To want baby number four?

[Ohforgoodnesssakess]

I know I am. I’ve just had baby number three and I am consumed with sadness this will be the last one.

she is so perfect I want another ten of her. Cannot believe i am never going to be pregnant again, give birth again, have a newborn again etc etc

i was so hoping I’d feel ‘done’ when she was born

i know rationally it makes no sense to have a fourth although it didn’t make sense to have a third either and that didn’t stop me and I’m so glad I did but I can’t stop feeling sad

tell me this feeling goes away? I can’t end up with twenty children!

I had an unplanned third. Honestly finances are a concern. 3 x everything. We do ok but with the cost of everything going up, it would have been so much easier to not have had him.

And why should the human race survive? We're the most selfish awful species. We deserve to die out although unfortunately it'll be those who contributed least to the environmental problems who will suffer most before the planet becomes uninhabitable in large parts.

I'm always amazed at women who want loads of babies. I don't know how you do it. I find my three stressful enough.

If you can afford it and you can mentally handle it then go for it.

It makes sense to plan for a future that may not fit your current circumstances. My df passed away when I was 12 and my dm was left with three kids to raise by herself. Luckily my df was a planner and we were financially secure and my dm is amazing - but it wasn’t the life she had in mind when she had her dc.

This made me stop at two as I knew I could provide for two whatever happened - not just financially but emotionally too. I can’t help but think that some people have lots of kids without a thought about what might happen if they lost their job, or their partner was to leave. Four kids or even three is always going to be expensive. Throw in an unexpected challenge - as often happens in life - and suddenly it’s a disaster. I simply don’t understand why some people don’t take that into consideration prior to having lots of children. To me it’s just sensible.

You are being rediculous

You even say you have a profession career
Poor kids will grow up in daycare and after school care.
And when you do have time for your kids;youd have to stretch yourself really thin. Its selfish to have 4 when you have a professional career as well.

But also without the career lets be honest

If we are going to be rude about it her kids will probably be able to spell.
@LuaDipa has a point - we have life insurance that will pay off the house but if something happened to either of us there will be a lot more pressure on the home life so I do think that while either of us can probably manage 2-3 lots of school fees if we
dont have a mortgage, 4 would probably be a bit much. I know private schools aren’t a must for everyone, but it has factored into my thinking.

Congratulations on your sweet new baby OP!

When my youngest was about 6/7 I started to feel content and not want another any more. Then my oldest was/is a PITA teen.

Then I unexpectedly fell pregnant at nearly 40 (I'm 25 weeks now and pretty thrilled lol) so... we plan & God laughs 😄

Maybe I'm not the best one to answer this.

Sure, but why do people think that's so difficult to manage with 4? It's not. They also another very important factor...they have each other as well. Do you know who a lot of people rely on emotionally as young adults and for the rest of their lives? Their siblings.
People never factor that in, they always say "oh they might hate each other!". Well of course they could, but its much more likely they won''t.