To hate the big garden pool trend, and my neighbour who has one

[Bringbackwinter]

We live in a terrace so very close proximity to each other. The neighbour next door has a big pool crammed into the backyard. She’s been practically living in the garden all week. She has the one toddler, a boy, who seems to be quite naughty.

All I hear all day through my open windows is happy screaming, angry screaming, crying, lots of splashing, “wooooo”, “one two three go!” “High five!”. Must have heard the child’s name about 100 times today. They finally went inside at about 7, but not before I heard her say they’ll come back out tomorrow. I’m cursing that pool. Before she got it they never went in the garden. They’ve lived next door 2 years and I never heard a peep from them. I don’t think the pool is even safe. It’s quite deep and she’s set up a slide going onto it. And then there’s the environmental impact of filling it up everyday.

Maybe she had depression last year and was struggling to do things like play in the garden with her child? And now she's improved?

Maybe she now has a health condition that means she can't venture as far on days out with him, so she stays closer to home?

Or maybe she's trying to save money in the cost of living crisis so she stays at home instead?

Or maybe she just woke up one day and thought "I haven't been making the most of my garden space, I'm going to change that".

Why would you assume she's "come into money" because she's purchased a paddling pool? Odd.

Toddler to me is under 2. Under 3 at a push.

Well then that’s a shame they didn’t use their garden before but at least now the child is getting a lot of use out of his garden and enjoying the summer out there.

Do you get invited to party’s much? Leave them alone.

I had my last child 24 years ago. I'm not so miserable that I moan about noise from kids enjoying the hot weather. Next doors wee one was out enjoying her paddling pool yesterday.

Let him enjoy his pool. Its the price you pay for living in terraced housing. Other people are allowed to enjoy their gardens.

I can sympathise- I wish I could afford to live in the depths of the countryside to relax and enjoy the peaceful oasis of my garden - sadly gardens seem to have bars, jacuzzis etc …. And less of actual garden stuff plants and grass!!! 🤪

Maybe she was to afraid of her judgy pants neighbour but this year thought fuck it and fuck em and is now enjoying her garden.

Come into money 🤣

All right, you got me. My antenna did twitch a little at the post before this, but on balance I thought it did still sound plausible. You haven't been clumsy with it and you haven't done a lazy wind-em-up-and-watch-em-go one post job either. I give it 7/10, because it's also been fun.

So, you’re objecting to the child having a paddling pool in hot weather, and perfectly normal toys/play equipment in the garden. Jesus wept.

With the greatest of respect OP, you need to fill your days with something other than neighbour watching. True shrieking isn’t much fun, but that happy laughter & sounds of kids enjoying themselves is wonderful.

Your neighbour is doing the right thing, keeping a small child entertained and cool. And if she wants to go out in the sun & weed, great. I’m really unsure as to why it is remotely bothering you.

It doesn’t matter how she has acquired a pool, and it certainly isn’t your business if she’s come in to money or not. It makes you sound rather bitter & more than a little jealous.

I had my first 30 years ago, the terminology hasn’t really changed? And pools aren’t a new thing, I bought a rigid sided one when I first moved into my house 25 years ago! So the age of your children has little bearing on your argument.

I’m 49, a sweaty menopausal mess & regularly rant at the universe, but never about little ones being well parented in the heat!

(I also live in a terraced house btw. It’s part of terraced house life)!

You absolute misery guts!

Blimey, I wish my neighbour went indoors at 7pm. I’d happily swap toddler noise in the the day but peaceful evening with my neighbour’s music and drunken loud conversation in the garden all night until about 5am. YABU.

That's putting it lightly.

As the parent of a toddler, you're the reason so many of us of anxiety! Take your judgements and fuck off. Curtain bloody twitcher.

What is the summer equivalent of "Bah! Humbug!"?

Yes you're quite right to have a moan about children and a mum enjoying themselves for the nano second that will be summer. They should stay indoors and remain silent at all times.

Fuck me you’re a bitter bastard. Leave them alone. ‘Must be naughty’ ffs

Exactly. Poor child. Snappy parent and intolerant NDN.

Surely this isn't real?

OP I feel your pain. It’s party central next door to me on the attached side, child, pool, very loud parenting, adults and a few teenagers, smell of weed and gangsta rap.

Its so fucking inconsiderate.

Brilliant!!

OP I feel your pain. It’s party central next door to me on the attached side, child, pool, very loud parenting, adults and a few teenagers, smell of weed and gangsta rap.

Its so fucking inconsiderate.

Posted to soon!

Like this is the same ! 😂👇🏻

The big pools really dropped in price over the last year making them much more accessible - which is possibly why she's got them now, or the kid's had birthday presents bought for them in terms of sandpits etc. Doesn't matter - it's her garden and you sound completely obsessed.

My two spend lots of time in the summer jumping off their climbing frame into the big paddling pool - I'd get a bigger one if we had the garden space, and yes, it makes things cramped, but it all can fold down if required and they're only young once. We only haven't put the pool up this week because it's going to be TOO hot to have them comfortably outside for any real length of time. As for refilling it - we tend to do it every few days, it drains via hosepipe directly into the drain so we're not flooding the neighbours' gardens and it's covered when not being used to extend how long we can get out of the water in there.

No people are focusing on the fact you seem to object to a child having fun in their own garden!

you have said in your previous post she’s just got new stuff out there for him which again you seem weirdly judgemental about. Imagine a child having their own toys to play with in their own garden! so very unusual OP. Oh wait, no it’s not, it’s not a new thing or an odd thing for a child to have garden toys in their back garden. I’m in my 40’s I had a climbing frame and a paddling pool and various bike strikes and scooters that I used to play on while my mum gardened. We had a above ground swimming pool as I got older too. I’m just confused why you think this either new or unusual.

if he’s 3.5 now 2 and half is still fairly young to really enjoy outdoor toys. And anyway just because they didn’t do it before doesn’t make it odd, it just means their enjoying their own home! Good for them it’s their house!

what is ODD is your reaction and your lack of understanding this normal play! And insistence that it’s their behaviour that’s odd