To not buy my niece a mr bean birthday cake?

[thestateofit]

Every year I order my 5 year old nieces birthday cake and this year she has asked for a pea green mr bean cake that looks like this? Aibu to try and persuade her to choose something else or would you just buy the cake? 🫣😂I don't know if can bring myself to pay probably the best part of £100 for a green mr bean cake!

It's not the price I'd just prefer something a bit more tasteful 😂

You can get a Mr Bean bendable and a green die cast mini on amazon for like £15. Decorate a cake and stick them on top. That's what we have always done, then they get the figures to play with.

This.

If you're not happy to be £100 for a clearly intricate cake, then you'll need to compromise with her, something easier to do but still Mr bean. And costs you less as that is a lot!

If you're not happy because it's not girly or 'suitable' for her, but would still happily spend £100 on a cake, you're a twat.

I’d be fine with it except for the price!

That said, I remember ordering a ridiculously expensive Spider-Man cake for dd’s 5th birthday party - my only excuse was that I was pregnant and not thinking straight! It was what she asked for a tbh it was delicious

She’s 5. Why would you expect her to want something tasteful, ffs? Get her the cake SHE wants for HER birthday.

This!

£100 for a cake is ridiculous.

If it is your custom to spend around £100 on a birthday cake for her (and no judgement from me, we all spoil our children/children of the family in different ways!), then I'd get it for her.

5yos don't do 'tasteful'.

But the cake isn't for you

"No, now you are 5 and a great big girl I'm going to give you A SURPRISE and it's much more fun than a cake".

What message do you send her if you ask her what she wants then get something different?
Either don’t ask in the first place or get what she asks for.

She's 5. 🙄

You're willing to spend £100 on a cake for a young child but object to the colour?

I know the cake is hideous 😂 but honestly this is nonsensical. It’s one thing spending £100 when it’s exactly what she wants and will make her happy. If you can comfortably afford it then it’s totally justifiable. However, it would be a stupid waste of money to spend £100 on a cake she doesn’t really want. If you’re not going to get her choice then you may as well get any party cake from the supermarket.

My sister doesn't care she just said she will love that, she has no problem with me organising the cake. It seems the consensus is that it's hideous but just get it anyway because it's what she wants. I suppose she will always remember the year she had a bright green mr bean cake for her birthday 🤣

Classy? Get what she wants. She'll want something a bit fancier when she's older. Possibly.

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Aw, if the cost isn't an issue, get her the cake, OP!

Someone asked me what I'd like for my birthday a few weeks ago. I gave my answer.

She bought me something completely different, which I'll never use. I was pretty disappointed. And I'm 40

You would be the best aunt ever, buy her what she wants, if that is the whole £100 cake version then do that, otherwise the cake topper from Etsy. Do you want to see her face light up with joy or be disappointed?

This is about what a 5 year old has requested. I have done whole themed parties over the years for my sons. If I can do it at a reasonable price then I do.

I don't get the objection to the colour green, totally normal colour scheme for many different birthday cakes. The actual Mr Bean fondant figure is pretty hideous, but then that's what the cartoon character looks like. I've made birthday cakes for my children that have featured a variety of multicoloured "tasteless" cartoon characters. It's what they like, it's their birthday, the point is to please the child not to please yourself with a tasteful cake.

She will also remember you as the auntie that listens 💕 and as she gets older that will be priceless.

She's 5 op, she's not the queen. Get over it and buy the damn cake. 😂

No she won't.

take a photograph as proof, because it will be lost in the mists of memory.

She's 5, she's supposed to want a hideous cake! My DD would love it, sadly my cake decorating skills are not quite up to that level...

If it's not about the money then you should get her what she wants.

Otherwise you are just sending the message 'If I don't like it, you shouldn't like it'.

She is trying to show her personality and asking for what she likes, I think it sends the wrong message to not allow that. What would you encourage her to have instead? Something more mainstream (i.e. boring)?

I think it's great that she wants something different to other kids. And it really doesn't matter if you don't like it or not, as long as it's not inappropriate. You are two different people and can like different things.

How did she see it? The niece i mean.

Does she get to look online and pick or is it in a window somewhere?

Can you not get a small cake like this and put the other £50 into savings for her.

To me £100 is a tremendous waste of money on a frivolous quickly forgotten moment.

I would try and persuade her to choose a different one. Especially if there's other children there they might tease her over it. Kid's can be cruel.

But if that's what she really wants I would get her it. I love Mr Bean, I think her choice is hilarious.😂😂😂