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To ask if this is usual for a wedding?

126 replies

AspireMe · 06/08/2022 21:18

To seat guests at tables depending on the quality of wedding gifts (higher/more wanted the gift, the better the table) and divide into Gold, Silver and Bronze statuses? (Without telling the guests, obviously).

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ClinkeyMonkey · 06/08/2022 21:42

I seated my guests according to how attractive they were. The guests who were easy on the eye sat close to the top table and all the ugly bastards were in a dark, distant corner.

I wondered why I'm always sat at the back at weddings! Grin

Stravaig · 07/08/2022 07:30

Next step, the brazenly crowdfunded wedding model. Announce the event, complete with tiers of involvement, and wait for the pledges to roll in. I'd love to see it. I don't suppose any would reach full funding. Couples would soon realise how little interest anyone has else has in their wedding, and go back to humbly requesting the pleasure and privilege of their guests attendance at a fully paid for event.

Society · 07/08/2022 07:44

Oh look the OP didn't return after posting 2 goady unbelievable posts...

ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus · 07/08/2022 09:35

Society · 07/08/2022 07:44

Oh look the OP didn't return after posting 2 goady unbelievable posts...

Oh come on, Society, it was harmless and people came up with some funny ideas!

gannett · 07/08/2022 09:59

Really want this scenario to be real and for it to be filmed. Incredible idea.

FictionalCharacter · 07/08/2022 11:05

AspireMe · 06/08/2022 22:01

It's not my wedding, it's somebody else's. I am not going as I wasn't invited as I don't know the couple in question at all, this is just what a friend (who is friends with them and are invited) told me. I didn't think it was a bad idea though, but when I relayed this to other people the reactions were mostly aghast, as they have been on here, so probably my question has been answered that it's not usual and that I shouldn't do similar if it came down to it if having my own.

Have no idea how the tables/present levels/seating would work, this was just what I was told from someone else and was just seeing if people thought it was a a good idea or not.

Assuming you’re serious, do you really think that your wedding celebration is in any way about the “quality” of the things people gave you? Why would you be thinking that way? It’s the way horribly grasping materialistic people think.

If you really thought it might be OK to seat a much-loved elderly relative who can’t afford much, and maybe isn’t the best at choosing presents, in the lowest-status zone, have a think about who you are. And the kind of people you’re listening to.

PinkyFlamingo · 07/08/2022 12:12

Why on earth did you think this was a good idea OP (I know its not your wedding).

Jagoda · 07/08/2022 12:24

Oh. I thought this was a joke...

How can it be true though as you wouldn't know what someone had bought you until afterwards?

If it's somehow true, it's the height of crassness and vulgarity.

IncompleteSenten · 07/08/2022 13:37

It's ridiculous and also impossible.

Are guests to email receipts a week before the wedding so the seating plan can be done?

Or will there be an official opener at the door who inspects each gift and directs the giver to tables accordingly?

Johnnysgirl · 07/08/2022 14:41

I think op thinks she's found an ingenious way to get top notch presents from guests who couldn't be relied on to divvy up the goods without being embarrassed into it.
Poor thing.

Kite22 · 07/08/2022 14:44

Do you think this is the same poster who was mistreating her bridesmaid and the 2nd wedding on a thread in the last few days?
Or is there a competition running that I am unaware of, for the most ludicrous suggestions for a wedding ?

Trying20 · 07/08/2022 14:46

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Johnnysgirl · 07/08/2022 14:49

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But you have to bring your own and fry it yourself.

Trying20 · 07/08/2022 14:53

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Johnnysgirl · 07/08/2022 15:04

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🤣🤣🤣

Hawkins001 · 07/08/2022 18:36

Reading with intrigue

milkysmum · 07/08/2022 18:37

In what world would that be a good idea? What would be the purpose?

bridgetreilly · 07/08/2022 18:41

I wonder where my gift of priceless original artwork would get me seated. Out in the garden, maybe?

user656709 · 07/08/2022 18:42

@Pottedpalm 😂

Kite22 · 07/08/2022 22:38
Grin
HumourReplacementTherapy · 07/08/2022 23:16

Haha. You could name the tables:
Harrods
Harvey Nics
Selfridges
John Lewis
Argos
Costco
Home Bargains
Poundland
Market tat
Scrap yard.

Johnnysgirl · 07/08/2022 23:56

You'd have miserable bastards buying single egg cups just to get on the Harrods table.

There's no end to the shenanigans some people op's friends, presumably will engage in just to avoid buying their friends a decent wedding present.

Trying20 · 08/08/2022 00:01

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mycatisannoying · 08/08/2022 00:02

What the hell? Just no!