To hate the big garden pool trend, and my neighbour who has one

[Bringbackwinter]

We live in a terrace so very close proximity to each other. The neighbour next door has a big pool crammed into the backyard. She’s been practically living in the garden all week. She has the one toddler, a boy, who seems to be quite naughty.

All I hear all day through my open windows is happy screaming, angry screaming, crying, lots of splashing, “wooooo”, “one two three go!” “High five!”. Must have heard the child’s name about 100 times today. They finally went inside at about 7, but not before I heard her say they’ll come back out tomorrow. I’m cursing that pool. Before she got it they never went in the garden. They’ve lived next door 2 years and I never heard a peep from them. I don’t think the pool is even safe. It’s quite deep and she’s set up a slide going onto it. And then there’s the environmental impact of filling it up everyday.

Why do you have to wait?

I think you need to get used to their noise during the hot days the next many years. I am surrendered by new families with young kids, none of them were there before. They even run into our garden stare into our windows, I don't like it but I see they are enjoying themselves doing their kids thing. Since I don't have money to move I might as well just learn to live with it!

You are actually very lucky just to have one noisy neighbour.

Tricky one. They're not doing anything wrong, but I can see how it would be annoying to listen to shrieking all day. I've never understood why people often talk/shout so loudly with small children who tend to have excellent hearing.

Such a try hard thread.

My neighbour has a huge proper hot tub, bar and an outside tv. Works from home, but never saw him work, but that’s another thread lol 😂

I bet this is where we discover ops 'queit' children are actually 41 and 43 and dont live at home anymore (or maybe one does squirreled away in the attic conversion).

I bet her kids where NOT quiet as toddlers though she was just oblivious to how irratating her own little angel where.

I have only ever known one family with genuinely silent kids (neither are deaf or mute etc... just 'shy' apparently, although both are super outgoing and masters of karate and ballet traveling to do competitions and shows so not THAT shy) known them 20 years now (so grown up now but since babies) and its horror film level creepy to see silent children who just sit and watch you instead of responding like kids although they are 'well behaved'.

Christ, you seem a happy person 🙄

the counting down is so the child can jump/slide in, the high five is happy.

mums doing some weeding while the child plays pretty much normal weekendvacyivity

Hmmm….u said mum used to take him out to the park/on his bike etc and now a pool with a slide. Sounds like mum doing her best to entertain her child! Kids have had little to enjoy the past couple of years so let them be! Plus, he’s a small child, guaranteed he’ll get bored with it soon and want to do other activities giving u a break as such from the noise of a family having fun! Sorry OP but YABU on this one!

Can a toddler really be naughty? They need constant ‘guidance’ at that age because they’re still learning what’s safe/naughty. At least his mum is supervising.

Going out at 9.30 and back in at 7pm sounds like they are being respectful to their neighbours.

They maybe can’t afford a holiday and this is the closest they’ll get to a sunny holiday by the pool. Surely better he’s out having fun rather than inside on a tablet!

this. Can children not play without yelling and screaming?

You've got to be trolling. I wasn't sure whether you were over the pool but moaning about weeds?

So what if there are weeds, why are you complaining about her pulling them up? Why are you watching your neighbour so much?

Why are you so miserable?

"They even run into our garden and stare in our windows"
Why do you out up with this?

Glad you dont live next to me. If I knew you were spying on me and judging us for absolutely no reason I'd probably make it worse and swap the pool for a massive trampoline as soon as it cools down and wave as I bounced above the fence line 'coo-eee!'

Seriously, get a grip. It's boiling. Read a take a break or something.

put a hole in it

Why? Is that really acceptable?

Gosh, you sound selfish. And the toddler doesn’t sound ‘naughty’, they sound like a toddler. It’s not their fault that you can’t afford a detached property.

would put an end to it. put a couple pin holes
job done

Yabu

I'm not sure suggesting that OP engages in criminal damage is really appropriate.

Okay people are focusing on the child being too young to enjoy the garden the past two years but that’s not true. She moved in when he was about 12-18 months. He’s about 3-3.5 right now. He could have played in the garden last summer but they didn’t. I think I saw her out there with him ONCE. So this big change is very strange. Maybe she’s come into money I don’t know.

Yes YABU and really don't seem to be that great a neighbour yourself

So it's not a swimming pool and he's not a toddler. Why are you giving wrong details then back tracking?

Absolutely this ^

3 years old is a toddler isn’t it? I had my children 30 years ago so I’m not up to date on the terminology used today.

No 3- 3.5 year olds are not toddlers a 3.5 year old could be preparing for school! It's really not your business why she hasn't had a pool before. Maybe she hadn't thought of it, maybe someone has given it to her. It doesn't really matter.