Neighbour obsessed with what time I get up

[Mississipi71]

I overheard my neighbour talking about what time I get up in the day. I have no blinds in my bedroom, just curtains, so she can presume see what time I wake up. I even heard her saying "it is 11.30 am now, what time did she get up 11.15?" I don't go into deep sleeps (side effects of anxiety meds) so I never really feel I have had a full night's sleep. I am early retired, with no kids so what time I get up is down to me. I just read in bed, dont play music or watch tv, until I finally drift off. She also has no idea whether I have reasons for sleeping patterns and I don't need to justify anything to her. Anybody else have CF neighbours like this?

I’m mystified by the poster who has never seen through a neighbour’s window before, they’re literally made of glass Do you walk up the street with your eyes closed?!

I used to know when my upstairs neighbour got back from the pub every night because I could hear him go up the stairs and have a piss above my bedroom. I used to laugh with my housemate about it because you could set your watch by it but wouldn’t be making comments to other neighbours!

A decade or so ago, I went to see my dad one morning and he was doing the hoovering. It was about 9:30am, and mum was still in bed.

He started his usual grumble about mum being lazy, and I asked him why he was so bothered about the time that mum got up. I pointed out that he and mum were both retired. That mum got up early if she needed to for an appointment. I also pointed out that she went to bed later than he did, and often did stuff like loading the dishwasher, etc late at night, so ultimately she wasn't in bed any longer than he was. There was more I said, but this was the bare bones of it. I

I never heard another grumble from dad about mum getting up again.

Thank you, that is very kind x

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We look out for our neighbour who lives about 6 doors down and on the opposite side of the road. We do her shopping, bits round the house, order stuff off the internet etc. She is elderly and during the pandemic she was shielding.
Every night when I go to bed I look out my window to check her blinds are shut, and when I get up in the morning I check they're open so I know she's ok. In all the time I have done that I've never noticed what any of the other neighbours have done with their curtains!

You overheard one comment.That isn't being obsessed by you, it's not even close.Get over yourself!

You are all lovely and I am sorry I cant individually reply but I have read all of your responses and I appreciate them x it is not surprising I am not alone in this. What is making my sleeping pattern worse, aside from side effects of anti depressants, is being perimenopausal. You ladies know how it can affect your sleep. You are all so right I dont need to justify myself. ♥ love all of your suggestions x

If you had RTFT, you would know it wasn't just one comment.

Looking into someone’s window takes a huge amount of effort, it’s complete different to someone walking past your house.

It doesn't take a lot of effort at all to inadvertently look in.

There's a window I can see from mine. The angle of the windows means I can see in when I'm working at my desk. Sometimes the occupants walk into that room and into my peripheral vision. Sometimes I react and inadvertently glance across before I catch myself and get back to my work. It doesn't help that my gate is in the same direction, and I'm often waiting for the postie.

I used to get that from a neighbour who has now moved. It made me really uncomfortable and I felt very judged. I have sleep issues and I'm often still awake well into the early hours and so often sleep late. We live in a society where it seems that the later you get up the more lazy you are assumed to be. I was so glad when they moved because I feel much more comfortable with my odd sleeping habits now.

OP you have my sympathy. My brother in law is obsessed with what time I get up and it’s SO ANNOYING. I am a writer, I work for myself so keep my own hours, and have no children. It’s absolutely nothing to do with him but he has to pass comment on it all the time. I don’t understand why early risers act like they’re better than everyone else. There’s nothing inherently virtuous about it. Just ignore her, nosy cow

How on earth does he know what time you get up? Stop telling him 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have neighbours like this- semi retired and nosey. You can ignore but the passive aggressive comments will start to come as she walks past your property. Nip it in the bud now

Sad person

I am glad somebody else thinks this is passive aggressive behaviour.

I slept through until two on Sunday, I didn't want to but it happened. I hadn't been out but I hadn't been sleeping well for a month. So glory be I'm happy it happened. I must admit that when I do rise early 7 or 8 in the morning, I do enjoy the amount of time i have..

I read this out loud to my DC in the garden so the nosy neighbours next door can hear. Perfect that book is 😀

Staunch Momma like your neighbour with the cleaning rag my aunt had a neighbour who would always appear with a watering can or her secateurs if anything was going on.

She even did it when the hearse with my uncle's coffin pulled up. My cousin's husband who is about 6 foot 6 and built like a tank went over and "had a word".

Had a word with someone for being in their own garden?

He'd have had those secateurs rammed somewhere painful if he'd approached me.

She would love me, weekends, i dont rise before noon unless we have plans to do something.
No plans? No need for my ass to be out of bed

Presumably the neighbour is old. I think the moral virtue in 'early to bed, early to rise' is an old lady thing. But I'd hate to think someone was monitoring my movements.....

MIL is always commenting on whether the people opposite open their curtains and blinds (they often leave the blinds, maybe for the sun) and judging them for it. She also clearly discusses their habits with all the other old dears down the street. She's not really a bad MIL but I would hate to be her neighbour!

DC's friend's granny also moans about how the people who live opposite often aren't up by 8 am! Neighbours can be grim!

Ooh I love this thread. Almost shamed me into realising I have no such thing as a routine.
Almost.

I had this years ago with a neighbour I used to open the curtains before I went to sleep just to confuse him My bedroom here gets sun from it rises so curtains shut all day Keeps them guessing !

I think its a bit of a generational thing and sure older generations used to look out for neighbours. My grandmother was a widow and her neighbours always used to call by and see if she was OK if she hadn't drawn her curtains by a certain time!