Do you say thank you…

[Summersummersummertime77]

When someone has cooked you a meal?

Parents staying with us and we went to get fresh fish from the fish market then to the shop. We made a salad, bread etc with it, made a big bbq.
Afterwards we cleaned up and no one said thank you for the meal.
Just thinking about it, would you say thank you?
It’s just my natural instinct to say ‘That was lovely, thank you’ or something along those lines…
Are my parents quite rude?

I was taught probably by hearing my father thank my mother for the meal and so we followed suit. We would say thank you may I leave the table? My DC now 21 & 18 always say thank you. They don’t ask to leave the table but just don’t until we’ve all finished .

Did you say thank you every time your parents cooked for you? yes. It was expected, its just basic manners.

Do your children to you? yes they do. It's basic manners. Please, thank you, sorry, excuse me, pardon me etc.

Yes I would say thank you. My parents would say thank you, they even say it's nice when I ruin it.

Next time try saying 'I hope you enjoyed it' or 'Did you like it?'.

Yes rude, even a ‘oh that was lovely, really enjoyed that’, would suffice.

I honestly don't get this. Cooking IS giving someone something.

And yes, when family do stuff I thank them and when I do stuff they thank me. Because it's nice.

Yes, when someone does something for you, you should always show gratitude.

@SpiderVersed

So my dh hoovers everyday.

You think I should thank him?

Or the kids put their washing away or do the dishes?

I should thank them?

@Topgub no because they're doing those things for themselves not for you. Cooking a meal is doing it for the other person, so that's when they should be thanked.
I thank my children for doing things like taking my washing upstairs ready to be put away, because they're doing that for me. I don't thank them for taking their own washing because they're doing that for themselves.

@Topgub in our house we each have chores/tasks we do and that's just part of life. But otherwise, when we do stuff for one another we always thank each other as a matter of course. I thought that was normal.

Yes...my other half always says thank you even if dinner is a disaster...which it is 50% of the time 🤣

@SpiderVersed

So how come cooking isn't just part of life?

@HerRoyalHappiness

I rarely cook just for other people.

I've just made ds a snack he asked for (he said please and thank you)

He did not say thank you after dinner.

I dont think thats rude

@Topgub in our house that would be seen as rude. If I've spent time cooking a meal, even if I'm eating some myself I've still prepared and cooked it for the children, then they should thank me for the effort I put into it. Bloody hell I can buy a takeaway and the DC thank me for it.

@HerRoyalHappiness

They would say thank you for a takeaway because that's a treat

So they thank you for sitting and buying something but not for going to the effort of making something?

YANBU
Yes, I would definatly say thank you and would have offered to help with preperation beforehand.

Its rude not to.

We do yes. Me, DH, DD. We thank everyone for everything. I was brought up to be over the top polite and that's a great thing.
I can't bear rudeness.

@HerRoyalHappiness

I think using the word effort to describe my cooking is a stretch.

I find over the top politeness really insincere and annoying

Yes. I always say thank you when someone has made me any kind of food or even bought a takeaway. It’s just good manners. Someone’s gone out of their way to take the time to give u food so u should be thankful. Unfortunately it’s always bloody me that cooks in this house. I’d thank my lucky stars if someone cooked for me at home lol

But when it's done naturally its not insincere. It's only insincere of its forced. Teach children to say thank you for their meals and it becomes natural.

@HerRoyalHappiness

I dont see the need

🤷‍♀️

Always. I mean my kids don't always, but then that's a daily thing and I just get a quick 'thanks mum'. My oldest I only see once or twice a month now and he always thanks me if I cook. Last time he did and I thanked him.

Always. After the meal and again at the door before I leave
Manners cost nothing and mean a lot

We thank each other all the time. For putting toys away, cooking, hanging washing out, putting baby to bed etc. It's not a forced thing and we don't do it for everything as some sort of rule but we do it a lot, just natu

...Naturally.

I couldn't imagine not thanking someone for a meal cooked for me.