In labour and alone - hand hold please

[GoTraine]

I was induced earlier today. I just had a CTG and my contractions are between 50-80, every two minutes. Midwife said they'll break my waters as soon as I'm on delivery suite, But, there's no space on the delivery suite so I can't have any pain relief except paracetamol and, even worse, DH has been sent home because he's not allowed to stay unless I'm on delivery suite...and yet, they've made an exception for the only other woman on the ward so her DH is with her.

In my last labour, I was induced and went from them saying the induction had failed and they'd try again the next day to 8cm dilated and contracting like a bitch in less than 3 hours - my pushing phase was only 17 minutes. I'm terrified DH will miss it. I wanted a damn epidural and I'm scared it'll be too late by the time there's space in delivery.

I'm so alone.

What great news, OP, congratulations.

I hope you're home and resting with your lovely new baby.

I live this comment you made. Gas & air wasn’t great for me but thankfully I had very little pain when I was in labour. Congratulations on the birth of your little girl 😍

My heart breaks for you, sending a big hug and hand squeeze, 😌

Congrats to all the family! :-)

I've only just got to your message but I'm here too and if it's any help at all I'm thinking of you and holding your hand. I pray your beautiful baby comes safely into this world and that all is well with you and your family .

@Scarriff

OP has had the baby.
Read the updates (or even just the post immediately above yours)

I had my daughter in May of 2020 I was alone on the antenatal ward for my whole induction which took 3 days and ended in a failed induction. I was alone for every prick prod attempt to break my waters ecg the lot. But then again so was everyone it wasn't nice but we knew going in it would be that way. DH wasn't even called immediately when I was taken to delivery. They broke my waters first then said okay if you want to call your birth partner now you can.

I do feel for you though as I expected my birth to be that way because of the way the world was at the time. Things are better now and if you've gone in expecting it to be one way and it's not that would be hard.

also I'll just add I ended up having an emergency c section and after my hour in recovery with DH they wheeled me and our daughter away pretty swiftly without being able to say goodbye. I had to ask to be able to say goodbye while my partner stood like a bewildered goose bury not sure what they were doing. They reluctantly wheeeled me 20ft back down the corridor to allow my partner to kiss his hour old daughter goodbye (ridiculous, absolutely no compassion as all)

this post was a few days ago so I'm assuming you've had baby now, if so big congratulations and hope it all ended well

Also when I went in to be induced in the morning I had a massive mental breakdown at the door, saying goodbye to my DH knowing I was going in to do it all alone, and so where 2 other women who were going in to, it still breaks my heart it should never have happened that way.

Littlemiss, I can only imagine how hard that must have been. I remember at the time reading about women in labour and giving birth alone and it was heartbreaking. Have you had access to any counselling, therapy, anything, since? These things can stay with us a long time if we don't take steps to heal.

The lack of compassion from some midwives is astonishing!! Why do this job if you’re going to treat peoplelike this - those saying the NHS is stretched are missing the point that if her DH was allowed there she’d be less reliant on the staff!! Utterly ridiculous

Are people still going to be posting good luck and hand holds on this thread when the baby is 5?! Read the updates people

Good luck! Hand squeeze

I know…. @mnhq really need to change the title for OP!

@jewishmum

OP is at home with her beautiful little girl.
She doesn't need a hand squeeze.