We (me, dh and ds 10) are currently on holiday in a fab hotel but I'm on edge and so upset tonight
Ds is the absolute apple of my eye, I adore him and throw praise and attention at him. He's generally loving and polite but he's developed this horrible snipey streak towards me and it's uncharacteristically getting me down
He must have criticised / sniped at me literally dozens of times today and yesterday
-mam can't sing, there's literally nobody worse
-you can't throw the ball straight / you're literally rubbish / you're the worst thrower / you can't even catch (in the pool)
-mam is the worst dancer / everyone is a better dancer than mam
-mam chose the worst sun beds / put the towels on wrong
It sounds ridiculous - and I feel childish for being upset but it feels constant
I've sat him down and told him it's hurtful, given him time out, taken his tech. He apologies, acts sorry, tells me he loves me then literally the next thing out of his mouth is negative towards me
I'm a teacher - known for not going a pushover and for having a handle on discipline. Ds is usually a good lad. He's always erred on the negative side whixh we're trying to steer him away from but it's another level this week
Not sure why I'm posting but dh is having a cool bath and ds is snoring in the bed next to mine looking angelic and I'm feeling emotional
Please help me rescue the holiday and my relationship with ds
AIBU?
How the hell do I manage this behaviour?
Workyticket · 24/07/2022 21:15
Am I being unreasonable?
288 votes. Final results.
POLLWorkyticket · 24/07/2022 21:42
Thank you - some lovely advice here which I'll throw into place 2m.
I'll get dh on board with praising and being positive about me (he's lovely but not very verbal with these things so it'll help him too)
I think.i may well be reading my book a lot tomorrow
I really hoped to throw loads of time at ds and would happily throw the ball as long as he wanted but there's no chance I'm putting up with constant put downs
SurfBox · 26/07/2022 08:43
There are some really misogynistic voices out there on Tiktok and YouTube who appear "cool" and "fun" to young lads when they are in reality quite malign. Or it could be that some of his peers have decided that it is cool to mock their mothers and put them down, either because they are copying the way their fathers behave
How come every thread on mn comes back to some form of male bashing and it being misogyny? The amount of people too who said he might be copying his father...wtf? No it is just a kid being cheeky,no women hating mission behind it.
There have being umpteen similar threads on girls doing the same to their mums and nobody ever says it's misgyony but when a boy does it the gloves are off.
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LondonWolf · 24/07/2022 21:45
My children are told firmly not to speak to me like that. It is made very clear that that kind of sneery spite will result very quickly in the nice things I do for them being withdrawn and they know I mean it. I don't ignore it or brush it off,
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