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Are you a feminist, if yes, what does it mean to you?

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YouAreNotBatman · 03/08/2022 15:07

YANBU = I’m am
YABU = I am not

OP posts:
Helleofabore · 03/08/2022 21:24

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:20

As explained earlier, I don’t have a “list”. If you are genuinely interested, please read Fausto-Sterling (2000) Sexing the body: Gender politics and the construction of sexuality & Erikainen (2000) Gender verification and the making of the female body in sport.

Do you realise that Fausto-Sterling has admitted that she wrote about five sexes as 'tongue in cheek'?

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:25

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 03/08/2022 19:10

Do you have a source to say that TW are as likely to experience sexual violence as women?

Flores et al (2021) “Gender Identity Disparities in Criminal Victimisation” and Pearce et al (2020) “TERF wars: An introduction” shows that transgender women are more at risk of sexual assault and violence than biological women

savehannah · 03/08/2022 21:26

NalaNana · 03/08/2022 15:59

Someone who was born male but believes they are female, identifies as female, appears as female, lives their life as a female etc

Did you really not understand that or were you being facetious?

When they "live their lives as female" I assume that means they take a pay cut and statistically progress more slowly through their career because of the likelihood of them taking time off to give birth, breastfeed and do the majority of childcare?

Or do you just mean they wear heels and lipstick?

Zerogravity · 03/08/2022 21:27

Holly60 · 03/08/2022 21:16

No I'm literally saying I don't want to be a part of this feminism, thank you.

What you literally said is "I'm not a feminist" and I agreed with you.

Helleofabore · 03/08/2022 21:28

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:20

As explained earlier, I don’t have a “list”. If you are genuinely interested, please read Fausto-Sterling (2000) Sexing the body: Gender politics and the construction of sexuality & Erikainen (2000) Gender verification and the making of the female body in sport.

Sorry, you don't know of any females who have been banned from sport? And should I assume then , you have not established the healthy testosterone ranges for males and females, or even the extreme range of female testosterone that is the result of tumours and other significant health limiting issues?

Sorry, I am going to repeat my question from above. Do you understand that people with differences of sex development can be reliably categorised into either male or female sex categories?

How did you get this passed in your thesis?

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:29

Helleofabore · 03/08/2022 21:24

Do you realise that Fausto-Sterling has admitted that she wrote about five sexes as 'tongue in cheek'?

The five sexes isn’t relevant to this work? And even if it was, read the other source :)

tobee · 03/08/2022 21:29

Hmm another post where op seems to have disappeared.

autienotnaughty · 03/08/2022 21:29

@wellhelloitsme I hope you do. I would hate to think of you all being constantly angry at men 24/7. Very draining. Do you also take breaks from assuming all trans women are only trans so they can attack women more easily and beat women at sport?

babyjellyfish · 03/08/2022 21:29

Ereshkigalangcleg · 03/08/2022 21:16

well I’m more of a woman than this person because…”.

I'm not more of a woman than any other female person. I am more of a woman than all males. That's not a criticism or a value judgement, it's just that woman is simply the name for an adult human female person. No more, no less.

This.

There are no degrees of womanhood. You are either a woman or you are not.

If you are male, you are not.

Zerogravity · 03/08/2022 21:30

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:25

Flores et al (2021) “Gender Identity Disparities in Criminal Victimisation” and Pearce et al (2020) “TERF wars: An introduction” shows that transgender women are more at risk of sexual assault and violence than biological women

In the UK it is much safer to be a tw than a woman. Either way, fighting for safety for tw does not mean ignoring reality. Again, womanhood is not a prize you get for suffering.

VerveClique · 03/08/2022 21:30
  1. Centring women and girls
  2. Eradicating violence against women and girls
  3. Ensuring women and girls have choice and agency in their lives
  4. Thinking that at some point I’m going to be put in a very difficult position where I have to chose between feminism as I see it, and my job
risefromyourgrave · 03/08/2022 21:31

Pinksandblues · 03/08/2022 20:32

But there IS a 'clear cut way to “deal” with the trans problem @electricdreaming

You treat everyone according to their sex not their chosen gender.

I used to play roller derby and was close to many trans women. I will describe three of them.

TW1 literally makes the world a better place, they pass as well as any man can pass as a woman, they are kind, gentle, funny and a wonderful human being. I would trust them to look after my children, I had no problem sharing a changing room with them or using their preferred pronouns.

TW 2 was an aggressive sort. They were lovely when the women were fawning over them ( fawning over TW and male nb's happens a lot in roller derby), however anyone who disagreed with them were subject to aggressive arguing, and being shouted down. They also called women 'bitches' and 'whores' because they could get away with it, because apparently they were one.

TW 3 was quieter. Would describe them self as 'a good girl' and 'prim and proper'. They would harp on about them being 'only 5 foot six' because it made them feel small and petite. However, if you looked at this person's Twitter account, (scroll though many photos of their legs in tights, but 'it's not a fetish apparently) it turns out they like to be treated like a little girl, they suck dummies, and wear nappies to bed. Apparently 'age play' is 'relaxing'.

Surely you can see the red flags waving around number 3? This person should not be in the company of any child unaccompanied at all, but especially girls.

Now unfortunately it's not possible to say 'well TW 1 can come in, but 2 & 3 must stay out'. It's an all or nothing package and I will happily keep TW1 out of women's spaces to keep women and girls safe from 2 and especially 3.

