Do you say thank you…

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When someone has cooked you a meal?

Parents staying with us and we went to get fresh fish from the fish market then to the shop. We made a salad, bread etc with it, made a big bbq.
Afterwards we cleaned up and no one said thank you for the meal.
Just thinking about it, would you say thank you?
It’s just my natural instinct to say ‘That was lovely, thank you’ or something along those lines…
Are my parents quite rude?

Ok so favour was the wrong word - they’ve done something you’ve benefitted from which they put time and effort into - everyone in my family would always thank whoever cooked a meal. To be honest I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t - I was brought up that way as were my children. It’s not a big fanfare just “thank you for supper” it acknowledges peoples efforts and certainly doesn’t diminish from something being a shared responsibility or task. It also makes the person who cooked know their efforts are important and valued.

I thank the postman for delivering the post, the person at the bank who helps with a query etc - these are their jobs which they are paid to do but it’s still important to say thank you.

I genuinely can’t think of a single person - adult or child - who wouldn’t thank the person who cooked a meal.

How bizarre.

@KittyMcKitty

I'd be more likely to say, oh that was really nice/lovely than thanks

I get in from work and cook for my family. If they ate it and left the table without thanking me I’d think I’d done something wrong in raising them. When they cook I thank them. Even if we serve ourselves we all still say something like ‘This is tasty thank you.’

VERY rude. My DH thanks me all the time - (yeah yeah I do most of the cooking so shoot me! I don't care 😬) He even thanks me when I bring something from the chippy, (even though I didn't cook it.)

And even when we get a takeaway, I dish it out whilst he gets undressed/gets the beers out of the fridge etc, and he thanks me for it after he's finished. I have even said 'thanks for what? ' He says 'well, for putting it on the plates!'

Not thanking someone for making you a meal is rooooooooooooood!

Just wondering in homes where a thank you for dinner amongst family for a bog standard every day meal is essential, do you also thank God for every meal? (Wondering if there’s a religious connection).

Agree. @Aswad that is REAAAAAAAAAAAALY reaching babe!

We’re another household where we thank each other for most stuff. I particularly appreciate DH thanking me for dinner and telling me when he thinks it’s especially nice - it makes it feel worthwhile to put in a bit more effort!

And I am thankful to DH for doing chores. So why wouldn’t I say that? He knows the ones I hate and kindly does those 😀

Hmm, I'd always thank friends and thank my parents if they'd made something special but not to DH at home, no.

If someone cooked for me I would thank them

As far from religious as you can get!

Why on earth would I thank god? I’m agnostic!

Please and thank you are the most commonly said words in our house. And showing gratitude for whatever someone does for you, even if it's just passing the tv remote, means we have a very happy and welcoming household.

My DH and I thank each other after one of us has made a dinner. Usually it’s a quick “Thanks. That was lovely.” If I were you, next time at the end of the meal I would thank DH for whatever he had made (or he thank you) to see if that triggers their manners.

It's just good manners isn't it? I'm sure as a child you were nagged to say please and Thankyou, with my mum she seems to have regressed and I did mention it last time we were out

We always thank each other for meals, even if it's just 'thanks for my toast!'. It's weird and rude not to.

It’s just really annoyed me tbh.

Plus Dh did all the bbq etc, dad barely uttered a word throughout, just ate and then collected a couple of plates.
If Dh hands me a plate of food at home, I always just automatically say thank you, he doesn’t cook as such v often at all. If he’d made something different/properly cooked, I’d definitely say it was lovely etc

I would, but I doubt I would notice if my mum or PIL did. I can't get hung up on formal manners between adult close family members. If they came and were good company, enjoyed the food, I enjoyed myself and we all had a nice time then that's plenty of appreciation and I wouldn't sour my enjoyment of it if they momentarily forgot their manners and left out those two words.

If someone has cooked for me, (usually husband as I can never be arsed 😁 ) I always say "that was lovely, thank you."
Just basic manners, innit.

I work with primary child and it’s clear who has been taught manners and who just snatches. Funnily enough it’s the more well heeled that don’t thank.

I do. But as a one-off I wouldn't really notice if someone forgot to thank me (depending on the effort involved in cooking!)

I always say thank you if someone else has cooked me a meal. They were very rude.

I think it depends how often you cook for them.

If someone gives me a plate of food then I automatically thank them, I wouldn’t just take it and not say anything. But I wouldn’t thank them again after I’ve eaten.

If I was a guest then I would say thank you when I received the plate and then thank you again either after I’ve finished it as I’m leaving.

In this scenario I would have said thanks for the food/thanks for inviting us around or something as I was leaving.

It’s possible they simply forgot.

Cultural differences are at play sometimes in this. Still doesn’t make it right though.

Yes always. And DH and I always do to each other. It’s basic respect