To think posting pictures of yourself crying is literally a cry for help?

[JeezooosMaryandJoseph]

I want to make it clear that I am not making light of anyone’s mental health issues - and if that’s how this comes across, I apologise in advance. I also apologise if I don’t know the whole story.

To be honest though, I was a little eye-rolley about that woman that recently married Brooklyn Beckham this week when she posted a picture of herself on Instagram showing she was crying. I feel it’s a bit of a slap in the face to anyone who is living in desperate times (poverty being one of the main reasons).

I’m not saying for a second rich people can’t be upset but positing it on a site that thousands/millions of people can access feels a little bit wrong and self absorbed to me. AIBU?

A young woman at my work took a month off after she failed her driving test ....
I mean FFS, it's a disappointment but move on, nobody has died.

And her manager let her?

Yes we know they do. And they are pathetic

I assume by 'they' you mean the posters on Tattle who deliberately target women on social media or with any kind of public profile? In which case, yy I agree they are pathetic.

For a teacher, your comprehension skills aren't as good as they could be. I didn't say you were mocking pupils. I said you were mocking people - ie the sole subject of this thread was to mock a woman for crying on social media. That attitude towards people showing emotion - doesn't build resilience.

But it's not about 'people' is it? It's about women because when men cry on social media, they're lauded for showing emotion. Women do it and apparently <checks notes> it's attention seeking and pathetic.

Welcome to the new misogyny. Same as the old one. All those uppity women should be burying their emotions, and getting off social media. Until there is a MH crisis and then you can parrot 'oh if only they'd reached out or told people.'

@AlexandriasWindmill in what way is the OP mocking Nicola Peltz? Shes simply pointing out that the post on SM of her crying (which gives no details as to why but conveniently has a smattering intrigue in the midst of an alleged fued with her v v famous MIL) is entirely self serving and completely off the mark to her audience.

I don’t see many men crying on social media, toxic masculinity is still prevalent after all, and I’d say exactly the same if it was Brooklyn Beckham.

I also really despise the notion that any criticism, no matter how constructive, of women means someone is a misogynist and hates all women. That’s so ridiculous and infantilising. We are allowed to call out poor behaviour with one another without being called names.

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet Exactly this. Thank you.

I can’t actually think of a famous man that has posted a selfie of himself crying on Instagram (or a photograph that someone else has taken). However, if certain ones did, I would feel and think exactly the same.
There is no misogyny about it. I would have written the same post if it had been Brooklyn.

@JeezooosMaryandJoseph

I believe Sam Smith did exactly that. He’s a singer. I don’t know the exact situation as I’m not a fan/follower of his but I remember seeing a thread about him on here at the time. And he wasn’t being applauded.

Ah but Sam Smith is non-binary so doesn’t count as a crying man

😂

Okay point taken. If I was more into celebs etc I bet I’d be able to name another one. I don’t know one off the top of my head though!

Definitely, yes from that era.

There was also a real fear of 'mental homes' and being put away still (70s and 80s child) and 'being mad' carried a stigma so people rarely spoke up about it.

I recall at 16 years old when I left school, I spoke to a friend of mine whom I'd been fairly close friends with at school and she confided in me that she'd felt like I did (anxious, insomnia, mood swings (PMT) but hadn't told anyone for fear of being labelled mad. This was in late 1980s. If you did get upset too much as a teenager, it was 'emotional/hysteria' and you were encouraged to shut up or talk it through, but puberty hormones weren't really understood for boys and girls. I do think it's swung the other way now as it almost seems like a bad of honour to be anxious, on anti anxiety medication, self harming etc - I did take medication briefly but luckily, like I said, my DM got me off them, I did have counselling through the doctor (fat lot of good that did me as I was doing talking therapy at someone, which just made me feel worse!). I really wish the doctors/health authority/school would've realised back in 80s (and before) about PMT/puberty, hormones and the effects it had on us, as I know I wasn't the only girl affected by this!

Remember the “stoppit” nurse? 😂😂

God yes, I remember her. How fucking embarrassing.

Sam smith was having a cry about being in lockdown in a multi million pound london home …. No self awareness whatsoever

Yes and remember the celebrities who clubbed together during COVID to sing ‘Imagine’, a song about poverty, war and famine, in their Hollywood mansions because they wanted to express how hard it was to be stuck in their Beverley Hills 16 bed abodes?

I’d forgotten that! For some people, a garden would have been nice… never mind a swimming pool, gym, hot tub and a bloody kitchen island (my personal favourite although it’s probably not that relevant) .

What’s the stoppit nurse?

The drama queen who recorded herself sobbing in her car because she couldn’t get the stuff she wanted from shops (due to the panic buying)

I e just giggled the Stoppit nurse.

Embarrassing indeed.

And arrogant it think every else should stop buying fruit and veg because you’ll be nipping to the shops soon. Whose to say there wasn’t important people buying stuff before her?

Mind you, people did lose the run of themselves in first lockdown. The MN poster who suggested putting cheese in coffee to avoid going to the shops for milk 🤣🤣

‘Pparently was because she has had a falling out with her new mother in law over an expensive frock 🙄

JFC, I’m sure the trafficked sex slaves in Moldova’s hearts are bleeding.

Ey up - I have found the Holy Grail that is a crying man on social media!

He is making his staff redundancies about himself

This trend does seem to attract a certain type of narcissist

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/ceo-linkedin-layoffs-crying-selfie-b2142626.html?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR1H4AJTPiTmY81eAJDMe36WjRy90Q97ss4MpPaU52tYvX1LuOIZaKIsUHE#Echobox=1660160366

That CEO also seems to be subtly and PA blaming his employees for his choice to make them redundant. Dick

Me too! At what point when they're crying do they dig out their phone, open their camera and take a picture? Such a bizarre thing to do. If a celebrity wants to show their followers that they can be vulnerable, surely they can just talk about being upset by xyz? Does the crying photo prove it? I can't even believe this is a thing.