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My Parents are a bit selfish don't you think?

184 replies

waterlegoblocks · 17/07/2022 18:15

My Parents live in an area where the water companies have set messages to everyone telling them not to use hosepipes over the coming days due to the extreme heat. When I spoke to my parents earlier they said they are still going to use the hosepipe as they pay a lot of money for water usage and if they are not going to receive a discount for being told not to use water they are going to carry on using it as they like to water their garden most days during the Summer.

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WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 17/07/2022 20:06

Sometimeswinning · 17/07/2022 19:41

Keep arguing they are right? Ignore the majority for their own wants? Insist they have a right regardless of any other opinions? Not a Brexiteer!

Grin
Delatron · 17/07/2022 20:07

I remember in the last heatwave in 2018 we left our lawn to go brown as my MIL said it would recover. I visited clients houses and they all had sprinklers going and lovely green lawns.
It didn’t recover - we were left with huge patches and it looked a mess. Had to spend a lot of money getting all returfed and just had the garden landscaped with new plants.

At the moment we don’t have a hosepipe ban but I’d rather take a 30 second shower and cut down water use that way than sacrifice my lawn again.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 17/07/2022 20:07

CactusBlossom · 17/07/2022 19:19

Do they have a water meter? If so, their usage will be logged. Perhaps they could have a water butt to collect water during rainy weather so that they will have access to that source of water when the weather is dry. The short answer is, yes, they are being selfish. In 1976, many people watered their plants with water from washing up or after having a (shared) bath, so it was reused rather than straight from the mains water supply. 1976 was a long, hot summer...

We need some shots pouring, so we can neck one every time someone mentions the summer of 19 fucking 76! Hmm We'll be flat out on our backs before 10pm.

People can go on about using the bathwater/washing up water etc to water plants, but I have never EVER known anyone do it. Confused

Silverswirl · 17/07/2022 20:09

Fingeronthebutton · 17/07/2022 19:42

The time will come ( with the technology we have now) when each household will be allowed a certain amount of water. When you’ve had your months quotas you will be turned off.

Yup I can see that working well. Janet and her two toddlers need to be collected and hospitalised as they have severely dehydrated due to lack of water because one of the kids accidentally left the tap on on the 5th of the month.
Yup genius. That solves everything.

SoupDragon · 17/07/2022 20:11

People can go on about using the bathwater/washing up water etc to water plants, but I have never EVER known anyone do it.

we did.

XenoBitch · 17/07/2022 20:11

People can go on about using the bathwater/washing up water etc to water plants, but I have never EVER known anyone do it. Confused

I live alone and probably wash a sink of dishes every other day. That one bowl of grey water would be enough for one courgette plant.

Livelovebehappy · 17/07/2022 20:12

Are some mums on here saying they’re not filling up paddling pools for their DC’s? Or is that different to someone wanting to water their garden?

SilverDragonfly1 · 17/07/2022 20:14

OooErr · 17/07/2022 19:52

Remember about 10+ years ago when there was a hot spell and people were warned to save water in London?
The public pulled together and managed to reduce usage by a staggering 30% (lots when you consider how many people).

What was their reward?

An increase in water rates because Thames’ Water’s profits went down!

I was going to mention this! I well remember tipping the dog's water bowl over the plants near the door when refilling, using less for washing up etc. Thames Water then whining because they hadn't been able to screw as much out of us as usual.

Heaps of recurring leaks here too, some gushing out for days before being mended for another 18 months.

I'm not going to waste water out of spite, but neither am I going to put myself out to that extent again.

Blankbias · 17/07/2022 20:15

Difficult as we grow a lot of fruit, herbs, and vegetables so would be sad to just let them die and have to keep going to the market to buy stuff I have been cultivating at home!!

baffledcoconut · 17/07/2022 20:17

I’ve just watered mine with the hose pipe. Having worked out how much I use per area with a watering can and filling the can up from the hose I’ve worked out what the equivalent is- it just takes a quarter of the time with a hose.

No way am I letting my pollinator plants and veggies die.

baffledcoconut · 17/07/2022 20:18

Oh and the water butts were emptied weeks ago and any bath water has been used as much as it can too.

Crankley · 17/07/2022 20:21

SunscreenCentral
Are they Brexiteers, just out of curiosity

You win most pathetic and pointless post of the month award.

Twillow · 17/07/2022 20:30

BooksAndHooks · 17/07/2022 18:19

I can see their point though. Having spent hundreds probably thousands and several years getting our garden fully planted I am not in a position to just let it all die. Despite watering we have already suffered a lot of loss of plants. Not watering them will kill a huge amount off.

Water butts. used domestic water, mulching...so many ways to keep your plants alive without using drinking water!

Twillow · 17/07/2022 20:32

XenoBitch · 17/07/2022 20:11

People can go on about using the bathwater/washing up water etc to water plants, but I have never EVER known anyone do it. Confused

I live alone and probably wash a sink of dishes every other day. That one bowl of grey water would be enough for one courgette plant.

Really? I do. Take the washing up bowl into the garden, tip it in the pots, simples. My parents were avid gardeners, they used to siphon the bathwater out of the window into the rain butt in summer

Twillow · 17/07/2022 20:33

Livelovebehappy · 17/07/2022 20:12

Are some mums on here saying they’re not filling up paddling pools for their DC’s? Or is that different to someone wanting to water their garden?

I think that's probably responsible for some of the increase in use, hence urging people to reduce usage on gardens so there is enough to keep supplies for everyone to drink!

Mardyface · 17/07/2022 20:35

Wonder if the shareholders will still get their dividends though? I'm guessing yes.

VanGoghsDog · 17/07/2022 20:36

SoupDragon · 17/07/2022 20:11

People can go on about using the bathwater/washing up water etc to water plants, but I have never EVER known anyone do it.

we did.

My parents always did this in the 70's, not only in the drought.

I don't simply because I neither have baths nor wash up, but I do save water in a bowl and use that.

ApplesandBunions · 17/07/2022 20:40

Water butts are all very well, but there comes a point in a dry spell when you've used up all your stored rainwater. I can see that I'm not the only poster on the thread to have passed that stage. It just hasn't rained very much lately.

LikeAStar1994 · 17/07/2022 20:42

SunscreenCentral · 17/07/2022 18:18

Are they Brexiteers, just out of curiosity

Fuck off with your absurd political crap. Not welcome here.

LuckySantangelo35 · 17/07/2022 20:45

All these posters on here acting like it’s really unusual or deviant behaviour to water your plants in your garden….like why?!

Do you not have any plants or flowed in your garden?

If that’s the case your gardens must look proper boring!

Londoncallingme · 17/07/2022 20:49

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Londoncallingme · 17/07/2022 20:50

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EntertainingandFactual · 17/07/2022 20:50

I don’t know really. Some families run the dishwasher and washing machine several times a day, run multiple baths and showers, have loads of toilets flushing (why do new houses have so many toilets?)

If your parents are doing none if the above and just want to water the hanging baskets, I’d say fair enough.

SpiderinaWingMirror · 17/07/2022 20:54

Not using hosepipe does not equal not watering plants. Tap and watering can/bucket does the job. But no one needs to water their lawn.

StepAwayFromGoogling · 17/07/2022 20:57

We've let our borders go back to nature. They're basically wild now. Never need watering and MUCH better for bees and butterflies in particular. So, no, my garden doesn't look 'proper boring'. We have brown patches because we never water and every year have masonry bees in the soil. And, yes, we've filled up a small, shallow paddling pool for the kids to splash about in today. I didn't wash to offset. That amount wouldn't even water a patch of our garden, so I doubt it's the same as having sprinklers on all day!