To be annoyed that DP has invited his dad to join us in France

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Hi MN,
I’m having a bit of a confused moment…
DP and I are going away to France next week to meet up with some of his best mates & sister who I haven’t met yet (nervous) - he announced this morning that his dad (80) wants to come and ‘it’s ok if he comes with us in the car etc isn’t it’
He is arranging separate accommodation but the journey is long & I was looking forward to that journey as just us… I’m also working my arse off at the moment. haven’t had a holiday abroad in 3 years and probably won’t again for ages. His dad knows everyone who’ll be there really well; I have only met him a handful of times, one of those times he was a bit sexist, I pulled him up on it & he's been a bit quiet around me since.
DP saw my response and said ‘he doesn’t have to come’ but I’m now feeling like this holiday will be pretty weird as we will have his dad there with us a lot I expect.
Am I completely unreasonable?

It reads like it's dps family /friends hol and your invited? Therefore it's not really your call on who goes. I think you will have to suck it up or drop out.

It could be his last foreign holiday. Take one for the team.

Or if he's sprightly enough to face a long drive and ferry, he could have many more happy travelling years left , with any luck.

But that's not the point. The point is OP thought she'd signed up to a jolly holiday with her DP and a few chums. Instead it's turning into a family reunion, with her as the spare part.

DP may be a more the merrier type, and OP not.

I'd insist on a couples only holiday after this.

It's a tricky one and I don't think there is a winning solution.
I do think it's funny how some posters think an 80yo is automatically doddering and about to die. I also find the 'excuse' of its their generation a load of bollocks too.

DHs 96grandmother died almost 2 yrs ago and she wouldn't have put up with racism or sexism and is arguably a generation older.

My mum is in her late 70's was always a FT working mum and wouldn't put up with that shit either (she now has dementia and cannot speak)