Neighbour obsessed with what time I get up

[Mississipi71]

I overheard my neighbour talking about what time I get up in the day. I have no blinds in my bedroom, just curtains, so she can presume see what time I wake up. I even heard her saying "it is 11.30 am now, what time did she get up 11.15?" I don't go into deep sleeps (side effects of anxiety meds) so I never really feel I have had a full night's sleep. I am early retired, with no kids so what time I get up is down to me. I just read in bed, dont play music or watch tv, until I finally drift off. She also has no idea whether I have reasons for sleeping patterns and I don't need to justify anything to her. Anybody else have CF neighbours like this?

why do you even care what she says or thinks about your routine?

I despise nosy people. Unfortunately, I have one very nosy neighbour who openly admits to being ‘fascinated’ by me as she can’t figure out my routine, and sees that I have a lot of visitors. (I’m a popular, friendly person, I have friends visit, family members and also a number of ehh, gentlemen callers). She even commented once that a large shrub in my garden obstructed her view of my living room window!

I'd comment. 'Blimey, no one's going to Rob us on your watch, are they, Brenda?'

Or suggest a hobby. 'Maybe you ought to join book club/get an allotment, Brenda, give you something to do. Things you notice, you must be always at that window.'

Don't put the full lights on much, no. I get migraines from too much light (either electric or sunlight) so tend to just have candles/ lamps/ down lights at home. Feels so much calmer, and helps to keep us in a more natural circadian rhythm, with dark at night and light in day, and also more rest in winter and more activity in the summer. I like that it mirrors nature, if I want some light I go sit in the garden.

I'd be tempted to flick my lights off & on and flap my curtains and open the window and shout "Yoo-hoo, Mary!!! Since I know you're so interested, I just wanted to let you know I'm getting up now!"

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I have had an identical experience, but with me it was a clique of 3 spiteful SAHMs.

I'd been longing to retire so that I didn't have to get up at 6am anymore, and could lie in bed for as long as I wanted. Then my neighbour and her mates started "pulling my leg" about what time my curtains were opened. It was horrible. In the end I left them the curtains all day.

One of them also commented about the fact that she'd "noticed that my garage light was often on in the evenings, and wondered why " It was because of the fact that we have a freezer and a tumbler drier in there. What on earth did it have to do with her?

Thank goodness that all three of them have moved away, and I've hopefully no longer got people spying on me.

I'm not sure about this neighbour just being 'bored' or ' having too much time on their hands.
Some people have made this choice -- they have decided they are entitled to investigate, comment on and judge a neighbour's way of life. And it won't be just one of their neighbours, either.
We had one like this who would make comments on just about everyone in the vicinity (including us, I'm sure). I used to give her lifts from time to time and she would be saying things about " 'Er at number 47" as she was actually getting into the car. Never mind that i didn't know 'Er at number 47 from Adam and really did not want to listen anyway.
She was a difficult women who seemed to relish bitching about other people and I'm sure she badmouthed my DH and I too, despite him doing lots and lots of favours for her. (Changing lightbulbs, fixing dripping taps, ejecting spiders, burying her dead dogs)
It was what she did. Constantly. I kept my distance on the whole but I was annoyed on my husband's behalf.

I am with you , why on earth would anyone suspect you of committing a crime by looking out of your own window?
Fortunately my neighbours dont walk around naked but I can see straight into the bedrooms of the houses behind me and the kitchens of the flats in front of me so if I am in my kitchen washing the pots or working from my desk I naturally look out of my window so if they are walking around naked I would see them.
Yes people are quite entitled to walk around their house in the buff but they must realise people may glance at them and see them .
There must be situations were people live on busy roads with bus's passing so 100s of people throughout the day could see into any room of the house

I would say something to her face but that's just me. Nosy cow

The curtains on the front stay closed due to the front being in sun all morning. Also, my Dh does shifts so they’re closed at odd times, even in winter. When I was ill, the neighbour asked my Dh what was wrong!

One retired neighbour told my Dh he knows if he’s walking the dogs as the car turns right, but if it turns left, he’s going to work. His flat faces out so he sees pretty much everything.

I can’t wait to move in a few years, first requirement is no neighbours!

I'm not sure if it's worth being bothered by this. She sounds nosy but you admit to talking about her to other neighbours so it sounds like it's just a gossipy place. Maybe she is just doing it because she's twigged it annoys you. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@ilyx You are joking right ? Looking into someone’s window takes a huge amount of effort, it’s complete different to someone walking past your house. It’s not normal and it’s a gross invasion of privacy, do you lack boundaries in other areas of your life?

I am sat on my sofa that faces the chimney breast , I turn my head slightly to the left and I can see into at leapt 2 bedrooms , and turn my head to the right I can see into a kitchen and living room , if I lean forward a little I could bee into at least 2 more rooms . = sod all effort !

@Mississipi71 You could try posting word puzzle books or jigsaws ( with at least one bit missing ) through her letter box with a large note on it saying stare at this instead of me you nosy old bat.
Then get in touch with everyone that you know that owns a photocopier and ask them to copy their hands with two fingers up or if they / you are brave enough other ummmm body parts, make a collage and stick them up on a wall that can be seen from the window she looks through and loudly say how much you love modem art 😀

Who cares? And hearing one throwaway comment on your sleep doesn't make her 'obsessed' about it!

I don't understand why you getting up at whatever hour bothers her. Sone people work best at night - for all she knows you are up til 2am writing your novel, doing shift work or whatever.
I do have a friend who is a curtain twitcher though - since I met her in her 20s she always knows what's going on in her neighbourhood- that someone is getting a delivery, so and sos daughter is visiting blah blah. She had an interesting full time job, a partner but just couldn't help observing everyone! Nothing malicious about it.

My MIL was like this. Seemed to think it was a virtue to be an early riser. Told me and my SIL proudly that she got up to prepare her husbands breakfast. I laughed when my SIL said that cereal with milk could easily be done by her husband. I thought MIL would implode when I said that I just waved to him from the bed . MIL commented on most people in her neighbourhood and curtains opened , etc. But really I could care less about the opinion of a narrow minded, boring , uptight old biddy . Nasty trait in a person

Well, this has made me intrigued to read the Richard Osman book!

the woman who freaked me out - what was more odd was that she lived on the other side of the building. So I think she was watching the front door of the block from somewhere else!

or deliberately trying to freak me out.

I used to work in a naice care home which had 90% female residents: some of them were so two faced and bitchy about each other! "Have you seen Brenda's varicose veins? Awful! Don't know why she thinks she can get away with wearing a skirt!" and then five minutes later it would be "Good morning Brenda! How are you? Sit with us and have a coffee!"

That would bother me too. I take no notice of the people around me and am always surprised when anyone makes observations about me. I also open and close my drapes based on the weather/time of year. Not when I get up.

My 92yr old nan was struggling with being worn out so we told her to lie in if she could rather than getting up with the sun every day. She was horrified and said "what would the neighbours think, having my curtains shut half the morning" 🙄

Remember the Mr Men books? There’s one called Mr Nosy. Buy it and put it in her letter box 😁

My neighbour has started commenting on my life too. It's mildly irritating. So for no reason other than my.own entertainment, I've started parking my car elsewhere.

I have just woken up 😜

Howling at these posts 😅

Might go back to bed now 😴 😋😅

Curtains will stay closed x

Stick a huge note in your window..' Good morning xxx I'm up' 😂

@Pollydon . Your DH rocks😊