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To wear this to a wedding

148 replies

Itiswhatitispeople · 09/08/2022 16:19

Mumsnet don’t destroy me. I haven’t been to a wedding as an adult -

Am I being unreasonable to wear this dress to a wedding?

I don’t know so am hoping for those who do’s opinion.

please help

To wear this to a wedding
To wear this to a wedding
OP posts:
DDivaStar · 09/08/2022 18:05

I'm sure you'd look stunning in it but probably a bit too stunning.

Its the combination of silky fabric, figure hugging fit,open back and split. It all just seems too revealing.

Maybe for a wedding at a super stylish beach resort. But in my opinion not for a small traditional UK wedding.

ScreechingEchoChamber · 09/08/2022 18:05

Looks lovely! Agree with a wee wrap or something, maybe a fake fur stole type of thing?

apintortwo · 09/08/2022 18:07

I would try and find something more appropriate TBH. But then, it also depends on the wedding (what the guests are like, etc)

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/08/2022 18:07

Hi Op, here’s the dress I am wearing to a beach wedding this week. www.lulus.com/products/tea-gardens-rusty-rose-floral-print-satin-maxi-dress/470262.html It has a similar back. It’s a little out of my comfort zone, but it’s a destination informal beach wedding. So I’m taking the plunge (pun totally intended). I do have a shawl to wear and god help me I have silicone booby holders and boob tape. So what could go wrong😂🤣 the live pictures in the reviews convinced me to go for it.

To wear this to a wedding
To wear this to a wedding
AuntMargo · 09/08/2022 18:10

Wherever the wedding is, this dress is totally inappropriate, it clearly screams, look at me ! Although suitable for a evening occasion this is certainly not wedding attire.

Bluevelvetsofa · 09/08/2022 18:10

Definitely not a wedding guest dress.

TaureanGemini · 09/08/2022 18:13

AryaStarkWolf · 09/08/2022 17:33

Frankly, you'd be a talking point and an embarrassment to yourself and the happy couple.

You must keep some nasty company

You sound lovely...

OP I think it's lovely and would suit the venue. Can't see how this would cause embarrassment. If you feel comfortable in it then go for it.

purplecorkheart · 09/08/2022 18:16

I think a lot depends on the material. It looks quite cheap in the photos and may do so in the wedding pictures also stitching the slit may make the dress pull and to be honest I don't think it is suitable for a small wedding. I think it will take the focus off the Bride and Groom and not really in a good way.

AtwilightRebellion · 09/08/2022 18:16

I think it totally depends on the destination. An evening wedding in Mykonos definitely. An afternoon wedding in a hotel in the English countryside not so much.

billy1966 · 09/08/2022 18:18

Just back from the marvellous wedding of a dear friends daughter.

The style was absolutely fabulous.

There were several dresses similar to this and variations of it.

The young women all looked wonderful.

I love the colour.

RJnomore1 · 09/08/2022 18:18

You’d think some people had never heard of boob tape 😁

it’s beautiful but I think you need to try it on to see how it looks on you personally. Then you can figure if it’s likely to give great aunt Mary the vapours!

Mouk · 09/08/2022 18:18

I liked it until I spotted the slit.

Too much for a wedding, sorry.

SpeckofDustUponMySoul · 09/08/2022 18:19

I think it shows way too much skin and is attention grabby. HOWEVER, I'm 43 and you are 26, so I'm not sure my opinion is really relevant?
With your proportions, you will definitely not look 'bad' in a dress like this, but I don't think a day time wedding warrants this.
Fab, though, for the evening do.
X

Staggersaurus · 09/08/2022 18:19

Do you not like the bride? Is she marrying your ex?

Onlyaprawninwhitby · 09/08/2022 18:21

I think it's lovely. Whatever you choose make sure you're comfortable so you a have a brilliant time.

DueyCheatemAndHow · 09/08/2022 18:23

Just as a general rule I don't like dresses that do cleavage, leg and back. In fact usually I'd just go for one. I think it's too much just as a dress, forget the occassion.

Jellybean23 · 09/08/2022 18:23

You are going to be noticed a lot in that dress , it'll barely cover your bum. Let the bride be the centre of attention, it's her day.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/08/2022 18:26

RJnomore1 · 09/08/2022 18:18

You’d think some people had never heard of boob tape 😁

it’s beautiful but I think you need to try it on to see how it looks on you personally. Then you can figure if it’s likely to give great aunt Mary the vapours!

Sadly I had been able to ignore the existence of boob tape up until a month ago. I’ve now watched so many YouTube videos of women’s taped boobs I was starting feel like I had some sort of weird fetish.

I will happily go back to denying it’s existence in a week.

CanaryShoulderedThorn · 09/08/2022 18:32

It's fine for a cocktail bar but it's a wedding. It's the brides day, not yours.
Wear something less attention seeking.

NanaNelly · 09/08/2022 18:36

Itiswhatitispeople · 09/08/2022 16:27

Thank you for replying- I’m reading through. Didn’t mean to not give info

i am 26 - 5ft 6/5ft 7in a size 8/10

the wedding is in a hotel - small wedding family friend

not religious. If the split is very high , I will stitch it lower
thanks

Closing the slit a bit seems like a good compromise and a nice shawl to go over your shoulders during the day would be nice as well. Come night time you can ditch the shawl and open up the slit again. Have a great time .

Blueink · 09/08/2022 18:53

The split at the back is a no, otherwise fine

surreygirl1987 · 09/08/2022 18:58

I think it's beautiful. Do wear it!

Everley · 09/08/2022 19:41

Go for it OP, if you feel comfortable in it. It’s a stunning dress.

BreatheAndFocus · 09/08/2022 20:51

It’s a nice dress but it’s not a dress for a wedding guest. If it didn’t have that back and just had the slit it would be a bit borderline but that back and the massive split looks very unsuitable. It’s nothing to do with being prudish. It’s just the wrong dress for the occasion IMO.

PatientlyWaiting21 · 09/08/2022 20:58

Love the dress but it’s not very formal!