Does tummy look big in this swimsuit?

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Name changed for obvious reasons
Need to ask if this swimsuit accentuates stomach or can notice a big belly?/big hips
Some comment today has triggered this and I cant seem to get a straight answer.
I know MNetters are brually honest and would rather hear truth than appeasement.

And also -

Your niece is a young idiot. Has she had children? Does she understand a mature woman’s body?

Yes I suppose you could have plastic surgery, but good food and te tight sort of exercise and an improvement in posture will be just as effective and far less painful!

Baffled by some of these comments! If that picture makes OP look pregnant (!?) then I must look like a walking wagon wheel 🤣

You look fine. A side picture would have been better to judge but still you have a great figure.

You look fantastic, I'd swap my body with yours anytime you like.

You look fabulous op.
Honestly honestly fabulous!

... but not your head, a bit to colourful and swirly for me, especially in my line of work as a magistrate.

(I'm not really a magistrate)

No!

But tbh why would it matter if it did? Tummies are allowed to be a little bit big as long as you’re healthy

Especially after three children

Right, if your niece is a trainee at an American med school, I take it she's ... maybe 22? 23?

As in, besides not having children of her own, she may well not have any good friends who are female with children?

If that's her background today, then she may have a very, very limited perspective on the emotional roller coaster so many of us have about giving birth, and the shift in identity that brings.

Give her grace. She doesn't understand. She doesn't understand that you used to have this one version of life, the super-athletic basketball player on a team of women achieving things. She doesn't understand that version of your life has been upended because you've had children. She doesn't understand that you're having trouble seeing your old self in the mirror. She definitely won't understand any emotions you may be wrestling with.

It sounds like she may have taken your questions quite literally. With time and experience, she will probably figure out how to understand what a patient is really saying to her, and understand what they actually need. But not in her early 20s, head down and absorbing procedure.

Give her grace. That will lessen the impact of her comments.

Do you feel healthy? Do you feel in shape? Do you feel physically capable and strong? Focus on that.

I don't know why (some) people have to be so horrible. OP, you look great. I'd have said something similar in a jokey way if your niece had been visiting me, and I'd have expected something jokey in return...

Having kids changes our bodies, which is not the same as ‘ruining’

Honestly, we cannot allow the views of trainee LA cosmetic surgery practitioners, fuelled by youthful zealousness to show off their ‘knowledge’ to define us.

You look great OP.

That swimsuit? I love the deep v neck, but the legs would look better if they were a bit more high-leg. Not full on up to the hip bone, just more of an angle.

I actually think the shape and cut of the swimsuit and the gathering on the side of it does accentuate your tummy.

I don't know how round your stomach actually is but from the picture you've posted, it does look quite round. Your cleavage looks great though!

I mean this seriously.

Your niece is a weirdo.

Your body is gorgeous.

Enjoy it.

No it doesn’t.

You look like a normal mum. The swimsuit style isn’t the most flattering - a high waisted bikini would look fab on you

Thank you all posters.
My swimsuit in my locker at the fitness centre. So cant get hold of it to show side view but do have a picture of me in a bikini side view so you can see my "mum tum"
i can show this pic?
I definitely havole a pooch and this is after me exercising and keeping fit. The pooch just never serms to go away..my hips are also much wider pre DC2.

All your posts have been great, advice is so kuch appreciated that I have decided to go for a high waisted bikini and return the black swimsuit.
I only have a bikini I wear to Aqua Aerobics in the outdoor pool for when its hot but would never brave wearing it on a beach etc because of the insecurities I have with belly
However, I am definitely trying a high waisted bikini as advised by many here.

I always thought black was slimming hence why I chose that particular one! So thank you I have learnt alot x

Oh don't be silly.

The woman's a trainee plastic surgeon, not a bloody therapist. She's chosen that profession as a way of earning money, not to get all deep and meaningful and peer into the souls of anyone asking her professional opinion.

There's always a risk when people undergo surgery. A good doctor would help a patient weigh up that risk, especially if they're practicing in a country where malpractice insurance premiums are sky high.

But seeing as she's a trainee and not an actual doctor yet, the point is moot. Her "professional" opinion that most people are referring to here is moot, because if she's still training then she's not fully qualified.

My point is, if she's in her early 20s, privileged enough to afford med school in LA, and went straight to med school from high school ... then what the heck does she know about women having babies and feeling self-conscious about their bodies after the fact? And if she doesn't have a clue, then what does her med-school opinion matter?

@iCouldSleepForAYear just because she's still training, that doesn't mean she can't have an opinion on whether the OP needs a tummy tuck, when specifically asked by the OP if she thought she should have anything done 🙄

And if the OP didn't think she was qualified (in a sense) to give an opinion, she wouldn't have asked her for one.

The OP said she was essentially fishing for a compliment, and yeah it backfired. But Unless her niece was physically examining the OP, and determined that the OP had separated abdominal wall muscles that could be repaired by the procedure, or excess skin from rapid weight loss causing severe skin irritation, then no, the OP did not need anything done. Doesn't sound like a very professional opinion to me.

If a plastic surgeon can't help a patient figure out want vs need, they're gonna deal with some really ugly lawsuits later on. Good luck to the niece as she practices medicine.

OP, you look fine. A lot of us have a winter reserve on our bellies, no matter how much we work out. Big deal.

I noticed that too, knew straight away it would be another fishing for compliments post. 😂

None of us can actually answer that question truthfully without a side on photo unfortunately. Pregnant ladies with a bump can sometimes look not pregnant in a front facing photo, i have some photos like that myself but side on my bump was clearly visible.

Did it occur to you that her comment might have been made in jest? Possibly practicing what she would say to a potential client? Do you want a "killer LA figure" (whatever that is)? You look great. Don't depend on other people's opinions for your own happiness. How would you have felt if she had said she thought you looked too thin? Be happy in your own body.

You look fab. I would love to have your figure

This is a side view of the aforementioned costume
Sorry that its late but have only managed to go swimming again.
I can still see the rounded belly!
I have bought a new bikini set anyhow but I love the style of this costume to take on holiday so want to work on bringing stomach in tighter. Any tips? The costume is size M.

Well yes, your belly is rounded. And that's OK, but if you're not happy with it then you need to be proactive. Either get a suit/pattern that detracts from it, or do more exercise (like going swimming more than once a fortnight ) and make changes in your diet.

I think you know this.