Do you say thank you…

[Summersummersummertime77]

When someone has cooked you a meal?

Parents staying with us and we went to get fresh fish from the fish market then to the shop. We made a salad, bread etc with it, made a big bbq.
Afterwards we cleaned up and no one said thank you for the meal.
Just thinking about it, would you say thank you?
It’s just my natural instinct to say ‘That was lovely, thank you’ or something along those lines…
Are my parents quite rude?

Normally yes but sometimes people forget and with Covid a lot of people have forgotten how to be social!! I’d let them away with it😉

Why would you not thank people? If someone has done something for others you thank them - cooking, emptying dishwasher, hanging out the washing whatever. It shows their efforts are noticed and appreciated and are of worth.

Weird response

@KittyMcKitty

Because that implies that doing those things is doing me a favour.

Its not.

They're everyone's jobs not mine

Yes, of course it’s impolite to not say thank you! It usually rolls naturally of guests’ tongues at the end of a meal. To not acknowledge the effort your host has made is v odd. The fact they didn’t clear up afterwards too. Just ugh.

We always thank each other for cooking. Why not? It's courteous and it's good to show appreciation.

It’s good manners, always say thank you and also to
People doing the dishwasher, bin etc.

@Topgub but they have done you a favour - they’ve cooked you a meal. Of course they’re everyone’s job but if only one person has done the task you thank them. And then if the next day someone else has done it you thank that person. Just because they’re everybody’s jobs doesn’t mean you shouldn’t show appreciation to the person who has actually done the work on that occasion whoever that may be! To not do so sounds massively rude and entitled!

It’s a bit odd that you do and they don’t. Surely they brought you up to say it?

I agree - nobody asked to be brought in to this world! And it’s good manners to say thank you when someone does something for you surely!

Always. Even if it's just Dh and I. We always show appreciation for a meal prepared.

@KittyMcKitty

I dont agree. My oh/kids cooking isn't doing me a favour.

Any more than me cooking is doing them a favour. It's just life.

Guests are different

Why would you thank people for everything all the time always? Surely it just becomes a rote platitude and meaningless. If it’s thank you for fetching the shreddies, no worries DS thank you for not spilling milk on the table. Of course DM and thank you for todays lunch money and washing my PE kit.

Surely thanking is for special effort for others. It means more that way. Hearing it a million times a day for everything, well it loses all significance.

I have always said thank you for my meal and that I enjoyed it or it was really nice thank you. I don’t know any anyone that doesn’t.

Yes would always say thank you. Me & DH always thank each other too

We always thank whoever has cooked in this house … would be weird and rude not to.

@Topgub if someone hands you a plate of food, do you say nothing?

Of course. Everyone who did not cook should always say thank you to the person who did, family or not. Basic manners. Just like if someone brought me a cup of tea I would say thank you.

There's a great game you should play with them - everyone passes a teaspoon around and draws a smiley face in the air, you have to copy exactly what the person before did. If you don't do it right you haven't got it and you have to wait for the next go. When passed the spoon you start by saying thank you, then draw the face. Amazing how long it takes some people to actually "get it" and do the thank you bit!!

Always say thank you, even if it’s just a sandwich!

Ahahahaha what??? This comment reminds me of those parents who think because they’re the parent, they’re entitled to treat their children any way and cross boundaries because they brought them into the world….crazy.

Always thank the cook.

(Always thank the driver too.)

@Benjispruce4

If I was a guest? I'd say thank you.

Its the only time I'd ever be handed a plate of food.

At home we dish up in the kitchen and take our plates through ourselves normally

I guess if I was being served I would say thanks as a reflex. The kids do too.

It just doesn't ever really happen

I sure as shit ain't thanking anyone that likes here for doing housework

We always say thank you to whoever has cooked dinner, even when it is just us and no guests.

I am pretty sure that everyone who stays with us also say thankyou.

That does seem a bit rude of your parents. But think back to when you lived at home. Was saying thank you for the meal the norm then? If not, then I guess this is why they don't think to do it to you in your home.

If your DH or anyone makes you a sandwich?

They did that for their benefit? They wanted a child?

What a weird response!