Neighbour obsessed with what time I get up

[Mississipi71]

I overheard my neighbour talking about what time I get up in the day. I have no blinds in my bedroom, just curtains, so she can presume see what time I wake up. I even heard her saying "it is 11.30 am now, what time did she get up 11.15?" I don't go into deep sleeps (side effects of anxiety meds) so I never really feel I have had a full night's sleep. I am early retired, with no kids so what time I get up is down to me. I just read in bed, dont play music or watch tv, until I finally drift off. She also has no idea whether I have reasons for sleeping patterns and I don't need to justify anything to her. Anybody else have CF neighbours like this?

Funnily enough, I have been leaving curtains closed most of the day in this heat. That has been since the bitching. We can't live our lives to suit others x

Years ago I moved into married quarters (army). Detached houses but all lined up side by side, and also facing each other.

Not long after, it got back to my husband that someone had asked “what does sleepy DO all day?”

I didn’t work (at that moment), didn’t have children and hadn’t thrown myself into all the Wives Clubs things on the camp.

It became a bit of joke to us. I owned it and kept my curtains closed all day.

get an application pack for MI5 sent to her address

These comments are priceless. Not an 'obsessed neighbour comment' but 'obsessed work colleagues' continuous comments on the fact that I choose to wear a mask. Mind your own business - seriously!

OP your neighbour gives a whole new meaning to the term Neighbourhood Watch.

Surely a lot of people talk about their neighbours? and what time you get up is hardly even that interesting.
I know that my neighbour across the road goes running at 5am. I know that next door's adult child plays his music too loudly (IMO). I wonder why our neighbours across the road have 5 cars when there is only 3 of them. Sometimes I might mention these things to other people. Maybe its gossiping but it's pretty harmless and not because I particularly care (except about the music when he plays modern rap stuff that goes through my head).

..even worse on military 🪖 housing for nosey feckers. My sister used to live in married quarters and gossip spread like wild fire. It was the same every time she relocated.

Are you sure it was you she was referring to? Talking to another neighbour about your sleeping habits is so odd.

I’d be tempted to go into hiding.
Don’t open the curtains, don’t make any noise, answer your door or appear and don’t bring your milk in from the doorstep (assuming you have a milkman) give the nosey cow something to get worked up about.
Enjoy you long mornings, it’s none of her business.

Never heard that about knickers on the whirly !

My late DF worked in a very cold place, & made DM promise to never hang his longjohns outside as only old men wore them .

Yes, definitely me as other neighbour she was talking to shouted morning Mississipi71, with a giggle, when I went into the back garden. She had also made little digs before. Neighbour finds it funny that I sleep in. I find it funny that she is so invested. Whenever this kind of thing happens, my attitude is how does what I do affect you? Unless I am being a nuisance neighbour, the way I live is none of her concern. 🙂

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Yes @Mississipi71
I have a horrible elderly neighbour a few doors down. She is rude to pretty much everyone so I didn’t take what she said personally as such but..

One day I was sat with my window open and could hear her talking to my next door neighbour. She said to my neighbour ‘do you know much about her? Do you know what she does? I mean I don’t know how she affords a house this size AND that car’

I get on very well with my next door neighbours and was pleased when they replied ‘she works a lot and is very lovely’

some people are just bored & have nothing better to do!

This is why I never stay in bed and breakfast accommodation or little boutique hotels. I cannot bear having to justify my movements to anyone. I will come and go as I please, without having questions or comments.

YABU, but only for bothering to care what she thinks!
I am insanely jealous of your newly retired, childless status, and I'd probably gossip about you too in order to make myself feel better. And I'd deserve the coldest of shoulders for doing so!

You have veen 'blessed' with a 'net curtain nelly' as a nieghbour!

She needs to keep her nose in her own buisness and what tine you get up in the morning is your buisness alone.

Ugh. I can't stand pass-remarkable people.

Also this:
"I've never quite got my head around how getting up early is considered to be a necessary virtue, and anybody who doesn't is seriously lacking in moral fibre."

All of a piece with the scummy/virtuous spectrum of dicking about on your phone (lazy) < watching TV < reading the paper < reading a book (good). When it's all more or less the same thing.

I knew a lady who would open her curtains the night before just in case she slept in so the neighbours wouldn't think she was lazy

I wonder what your nosy neighbour would think of me.
I get up at 5:30 most days to leave at 6.
My blinds and curtains stay shut 90% of the time.

My neighbour bad mouthed me around the neighbourhood - saying I did not walk my dog in the morning - she did not realise that I walk him before she gets up.

OP, I rent and our neighbours are good pals with our LL. They report the same thing, when I wake etc, to the LL. God knows why. Who gives a fuck, wish they’d just bugger off.

She must be lonely or having nothing else better to do. I’d give her something really exciting to talk about.

This reminds me of hearing a neighbour saying "is she walking her dog again?" when I walked past. I didn't have a garden so my dog needed toilet breaks. I simply couldn't believe that my mundane activities could be the topic of a couple's conversation or that they had even noticed what I was doing.

You have my sympathies. Unfortunately we are joined on to a very nosey neighbour. We worked that out when we moved in. One day I was laid out sunbathing in the back garden and she looked over the low fence and made a loud comment to her husband about me. We put a 6 foot fence up straight after that. 15 years later we say hi and leave it at that.

My Nan used to be obsessed with getting up early, she was raised in a convent and they were gotten up very early as sleeping in late was seen a being lazy and a sin. As an adult without fail she got up early to open all her curtains lest the neighbours think she was lazy. In the evenings you couldn’t put a lamp on unless the curtains were closed. Net curtains in every room must be taken down every month on a Sunday and bleached to perfect white as otherwise people would assume your both lazy and dirty.

All this seemed crackers to me as a kid, but she was a wonderful person and always had the kind of handbag that had whatever you needed in it, a plaster/tissue/cough sweet/painkiller/sewing kit etc she could also cook the most perfect eggs boiled/fried/dippy/scrambled and in all my years of adulthood I still can’t do an egg perfect like she could. I miss her, and yes she was nosey bat 😂

All that would have been completely normal in her young days, to be fair.