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To email my notice with immediate effect.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 22:55

Started a job 3 weeks in ago as a health care and support worker and it's not what I've been expecting. I've come from a special school and this feels so much different and alot more expected in my job role then what was discussed. Such as driving their vehicle which is a van, I said I could drive but wasn't expecting to drive a automatic van thought of it is making me anxious, cooking meals and so much cleaning! They are short staffed so I've literally been left to get on with it. My rota has been all over the place and I actually ended up working the weekend even though I wasnt told I was due in but I decided to go in when called asking where I was! I still don't even know my hours for the next two weeks and the are doing weekly due staffing over the summer. That aside I don't enjoy the job either! The thing is I'm not someone who doesn't just turn up an dket people down but I can't face handing notice in both situations is making me ill and I've not stopped crying. In the employee handbook it says I have to give one weeks notice after a month working there so what happens if I've only been there 3 weeks? It just feels shit

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:52

OK thanks Ice. My anxiety is just really high so I'm overthinking it.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:53

It's does seem strange though!

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MugginsOverEre · 20/07/2022 23:55

Keeping wages is wage theft and is illegal. IF you quit without notice and you weren't in probationary period then it's possible that they could make a claim of expenses occurred like having to pay for temporary replacement staffing but you're less than a month in. Probation means they can get rid of you whenever they like so you have that same right.

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Meltinthemiddle · 20/07/2022 23:57

I just looked at the calendar and I actually started 27th June so not sure what counts as a month now! So maybe I'm just over.

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NellesVilla · 21/07/2022 00:06

Fuck that shit. Just leave, OP. It’s not worth the worry.

This is about you- nobody else- and your mental health is number 1. I recently added a little evening receptionist job to my day job. Couldn’t hack it (rude customers and fast, exhausting, relentless pace) and failed to return after 1 shift!

Sounds like you’ve given it a good go and it’s not for you. I work in admin for a care company atm (and have been a carer in the past) and it can be a tough, harsh sector that is not is a great place right now. I am also looking to leave the industry but need to retrain.

What might you do after this? 💐

LampLighter414 · 21/07/2022 00:07

Even In a worst case. Hand in notice with 1 week and then just go sick. Even if you don’t get paid.

unfortunately the sector is generally underpaid and mismanaged as a result (the contracts pay too little, margins for owners can be too high so the companies pay their staff too little) and they rely a lot on the goodwill of staff being happy to work all hours they can get (because they are desperate for the money) or because they feel guilty about the clients/service users etc. I think many employers in the sector would operate similarly with ever changing, short notice rotas and far more demands in the job than advertised in the job spec. Perhaps try another type of work next or could you return to what you used to do?

Runnerduck34 · 21/07/2022 00:12

You're under a month its 21st today.
So I think if you resign in less a month ( by 26th) then no notice period is required , after a month it's 1 week notice ( including remaining 5 months probation period)
It's sounds horrendous and that they are taking advantage of staff, it's totally reasonable to say its not working out for me and resign, say you will do just the 2 rotad shifts and no more, if you want to you could give them a weeks notice but really you don't need to as long as you resign by 26th.
Also as its been less than a month you don't need to put the job on your cv or need them for a reference.
When are you due to get paid?

HuffleWoof · 21/07/2022 00:15

@Meltinthemiddle call in sick and then get a drs note if needed. Tell your gp you've already been off for a week and now need a note. It's not worth risking your mental health for a job where they don't care

HuffleWoof · 21/07/2022 00:18

I meant after you've given notice. I'd also report to cqc that they're risking service users well-being.

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Meltinthemiddle · 21/07/2022 00:23

Thank you everyone. I think the staffing issue is horrendous as constantly asking for help to do extra hours on the group WhatsApp. I wanted a better family/work balance working 3 days a week but this will just make me feel guilty if I dotn cover or swap shifts. I've managed to secure a agency job with job care so I can recover from the stress of this. Also I've taken a client out on my own in the community but I am not first aid trained is this right? It doesn't seem right to me.

