me a photo book of pics which was so unexpected and lovely- as many were pics of us, along with myself and DH that I didn't have or had never seen! She also gave a gift card.

I give £100 if DH and I attend all day, and £50 for the evening. I thought the old 'rules' were to give back what the couple would have spent on the meal to have you attend. People saying that give £20 when 2 are attending just feels embarrassingly cheap and in that case- I'd give a gift instead.

£50 is fine OP if that is what you can afford, but what about a thoughtful gift instead?

Doe she have kids?
My sister couldnafford a wedding gift for me but offered to have dd for a weekend so dh and l could have a little honeymoon - priceless gift.

But £50 is ample.
I would hate for a good friend to stress over that if it was me.

I think £50 is fine.

I’d give £50 for the day do, if I was a bridesmaid I’d give £100 but if money is tight honestly £50 is fine.

I wouldn’t buy a gift unless there’s a gift list/ something she wants. I’m sure she would rather have the money than multiple personalised gifts.