Splitting the bill

[nalabae]

Yes I know this gets asked often so I will keep it short.
meal came to £82. I had an issue with my main it was taken off the bill, it was like £13/14
they both had full fat cokes and I had water.

friend said we split 3 ways, I gave £20 which even for the starters and water I had was more. They still insisted I give another £5 so it’s 3 ways.
I was hesitant but did.

im not one to count pennies but when my meal was obviously more than yours why should I cover the cost of your meal too?

this friend has a habit of doing it, she eats a lot, will order several starters and cokes. When I usually just have a main and water (just my preference not being cheap)

opinion?

Just say at the start you want to pay separately in future, and ask the waiting staff for a separate bill.

Save yourself all the angst and some money.

She clearly states she had starters. Plural.😂

She said she had starters and water because she enjoys having water with her meal so why would she order champagne?

The op didn't say she ordered several starters she said her friend had form for order several starters. I'd guess op ordered one and they shared them but it was her friend who ordered more than one.

You can't really argue over a fiver

Bit hard to give a full opinion based on the info you gave.

Was the £82 before or after your main was taken off the bill? Did that include a tip or no?

Did you eat the main?

Did you have starters (plural?) as you state in the first post - how much were they?

At face value, it does sound like your friends are taking the piss but you haven't given a wholly clear story about what happened. How did the conversation go when they asked you to put in another fiver - did you not point out that you'd already more than covered the cost of your own meal?

I don't drink coke but I would also refer to full sugar coke as full fat. It's just a jokey way of doing so

Why? What's jokey about it?

The alliteration.

opinion?

I think you need new friends. It sounds like these are out for what they can get.

I call non diet coke 'fat coke' 🤷‍♀️

It's not specifc to coke. Full fat is a well established description of milk so it's a very mild joke to use it in less appropriate situations to designate a difference in two types of things, a lighter and heavier version. Hence many people using it for coke and me using it for alcoholic/non alcoholic beer.

There was something else I used to call full fat now but I can't remember what.

Gluttons? I'd never go anywhere with people who use this language. In fact, I doubt you even have friends for this to arise. You'd be stuck at home with your piggish husbands.

Chilli! I remember now. When offering to make chilli DH used to offer rme full fat or no fat, meaning vegetarian or meaty.

In fact the weirdos are really out in force here, now bickering about 'full fat. What is wrong with you people?

Does doing this genuinely please you?

My bad, I’d only noticed the bit about the friends ordering the multiple starters. Also, she’d paid £25, not £20.
I only usually make these errors when I’ve been on the wine, no excuses for a morning post…!

Well, she is clearly annoyed at subsidising the full fat coke habit and multiple starters. Worth forcing a glass of champers down to give friend a taste of her own ( full fat) medicine. I look forward to reading the next thread about it.

Why didn't OP just say something? I would have! I would've just said no, here's my £8 for the starter, I only had water and my main was deducted, so the rest is yours.

If you don't speak up, more fool you.

"this friend has a habit of doing it, she eats a lot, will order several starters and cokes. When I usually just have a main and water (just my preference not being cheap)"

Next time you eat out with this friend, just say as you sit down 'We won't be splitting the bill today, I will pay for my own and you pay for yours'. Upfront, firm, no argument brooked.

The only people who ever insist on splitting the bill equally (or call others who object "tight") are those who take the piss and rip off the people they eat out with.

Moral and decent people are aware if someone else has consumed less expensively then themselves, and never want to freeload off them.

Spot the freeloaders on here 🙄

We have friends that had a rep for being like this. Went out for a meal with them, they were ordering cocktails, as many food courses as they could, and the more expensive course too (steaks, lobster etc), large desserts, and lots of alcohol.

As the night drew to a close they proposed splitting the bill in half (5 of us, me and oh, other couple and their adult daughter). My husband informed them he had already been to the bar and settled mine and his bill including a tip! You could tell they were pissed off, saying they weren't sure THEY had enough funds to cover what THEY had eaten/drank 🤷‍♂️.

On way home my husband said the total bill was about £450, ours came to about £120! CFs clearly wanted us to pay a fair chunk of what they devoured.

We've not been out with them since, and a few other friends have also now done the same.
CFs wanting someone else to pay for their dinner....

My oh calls coke zero/diet coke unleaded, and "full fat" coke leaded....

You should have just insisted on paying your own. It can't have been hard to add up what you had if you didn't have a main and just had water.

There is no such thing as "full fat" coke

It's just coke. FFS

@Whammyyammy your husband is a king! 🤣