Neighbour obsessed with what time I get up

[Mississipi71]

I overheard my neighbour talking about what time I get up in the day. I have no blinds in my bedroom, just curtains, so she can presume see what time I wake up. I even heard her saying "it is 11.30 am now, what time did she get up 11.15?" I don't go into deep sleeps (side effects of anxiety meds) so I never really feel I have had a full night's sleep. I am early retired, with no kids so what time I get up is down to me. I just read in bed, dont play music or watch tv, until I finally drift off. She also has no idea whether I have reasons for sleeping patterns and I don't need to justify anything to her. Anybody else have CF neighbours like this?

Yes, with you on the invasion of privacy. It is almost passive aggressive behaviour from those judging you, and within hearing distance.. Sounds like a great idea with the vertical blind.

I voted YABU but only because yabu to give a toot what she says. I doubt she’s obsessed, it’ll be idle chat for the sake of it. Wouldn’t worry me.

I had a very strange neighbour in our small community knock on my door one day. She said she couldn’t work out how my husband and I could both be early retired and afford to live in our large house.

Apparently “You don’t have to tell me how much… just HOW DO YOU MANAGE IT?” She said she’d discussed it with her husband and they “JUST COULD NOT WORK IT OUT!” Then she looked at me expectantly.

At first I was nonplussed and then I laughed in her face and shut the door.

A previous neighbour would always sit in her garden and bitch to her husband about the fact that I looked round my garden everyday after work but rarely did much in the way of gardening.

She was quite deaf, hence why I could hear her bitching!

When I moved in my house the neighbor put a note through my door telling me bedtime is 9pm along with a list of other 'rules'.

I of course ignored it because it fucking bat shit, 2 weeks after moving in I was sat in my living room at 9.30pm with the lights on reading silently (I had a sleeping toddler myself so its not like I could have loud parties). I jumped up to go to the window and see what it was and heard the neighbors door slam, we had been 'egged'.

The next day I got another agressive note through the door again telling me his children go to be at 9pm and he 'expects' me to be in bed by 9pm and not to ignore it again.

This kind of crap went on for 8 years until we finally go a no contact order because he threatened to kill us.

Its wierd some people are so obsessed with their neighbors, its creepy the way they spy on people and think what grown adults do in their own homes is any of their business.

I think they are usually just 'control freaks' who have to feel in power.

Oh my I had exactly the same. Moved into MQ after getting pregnant on honeymoon so was going through the sicky stage so
used to stay in bed

Someone reported back to my DH that my curtains were still class sed at gone 19.30, so the fucker used to open them when he went to work

Your looking through your neighbors window at them getting changed... thats not only creepy but a crime.

You have no right to be looking in others windows and no it isnt remotely normal and its not 'awareness'.

I couldnt tell you anything about my neighbors lives except that one neighbor hangs stuff on her washing line and one smokes on his door step and I only know that because both say hello to me while they do those tasks.

A house, or a commune? Who would anyone just accept their neighbour telling them when to go to bed?! It's farcical.
Why didn't you call the police and tell them he was in need of a psychiatric intervention?

Can't flipping see my screen properly

My curtains were shut till gone 10.30... I reckon the woman who reported me would of combusted had I of been in bed till the evening

Your looking through your neighbors window at them getting changed... thats not only creepy but a crime

You have no right to be looking in others windows and no it isnt remotely normal and its not 'awareness'

Yep. It’s absolutely disgusting and vile. This has happened to me where a neighbour said to my partner they’d seen me walking about my bedroom in a bra (it was actually a crop top as I don’t get changed in that room she could see into). I’m sorry but WTF.I have NEVER looked into someone’s window in my life.

Evoloutionarily cave men use to socialise and party at night, they used candles and would gather round bonfires (they discoved pretty cool ways not to gass themselve in the cave systems).

Labour and birth also is stimulated by dark and naturally occurs during night so early human life was very night centric and only 'hunting/gathering' took place during the light hours (and not normally during mid day but rather dawn or dusk).

Farming was a very 'unnatural' invention, animals where never designed for early rising and a 9-5 lifestyle.

We need to go back to night parting as a society lol.

To be fair sometimes you can't avoid it. I live in a tower block that directly faces another tower block and my windows and balcony are metres away from a dozen other windows. There really is no way to avoid seeing into other windows unless I either install blinds or walk around with my eyes closed.

There's a difference between passively noticing what's in front of your eyes, and actively staring or deliberately peering, IMO. And the social etiquette rule of living in close confines with others is to pretend to be unaware to maintain the illusion of privacy.

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We need to go back to night parting as a society lol.

In all my life I have never 'accidentally' looked through a neighbors window and my house is surrounded by other houses in very close proximity (so close no one has gardens etc...).

And even giving you the benefit of the doubt that it happened once completely accidently, why do you repetively look through the window that you know your neighbors change in to see them naked regularly.

Peeping tom is a crime, its not something the happens as by accident - you even fully admitted its the result of you being 'nosy' which means to 'deliberately pry' so not 'accidental'.

Yes thats the point, looking at others window IS NOT NORMAL.

Its not a tv screen, its there for the functional purpose to let light into their house not so you can view them so you shouldnt be 'looking' there at all.

If you don't want people glancing in your windows, the onus is on you to install suitable window coverings.

Guys, the complex is predominantly older folk. As I am at home most days at 51, I guess their minds cannot compute. Before I moved here, I never realised how sharp tongued and bitchy (some) 70 somethings were.