To think the ‘lonely’ man probably didn’t want his photo shared

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I imagine a lot of people have seen this, v popular Facebook group. A group member has shared a photo of her son on holiday. The son saw a man sitting alone and kept him company. Mum took a picture and shared it. Cue lots of comments about how wonderful the boy is and I am sure he is. BUT - AIBU to think this is really not on?

For one thing, the man probably wasn’t lonely, just wanted to go about his business. Personally, I really wouldn’t thank a random kid for coming over and talking to me. Then the taking photos part is definitely not on. Both are highly intrusive and rude.

AIBU and a miserable cow?

Just do a good deed if you want but take the picture, actually she should have asked him if he minded.

everyone's obsessed with taking pics today. Just because you can dosent mean you should.

Don't take the Picture I meant.

Makes me think of how people use to claim African slaves didnt mind being zoo exibits.

Just look at the tragic case of Sara Baartman (known by the slave name Hottentot Venus).

If you do someone a good turn just be happy with that nice inner feeling that happens when you help a person. No need to broadcast it to the world.

A local councillor put on their FB page how they had a phone call from a person thanking them for a good deed they had done for this person. Cue lots of FB likes and comments of well done etc I was always told self praise is no praise at all. I believe it's called blowing your own trumpet

It made me think of Black Mirror too! But the one where you're stuck in a kind of electronic tiny bedroom with constant ads and you have to earn enough credits to get rid of them/get out. It's the constant bombardment of social media crap, isn't it?

I do think this is a bit different as it means others might feel more confident that the councillor is likely to help. People often like to throw out the old "they're all the same, they never help the community/only come out at election time" rubbish.

Sort of reminds me of the old Smashie and Nicey "does a lot of work for charity, doesn't like to talk about it" sketch that Harry Enfield did years ago.

YANBU

Oh God, there's been some awful stuff on Linked In recently. A person took a photo of a guy who'd been about to commit suicide and said person talked them down and thought it appropriate to take a photo of the man, clearly in some distress. He got his arse handed to him for that

Just to lighten it up re linkedin influencers

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Going against the grain here, but I think it's really lovely the boy wanted to keep the man company. And the mum wanted to share what he did because she was proud. I do agree she shouldn't have posted his photo without permission though.

No it's not 'really lovely'. For all the reasons listed below.

So many angry emojis.

People are fucking idiots though and scary thing is they have access to internet

I've joined the group but can't find the post 😂

I really hate when people upload pictures of random people without their permission. I saw the post in question and all the ‘oh you’re such a good parent, keep up the good work’ made me roll my eyes so hard.

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Oh no that's awful. Reminds me of a woman I used to work with, she posted a photo of her son on one of a his many gap years crouched down next to an Indian lady living in poverty. He had his thumbs up smiling and she looked so miserable, no idea the camera was on her no doubt. Cringe.

This actually worries me.I have resting worry face.I also don’t always look “glam” every time I leave the house.some days are hard and ok I might look a bit of a hoodie scruff.to think someone might or is filming me for some reason makes me shrink.

I find it absolutely fascinating that some people are such empty vessels that they cannot imagine that someone on their own is not a miserable derelict. Imagine having such a paucity of interior life that you think someone on their own needs to be reduced as opposed to just being.....on their own. Imagine their awful, tiny lives, where literally every trip out the house needs a chaperone.

rescued not reduced

I’ve reported the post as it violates the man’s privacy. Hope they take it down. And the person who posted the pic is showing her son all these likes and comments which I don’t think is healthy at all..

Oh my god! I'm often out and about on my own, I have a DH, family and great gang of friends and am certainly not lonely (thank god as it is such a tough feeling). I would be silently seething if some child came to disturb me. How incredibly odd.

If it's unacceptable to take photos of kids, who are strangers, I dont see why its acceptable to dobit to adults. It is arrogant, nosey and entitled.

Just noticed there's another new post today of someone's son walking an elderly lady home.. although at least this time you can't see her face.

I left that group as it seemed full of attention-seeking posts