To think the ‘lonely’ man probably didn’t want his photo shared

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I imagine a lot of people have seen this, v popular Facebook group. A group member has shared a photo of her son on holiday. The son saw a man sitting alone and kept him company. Mum took a picture and shared it. Cue lots of comments about how wonderful the boy is and I am sure he is. BUT - AIBU to think this is really not on?

For one thing, the man probably wasn’t lonely, just wanted to go about his business. Personally, I really wouldn’t thank a random kid for coming over and talking to me. Then the taking photos part is definitely not on. Both are highly intrusive and rude.

AIBU and a miserable cow?

Very arrogant. I have a friend that has been hosting a Ukrainian family for the last week - for the previous 6 months it has been constant posts and wanting to help and applying and so on and now it’s at least twice a day ‘won’t be available to answer my phone this morning as helping our Ukrainian family get x ‘ etc etc and constant posts about them making their beds or doing their washing etc

Some of those channels put the animals in danger themselves just the record the rescue for social media content.

I saw a deep dive thing abojt sone of them and it's the same kitten "rescued" in several different video, Covered in oil and rescued, trapped in a well and rescued etc when it's the person "rescuing" or who covered in oil or put it in the well, that type of stuff.

I just hate the way people record and upload people without them knowing. Tik tok is rife with it, anything from someone's spotting a member of the public trip over walking along the street being uploaded or people taking videos of people on the beach and uploading to hundreds of thousands of followers.

Just saw one of an elderly couple on the beach sunbathing together and having a normal day out and they probably don't even know they've been recorded and uploaded and even tho laugh the person uploading meant well and it was "I want this type of relationship when I'm old" I would not want myself recorded like that and uploaded.

Or someone reading private messages on their phone on a bus and someone further back is zooming in and uploading their phone screens for people to laugh at their messages.

And anyone who says it's a bit shitty gets told they have every right he to record people in a public place and anyone who doesn't want to be recorded should choose to stay home.

It's had quite a sad ending though as the mum has said she's literally burst with prude

*pride even!

Well I've had a scroll through FB and couldn't see it anywhere, so my mates are a good lot. However I did find out that a whale can fart a bubble big enough to fit a horse in. So perhaps they're not so good after all...

Agree, awful post.

If that's what actually happened then great and your son is very kind but let's be honest you probably pushed him to sit there, took a picture whilst the poor man is trying to eat his dinner, all the time knowing you just wanted shit loads of likes.

As others have said, at least cover his face for the post.

It’s already weird to take a photo of a good deed you’re child is doing.
I remember my dd doing something so lovely and kind for a homeless person some years ago and there’s no way I was thinking about taking a picture of it, let alone posting it on SM

In the same category as people who give things away on Facebook with the caveat "I want this to go to someone who is really struggling and who can't afford any toys for their kids". Just seems so self-serving.

I'm often sat on my own....I've usually escaped to get some peace from my own child, I'd be miffed if I then had to entertain someone else's child 🤣

We aren't in lockdown, so the group should be shut down.

Just to add to this, I'm sat on my own, that doesn't make me lonely

Yep add me to the number of people sat happily on my own! I'm always either at work or with my kid, if you see me sat at a table for one in a restaurant, don't send yours over 😂

I love my dc but if I was peacefully sitting on my own on holiday and another dc came over to speak to me I’d be polite, smile etc but would end it asap. Alone doesn’t mean lonely. I love alone time! Also, doing something nice doesn’t feel the same if you brag about it after. Yuck!

No you’re absolutely right!!! I’m appalled by this. How dare they boost their own egos this way. If it really was an act of kindness then no one would know about it. Instead it’s plastered on social media in an ugly self congratulatory way. No real thought for how the man might feel.

This is prevalent on social media including from people I know. Real acts of kindness don’t need advertising. I argued with someone on Instagram after they posted they had helped a women having panic attack on a plane and held her hand. She posted an arty picture just so we could see. It was so self indulgent and narcissistic and sickening in her protests that she just wanted to ‘inspire people’. Narcissism is endemic on social media.

I mistrust the kid's motives. When I was young I was taught that speaking to strange men would immediately and unfailingly result in me being given drugs.

Dont mind being talked to. But taking my picture and sharing it? No way is that ok.

Feel free to share a direct link and we can do it for you

@Wynwoodwalls

Agree, it’s nauseating but just one of many these days. The comments!! ‘Wow Hun what an amazing son you have, you go mama’ and all that bollocks.

I mean the kid probably had good intentions (though for all we know the man would have preferred him to fuck off) but posting it on SM is just so attention seeking. People continue to do it because they get a shit load of validating comments and praise. The one person who commented negatively received a ‘oh there’s always one’ response from the OP. There’s more than one!

It must be exhausting having to constantly look for meterial to post

Im doing a good deed but quick, get the tripod up!

I left that group ages ago because it didn't really do what it said on the tin, but if anyone wanted to share a screenshot... You could blur the poor man's face!

HaHa!!!!

Oh dear, my “negative comment” has got people angry on the op’s behalf 😆

😂

Shes sure that people who dont speak English don't mind their photo being shared?
Fuck me. The bang of colonialism off that!