To wear this to a wedding

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Mumsnet don’t destroy me. I haven’t been to a wedding as an adult -

Am I being unreasonable to wear this dress to a wedding?

I don’t know so am hoping for those who do’s opinion.

please help

I think good for an evening do

It looks a bit tacky to me. The back looks messy as well.

Agree! Especially as it's a small family wedding, you ate going to stand out in not a nice way.

OP the opinions on here are 50/50 I think we all can agree on the fact that you should just ask the bride of the wedding you’re going too

Ahh if only it were that simple 😬

I asked the bride and she said she thought it was beautiful and would wear it and that she is happy for me to wear it

i will have a think about all the comments saying I would be attention seeking ( I didn’t think of it but if the y can do can others)

I will also see what it’s like with covering and a lower split

thank you to all those you offered opinions

it is good to get them

No I don't think it is suitable. It will take attention from the bride.

Oh if the bride likes it and you like it, what the heck!

I still think there's a bit too much skin for a wedding but I am old.

If the bride says go for it, please go for it! The idea of 'upstaging the bride' is so outdated and sexist. By all means don't turn up to the wedding in a long white dress, but exposing a bit of back and leg is no longer seen as inherently sexual or scandalous.

Nobody says to male wedding guests "You can't turn up in a well-cut suit as you'll upstage the groom", but the day is just as much about the groom as it is the bride. Most brides no longer feel the need to be the centre of attention beyond the ritualistic parts of the wedding; weddings are supposed to be a joyous celebration with loved ones, not a 'look at meeeeee'-fest.

I hope you have a fab time dancing the night away in your gorgeous green dress.

Nobody says to male wedding guests "You can't turn up in a well-cut suit as you'll upstage the groom

There was a post recently where someone’s DH was planning on wearing a lavender suit with ruffle shirt (iirc) a la Harry Styles. Posters were indeed saying that.

Most brides - if they’re sensible - will say ‘of course you can wear that, it’s lovely!’. If they say no they run the risk of upsetting or offending their guests, but that doesn’t mean the guests should wear what they like. Time / place.

I don't like the dress at all. Looks like Wembley.

Some awfully misogynistic responses in here - all the ones about it being "tarty".

"Attention-grabby" is also a weird criticism. Wanting other people to notice that you look nice is one of the reasons we wear our favourite clothes, isn't it? Yes, you'd look twice at someone wearing that dress, because it's a gorgeous dress. A million miles between that and aggressively seizing the bride's spotlight.

Someone also said it was more suited to a club which is the most bizarre opinion of all. You couldn't dance in it!

Anyway I think it's beautiful and you should wear it OP.

Someone also said it was more suited to a club which is the most bizarre opinion of all. You couldn't dance in it

Dancing at weddings is a pretty standard thing.

Is it shiny material ? If so the. Yes it's fine . I'd wear a white blazer over it for day time .. I presume you have no boob issues and are slim like the model .. otherwise it's not going to be flattering is it 🤷‍♀️

Wembley?

if the bride is cool with it, go ahead. It’s a great dress. I like the suggestion of a white blazer over the top. Zara often have them. You could ditch the blazer when you hit the dance floor.

Agreed.

Taking attention from the bride is a weird one too. I can't say i was looking around the room at all the female guests making sure no one looked too sexy, how odd

If it's a beach wedding - then fine. Otherwise no.

Such an attention hogging dress.
Get yourself something decent to wear.

The striped turf at the stadium, fairly obviously: I feel certain that if people on here can fall over themselves insisting that 'borrow' and 'lend' can be used interchangeably, then their minds can definitely go to the first thing people usually think of when they hear 'Wembley'.

I think it's too casual for a hotel wedding. Look up pictures of other receptions the hotel have done to get an idea of guests dresses. I'd go and try dresses on and see what you like as obviously you'd buy something you can wear again.

Of course you could do a Carrie Johnson and hire one.

I think it looks like a evening dress, but it is geogous

Not appropriate for a wedding as you'll be taking attention from the bride. You've got too much flesh and bits on show, leg, back and boobs.

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