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Meltinthemiddle · 21/07/2022 00:24

*child care agency even.

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sidheandlight · 21/07/2022 00:24

stop worrying and just quit. It doesn't matter what the notice is, they are hardly going to come after you, for what? If it is too much, quit. Nobody is indispensable and they will just work around it. Write an email, hit send and lean back in your chair and breathe again. I've seen people in positions much longer than you, simply go to lunch and not come back 😆

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Meltinthemiddle · 21/07/2022 00:52

I wish I was that brave! 😭

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SakuraSky · 21/07/2022 02:48

You've wanted to quit from day one. You need to just do it now, before you've worked there for a month.
Staying an extra day or two isn't really helping them. It's trying to re-stick a non-sticky plaster over a gaping wound.

Saz12 · 21/07/2022 03:29

Just quit. You don’t owe them any loyalty (they wouldn’t be loyal to you).

alanabennett · 21/07/2022 03:35

I'd have to disagree with some of the previous posters. Resign, certainly, but don't just email a resignation and not show up again. I think if it less in terms of "well they don't care about me so WTH" and more "I have too much integrity to behave that way." Go in to your next shift; resign and work a week or so. Then you'll walk away with your head held high and no regrets.

HerRoyalNotness · 21/07/2022 03:50

I’ve done the email resignation and said I wasn’t coming back the next day and that was after about 9mths.

just do it

xyzabchij · 21/07/2022 04:22

You can quit and not go back in and still have your head held high. You haven't done anything wrong.

BuanoKubiamVej · 21/07/2022 04:38

Given that the employee handbook says you have to give a week's notice after a month I think that's a clear indication that they fully expect that some people will realise that they aren't compatible with the job within the first 2-3 weeks and will just stop. They almost certainly have had people walk away with no notice before.

However, if you can manage to give even a day or two of notice that will mean that minimise the number of clients who are let down. It gives the rota manager a chance to put together a rota without you. Can't you email this morning and say you can work today and tomorrow but that's it, you are done. 48 hours notice is a kindness that you don't owe them but there's no harm to you to do this. It is fone to walk away. It's not going to be news to them that the job is too tough for a lot of people. I don't blame you for a moment.

Aprilx · 21/07/2022 05:05

I honestly don’t know what your notice periods is, you seem to have two conflicting sources. The handbook would indicate there is no notice periods right now, but you say you have an offer letter / contract that states a week.

Either way, hand in your notice today, this isn’t going to get better. I cannot imagine there will be any consequences if you didn’t return at all, but equally, if you want to feel better about it, say you will work a couple more shifts, when you know they are your last they won’t seem as bad as they do now.

Viviennemary · 21/07/2022 05:19

You dont owe this firm snything. Resign eith immediate effdct. You have only been their three weeks. Or go off sick. Cheeky about asking you to drive a van when it was never mentioned.

Viviennemary · 21/07/2022 05:20

Oh for an edit button.

Ontomatopea · 21/07/2022 05:20

You can leave with no notice from the looks of that. If you really wanted to you could offer to do the two shifts you are aware of but I would be put that in writing with your notice. This is what probation periods are for so don't worry.

Ontomatopea · 21/07/2022 05:22

Aprilx · 21/07/2022 05:05

I honestly don’t know what your notice periods is, you seem to have two conflicting sources. The handbook would indicate there is no notice periods right now, but you say you have an offer letter / contract that states a week.

Either way, hand in your notice today, this isn’t going to get better. I cannot imagine there will be any consequences if you didn’t return at all, but equally, if you want to feel better about it, say you will work a couple more shifts, when you know they are your last they won’t seem as bad as they do now.

Ah thats a good point your letter might day different. I agree though just hand in your notice ASAP. They might even agree to waive the notice period if there is one.

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Meltinthemiddle · 21/07/2022 07:30

This is my letter of the job offer. The above was in my statement which it says to refer to in employee handbook.

To email my notice with immediate effect.
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