To hate the big garden pool trend, and my neighbour who has one

[Bringbackwinter]

We live in a terrace so very close proximity to each other. The neighbour next door has a big pool crammed into the backyard. She’s been practically living in the garden all week. She has the one toddler, a boy, who seems to be quite naughty.

All I hear all day through my open windows is happy screaming, angry screaming, crying, lots of splashing, “wooooo”, “one two three go!” “High five!”. Must have heard the child’s name about 100 times today. They finally went inside at about 7, but not before I heard her say they’ll come back out tomorrow. I’m cursing that pool. Before she got it they never went in the garden. They’ve lived next door 2 years and I never heard a peep from them. I don’t think the pool is even safe. It’s quite deep and she’s set up a slide going onto it. And then there’s the environmental impact of filling it up everyday.

So you're too used to them not using the garden and are complaining that they are now using the garden that they own?

I'm so glad my neighbours aren't like you, our neighbour knew our children were in their paddling pool yesterday and started a water fight over the fence because they love hearing the kids have fun. It's their garden, let the toddler enjoy it, if you don't like it wear ear plugs, and close your curtains/blinds.

I'd be interested to know how she's going to empty it when the weather gets cooler. Hopefully it has something that means it can be emptied straight into a drain.

All I hear all day through my open windows is happy screaming,

lots of splashing, “wooooo”, “one two three go!” “High five!”. Must have heard the child’s name about 100 times today.

Can hear the toddler shrieking about the “swimming pool” already.

These comments make you sound deeply unpleasant and abnormally intolerant of very normal child-parent interactions. You say toddler - that implies under 2/3? Little more than a baby, ffs. How can you be so unpleasant about such a young child and their excitement? And very normal, pleasant parent-child interactions such as you describe? Honesty I despair.

I mean how dare a parent interact and engage with their child in their own garden? Saying their name for fucks sake? The absolute scandal. 🙄

I mean if you can swim in it, it’s a swimming pool by the very definition surely.

get a life op. She’s weeding her garden oh no! Her toddler has a sand pit and pool… the shame.

we have a huge 16ft pool up right now, football goal, archery and shooting range plus water fountains. My children where shock horror enjoying the garden till 9pm last night in the cool shade. Just playing ring toss. I did some weeding the day before. Sometimes my cat meows at night to come in because she’s a sod who won’t use the cat flap too. The community centre across the road also had a party going on till 11pm you’d probably die from all our terrible behaviour of normal life here.

😂

I am going to hijack this thread!!!

I would like a pool in the garden deep enough to swim in!

any recommendations??

OMG she's actually pulling up weeds to make her garden better! How very dare she!

Keep digging, OP. You're comedy gold.

The child is getting older.

I think you should prepare yourself for the fact the child is going to start playing in their garden more and more and there will be noise.

I suppose you could always offer to buy their garden off them if you don't want them to use it. 🤷

This has to be a wind up? Surely no one is this unpleasant about their neighbours perfectly normal lifestyle?

Can hear the toddler shrieking about the “swimming pool” already. Calling it a swimming pool is a bit generous

This is so cruel and just really shows your character. This is a toddler. A very young child who is little more than a baby, referring to the pool as a swimming pool because that's what his tiny excited mind sees it as. That's adorable to me. To you? It's something to be made fun of and scoffed at. Awful.

Feeling a new sense of appreciation for my lovely tolerant neighbours right now.

It’s the nice thing to do to consider how your noise might impact on others. Be kind. Always.

Intex or best way do some pretty deep ones now. Also you can buy teathers so even in a 10ft pool you can swim as it stops you reaching the otherside. Also wave makers to add resistance that way.

Can’t you be happy that a child is having fun in the sun? Should they be seen but not heard? Or would you rather not even see them?

child being a child. The world we live in, where someone feels they have a right to complain about it. On a parenting forum!

You've never heard a peep from your neighbours in 2 years.
In unprecedented heat, a young family are outside in their garden enjoying cooling down.
They've gone back in at 7pm so haven't made any noise at an unsociable hour.
Sound like great neighbours to me!

Me neither! My toddler is going to have all the fun she likes in OUR OWN garden and I couldn't give a fuck which miserable sods don't want to hear me "saying her name" ffs. Un-fucking-believable. So far outside the realms of believable that it has to be a wind up. Surely.

Ps. We also have a 12ft pool and I can't WAIT for DP to get home from work and fill it up for DD 👍🏻😀

My neighbour has one and it doesn't bother me at all. The whole family from the gran to her 11 year old grandson use it and I think it's a lovely way for a family to spend time together having fun and enjoying themselves.

Yes, they shriek and shout sometimes but I think good for them, we don't get many days here in the UK where it's warm enough to use a pool so I hope they all enjoy whole they can.

Your neighbour sounds fine. She's supervising her child, and the paddling pool isn't being used too late in the evening. One toddler and his mum.

I think that all neighbours have to exercise a bit of give and take. And I speak as a mid-terrace neighbour, young families either side.

I've had awful problems in the past with previous neighbours who did not exercise give and take....letting their kids shriek and scream in the garden for prolonged periods, parents shouting and swearing at the kids in the garden, parents arguing at full volume in the garden, noisy, smelly barbecues going on until the small hours with adults getting drunker and louder and swearier. Such a relief when they moved away...

So if the biggest problem your neighbour presents ATM is splashy noises from a toddler with their mum, you're doing OK.

OP you make the bizares assumption... what on gods earth made you think pools are filled daily and people use them in winter just because they bought them (we bought a fan in this weather but dont use it in winter lol).

Also what where you expecting a 5 month old to be doing in a garden? of course they are only really using it now because now hes old enough and mobile enough TO use these things.

How on earth have you determained the child is naughty?

Not only do you sound miserable but also ignorant, judgemental and a curtain twitching busybody... get a life, you'll feel better.

Well she’s out there now, faffing around with the pool and pulling up weeds.

Bitch!

Can hear the toddler shrieking about the “swimming pool” already. Calling it a swimming pool is a bit generous.

Stupid toddler!

OP you sound like a grumpy kill joy. Maybe you should move to a house in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours? We are in the middle of a heat wave, I wish I had a pool (I would if my garden was flat), we grew up with a pool in our garden and all the neighbours used to come and use it, we had parties, bbq’s and we were noisy. It was only for a few months of the year.

Do you have to work at being such a misery guts or does it come naturally?