Surely you wouldn't allow 2 & 3 in for the sake of 1?

Excellent post.
Allowing TW into women’s spaces means you have to allow the man who raped me (because I had the temerity to tell him I didn’t want to have a relationship) access to women and children in vulnerable situations. And one thing I do know in life is that he should never be allowed anywhere near anyone, let alone teenagers.

babyjellyfish · 03/08/2022 21:32

autienotnaughty · 03/08/2022 21:29

@wellhelloitsme I hope you do. I would hate to think of you all being constantly angry at men 24/7. Very draining. Do you also take breaks from assuming all trans women are only trans so they can attack women more easily and beat women at sport?

I really could not care less why anyone is trans, because it is completely irrelevant to what a woman is, or who should be allowed into which single sex spaces and sporting categories.

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:34

Helleofabore · 03/08/2022 21:28

Sorry, you don't know of any females who have been banned from sport? And should I assume then , you have not established the healthy testosterone ranges for males and females, or even the extreme range of female testosterone that is the result of tumours and other significant health limiting issues?

Sorry, I am going to repeat my question from above. Do you understand that people with differences of sex development can be reliably categorised into either male or female sex categories?

How did you get this passed in your thesis?

My thesis wasn’t in biology, and even so wouldn’t need a list of women banned. I believe women with higher testosterone levels are women, you don’t, fine. Yes I know people are categorised into male or female categories, but this has changed over time based on who we want to exclude, and historically excluded non-white women, something which I also wrote about in my thesis. If you’re so desperate to read it let me know you’re address and I’ll post you a copy x

autienotnaughty · 03/08/2022 21:36

@Pinksandblues interesting post thank you. I am of the view point of womens spaces, mens spaces, mixed spaces and single spaces. Depending on the situation, inclusivity and safety both considered. Not that simple though I know.

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:38

Yes I know people are categorised into male or female categories, but this has changed over time based on who we want to exclude, and historically excluded non-white women, something which I also wrote about in my thesis

When did it exclude 'non white women'?

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:40

I hope you're aware that some of your previous posts on this thread have been deleted for racism electricdreaming. Maybe it's time you stepped back from using 'non white women' as a basis for your arguments.

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:40

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:38

Yes I know people are categorised into male or female categories, but this has changed over time based on who we want to exclude, and historically excluded non-white women, something which I also wrote about in my thesis

When did it exclude 'non white women'?

Pearce et al 2020, Westbrook & Schilt 2013, Patel 2017 and the Combahee River Collective 1983 all discuss this.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 03/08/2022 21:41

Do people accept that there is such a thing as the female and male reproductive systems, and reproductive roles? Or do you think that we can't call them that as some people belonging to each sex don't have every single element functional and present? Genuine question.

Helleofabore · 03/08/2022 21:41

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:29

The five sexes isn’t relevant to this work? And even if it was, read the other source :)

Actually, you are right. Five sexes probably is not relevant.

What is actually important to your claim is:

  1. that only males with differences in sex development are tested, sometimes excluded, currently, from some female sporting events or are limited in any way.

  2. that differences in sex development can be reliably categorised into either male or female conditions in almost all cases.

  3. males who go through any androgenised puberty have advantages over females and this applies also to those males that have testes that are not visible to the eye and may have been assigned 'female' at the time of their birth.

  4. the female testosterone level range has very little overlap with males (even those with differences of sex development that can process hormones in the same way as other males (ie. not those males with CAIS) and saying 'females with high testosterone' may well be misinformation.

  5. if any female has been wrongfully banned from sport because of the way they look or their testosterone, let's get together and fight for them that this never happens again and if they are still current athletes, for them to be able to participate.

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:41

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:40

I hope you're aware that some of your previous posts on this thread have been deleted for racism electricdreaming. Maybe it's time you stepped back from using 'non white women' as a basis for your arguments.

It’s not a basis for my arguments at all and it’s not racist to say that black women have historically been viewed as hyper masculine. If anything it’s highlighting the racist abuse they’ve experienced - please feel free to read the sources I have posted to develop your understanding of this.

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:42

Pearce et al 2020, Westbrook & Schilt 2013, Patel 2017 and the Combahee River Collective 1983 all discuss this

Im asking you, not those people. Can YOU give me some examples?

electricdreaming · 03/08/2022 21:43

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:42

Pearce et al 2020, Westbrook & Schilt 2013, Patel 2017 and the Combahee River Collective 1983 all discuss this

Im asking you, not those people. Can YOU give me some examples?

And I don’t have the time to write out other peoples work to you - if you want to understand how black women have been discriminated against in terms of their gender/sex and excluded from womanhood, please read the sources. They explain it far better than I could.

Helleofabore · 03/08/2022 21:43

If you’re so desperate to read it let me know you’re address and I’ll post you a copy

I was actually more interested in whether you had research that was relevant and whether your claims had merit and were not based on misinformation.

So, when you say 'female' we can now assume that you mean 'woman' then?

MbatataOwl · 03/08/2022 21:43

It’s not a basis for my arguments at all and it’s not racist to say that black women have historically been viewed as hyper masculine. If anything it’s highlighting the racist abuse they’ve experienced - please feel free to read the sources I have posted to develop your understanding of this

No, this is a discussion forum, people discuss here not just link. Do you have any examples?

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