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To email my notice with immediate effect.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 22:55

Started a job 3 weeks in ago as a health care and support worker and it's not what I've been expecting. I've come from a special school and this feels so much different and alot more expected in my job role then what was discussed. Such as driving their vehicle which is a van, I said I could drive but wasn't expecting to drive a automatic van thought of it is making me anxious, cooking meals and so much cleaning! They are short staffed so I've literally been left to get on with it. My rota has been all over the place and I actually ended up working the weekend even though I wasnt told I was due in but I decided to go in when called asking where I was! I still don't even know my hours for the next two weeks and the are doing weekly due staffing over the summer. That aside I don't enjoy the job either! The thing is I'm not someone who doesn't just turn up an dket people down but I can't face handing notice in both situations is making me ill and I've not stopped crying. In the employee handbook it says I have to give one weeks notice after a month working there so what happens if I've only been there 3 weeks? It just feels shit

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EmmaH2022 · 20/07/2022 22:56

What's the notice under a month?

sorry you're feeling bad Flowers

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 22:58

Basically I don't want to let the clients down. But I have work tomorrow and Friday and so wanted to email them after the shift to say its not working. I'm not sure what my days are next week they haven't given me the rota but I think it's a Tuesday. I am very loyal and reliable but I can't do this job much longer😭

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Mummybear888 · 20/07/2022 22:58

Hand your notice in with immediate effect, if allowed.

Your mental health is a priority. I hope you feel better soon 😊.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 22:59

It's doesn't say what the notice is under a month!

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 20/07/2022 22:59

Did you post about this the other week? I think if you absolutely know you hate it you should leave. I was in a job I hated for about 2 years

WGO · 20/07/2022 23:02

It's not a job everyone can do....so I understand how you feel.

I would have a word with the boss when next in and explain that it's just not for you and that you'd like to put in your notice asap. You may find no notice is required as you have not yet been there a month.

Perhaps if you are already penned in for some shifts you can agree to cover a couple.

EmmaH2022 · 20/07/2022 23:06

Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 22:59

It's doesn't say what the notice is under a month!

I suspect it's no notice.

for the sake of a reference can you do a couple of days? It may not be necessary.

Frolicinameadow · 20/07/2022 23:10

If you want to do the next 2 shifts that you are aware of, do those and email to say you won’t be back after these shifts.
under a month there is no mandatory notice period and the job sounds intense. I will say, the employer is unlikely to offer any type of positive comments should you give their information as a reference but I think you know that and can avoid it.
please don’t see this as a personal failure. A friend of mine has been doing this type of work for a while now and is mentally exhausted by it. The constant adding of duties is nothing I have ever seen before.

JulyDreams · 20/07/2022 23:12

I would leave, mental health is important. It's a difficult situation and you may feel a bit guilty but put yourself first. I am seeing it happen more and more recently in jobs.

DelphiniumBlue · 20/07/2022 23:16

Yes you should leave - they are not decent employers if they guilt you into coming in at the weekend when you haven't been rota'd to do so. And not giving you notice of shifts is terrible. I suspect it's standard in that industry though.
If you give them a few days notice, that would be nice, although you are not required to at this point.

CheshireSplat · 20/07/2022 23:16

If the contract doesn't say what the notice period is under a month, there is no notice. www.acas.org.uk/notice-periods/notice-when-resigning

You could, of course, give them more and work tomorrow and Friday if you wanted to.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:16

Yes I did post the other week! Sorry to go on about it but I seem to be sucked in deeper and deeper! I think I have to give a week's notice 😭😭. In the handbook I'm sure it said after a month 1 week but in my job offer it says one week during probation. I literally worked the weekend even though I had it off. But they called me asking me where I was. Apparently there's two rotas one for in house and another for community. I've not even worked in the community and hadn't even been given that rota!

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:18

Due to staffing issues the rota is being down a week before! That doesn't work for me at all.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:18

So basically I was due to work the weekend but hadn't been given that's rota.

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chocolatecoffee · 20/07/2022 23:30

Hand in notice and call in sick till it is up

MissMaple82 · 20/07/2022 23:31

Your still in probationary period. Leave now without notice. The truth is, they don't give a shiny shite about you so you do what you have to do. After 3 weeks you have no loyalties

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 20/07/2022 23:32

@Meltinthemiddle no need to apologise at all. You're not going on about it. It's obviously stressing you out. I've posted about things several times before.

YesINameChangedToAnswer · 20/07/2022 23:37

Go go go!

I wouldn't even want a reference from there as it sounds like it's a bloody farce working there. In my job the manager was horrendous. Falsified paperwork, was fucking lazy (see falsified paperwork), didn't follow the laws, both employment and for the actual job (similar to yours), took deductions for things like training and uniforms from NMW workers putting them at less than NMW, treated staff with contempt if they weren't personal friends, throwing anyone under the bus for the manager's own (legal) failings, asserted dominance by cancelling holidays last minute or making sure the staff were rota'd on when they had specifically asked that they weren't scheduled for a certain day (rota was never the same so there was no reason to insist on particular days) and infuriatingly, the rota was put out on a Sunday afternoon quite often with it only starting the day after! And you could never plan ahead as the rota was issued once week at a time with little notice.
I stuck it out because manager was going to a new job. Had he stayed then most of the staff wouldn't have been there now.

Original poster
Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:40

Thank you for the replies. This is what is says so does that mean a weeks notice?

To email my notice with immediate effect.
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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:41

It says after one month but in probation period I have to give a week? Probation period is for 6mths.

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EmmaH2022 · 20/07/2022 23:41

MissMaple82 · 20/07/2022 23:31

Your still in probationary period. Leave now without notice. The truth is, they don't give a shiny shite about you so you do what you have to do. After 3 weeks you have no loyalties

On second thoughts, I'd do that

three weeks won't go on your CV anyway, i'm guessing? It's all far too stressful, just go. I keep hoping employers will pull their socks up on account of shortages.

dontdrinkanddriveok · 20/07/2022 23:42

There is nothing there about under one month, and let's be honest, after 3 weeks you still shouldn't be alone .

Sorry you are going through this, tell them how you feel and quit.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:44

The only think is they wont be pay me if I don't give the correct notice but I'm confused as it say after one month but in probation period!

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Aconitum · 20/07/2022 23:46

You have not been there a month so you don't actually have to give any notice. You can just not go in again. Send the email and tell them you won't be returning.

icelolly99 · 20/07/2022 23:50

Under 1 month you can just leave.

Between 1 month and the end of your 6 month probation period you have to give them 1 weeks notice.

Is that clearer?

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