To ask if this is usual for a wedding?

[AspireMe]

To seat guests at tables depending on the quality of wedding gifts (higher/more wanted the gift, the better the table) and divide into Gold, Silver and Bronze statuses? (Without telling the guests, obviously).

Why if a high ticket item was given by a family? Is it divisible by 5? Or just the gift giver and leave the kids outside?

Do you place a value on friendship, love and and support below the monetary value of gifts? Utterly shallow.

C’mon, got to pay to play. The little dead beats need to earn their keep. Might as well teach them young 🤣

Umm… what?!

I seated my guests according to how attractive they were. The guests who were easy on the eye sat close to the top table and all the ugly bastards were in a dark, distant corner.

This is what I'm thinking

Also imagine being really generous having just landed a well paid job and finding yourself sitting with Uncle Business who is writing the gift off for tax purposes rather than with all your skint mates at the fun 'pewter package' table. That would suck.

Just me or have the threads been a little weird today? I’m not usually on mumsnet on Saturday but if this is typical I may start coming more often!

Yeah like people say you don't know the gifts until after the wedding so this makes absolutely no sense. I live in Ireland where everyone pretty much gives the exact same gift (€200 per couple) as standard anyway.

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Also interested in the backstory. You can't be that stupid that you'd think this is normal

If that's a real 'thing' then it's absolutely disgusting and an appalling way to treat people. People are only worthy if they have money? Horrible.

Ahhh…but once word got out you’d let the competition take over so everyone ups their game.

Too bad Aunt Doris…Cousin Willy brought his A game.

This is a fairly commonly used joke at weddings (wedding photographer here), heard at maybe 1 in 10 weddings.

Outrageous! Of course not.

Mind you, I went to a wedding where the top table were served with a better meal than everyone else. Thought that was pretty bad.

Awful and crass.

Sounds totally reasonable. Group people either that way, or by their social class and standing.

Uncle Tobias is a doctor and lives in a 4 story Chelsea Town House with underground parking and an AGA, so we'll sit him well away from DH's Aunt Stacey who is a school dinner lady 2 days a week when she's not standing around outside the food bank smoking a B&H.

Dear god, what a load of bollocks. This surely has to be a wind-up thread. Because people aren't that twatty. Are they?

Vile.

We need more info

Based on what you provided us with so far I think it's bonkers!

I thought most people wouldn’t give their gifts until the day of the wedding, so would the bride and groom have to literally open each gift in turn and then decide whether it was gold, silver or bronze? Would they have to see each gift first to be able to determine where it fell on the scale? It sounds stressful to then have to try and work out a seating plan and like it would take hours of the wedding just to sort out!

I did see an invitation where people had different menus depending on their gift but was unsure how they could have all this information by the day of the wedding?

It’s vulgar.

It kinda is, isn't it? Close family and friends are near the top table and would have spent more on a gift then some distant cousin twice removed sitting at the back. Obviously gift cost appropriate to income. Millionaire distant cousin twice removed sitting at the back spending £200 is worth less than a skint best friend spending £50.

Hello troll 👋🏻

It's not my wedding, it's somebody else's. I am not going as I wasn't invited as I don't know the couple in question at all, this is just what a friend (who is friends with them and are invited) told me. I didn't think it was a bad idea though, but when I relayed this to other people the reactions were mostly aghast, as they have been on here, so probably my question has been answered that it's not usual and that I shouldn't do similar if it came down to it if having my own.

Have no idea how the tables/present levels/seating would work, this was just what I was told from someone else and was just seeing if people thought it was a a good idea or not.