To hate the big garden pool trend, and my neighbour who has one

[Bringbackwinter]

We live in a terrace so very close proximity to each other. The neighbour next door has a big pool crammed into the backyard. She’s been practically living in the garden all week. She has the one toddler, a boy, who seems to be quite naughty.

All I hear all day through my open windows is happy screaming, angry screaming, crying, lots of splashing, “wooooo”, “one two three go!” “High five!”. Must have heard the child’s name about 100 times today. They finally went inside at about 7, but not before I heard her say they’ll come back out tomorrow. I’m cursing that pool. Before she got it they never went in the garden. They’ve lived next door 2 years and I never heard a peep from them. I don’t think the pool is even safe. It’s quite deep and she’s set up a slide going onto it. And then there’s the environmental impact of filling it up everyday.

Sounds like a lot of fun

Obviously I mean the neighbours, not you OP.

Mind your own! Couldn't tell you what my terraced neighbours have in their garden bc I have my own life outside of twitching curtains..

News Flash: mother and young child enjoy spending time together in their garden keeping cool in the hot weather!

You haven't heard a peep in 2 years, and they wind it in at 7pm and you live in a terrace!! Its kids splashing in a pool fgs.

You've got it good. Have you read some of the threads on here about truly noisy neighbours?

I've spent my entire adult life trying not to be anything like my mother (uptight, jealous, nosy, judgmental and boring). This post is making me very suspicious..... Mum, is that you??

All very strange, because like I said, they never went out there!
In all honesty I'd be much more concerned if a small child wasn't being taken into the garden much, and the interaction you refer to suggests good engagement with their parent. Sounds like they can't win.

I assume this is some version of a paddling pool ( whatever size and not an actual swimming pool - because I suspect you would have noticed that ) so having lived in nothing other than a terraced house since I left home I am very much live and let live ( unless it is dreadful ) but to hear young children enjoying them selves , by & large I can't get worked up about - especially if it knocks off at 7pm.
That pool will be out of there v quickly once this weather ends and I don't think a slide or a sandpit is unreasonable for small children.

Playing Joy Division at loud volume until 4 in the morning - different point - ha ha ( though I did rather like Joy Division in my youth - an example merely. )

YABU. Considering that this site is aimed at parents the number of threads moaning about children being children and the associated joyful noises children make when having fun during daytime hours is really depressing. The attitude to children in the UK is horrible- it is like they are not people. On the continent things are very different, children are included and treated with a level of respect (with boundaries in place).

OP you could put some fine music on, it helps.

YABU, let the toddler enjoy the pool. I would happily exchange for our new neighbours who smoke weed all day long as in they are weed chain smokers. We can't even open our windows in this heat.

OP- suggest you set up shop somewhere like this 👇

Seriously, you think other people aren't allowed to use their own gardens?... This must be a wind-up.

You won't be able to stop yourself from wooing.
The power of the pool is strong!
Woo woo!

Jesus Christ how DARE anyone enjoy their own garden.

OP I grew up in a terrace next to the family from hell (12 people in a 3 bedroom house). A toddler playing in a pool until 7pm during a heatwave is not an issue. You are just pissed that they have started to use their garden now that the child is old enough to be out using garden toys.

And I have never come across these 'quiet' children that Mumsnetters all claim to have. Of course children will make noise in their garden, be thankful you don't live nextdoor to us with our trampoline, basketball hoop, large paddling pool, DC who do nothing but argue and a 'vocal' dog.

I was sorting out some photographs recently ( actual paper physical ones not on the phone so about 22 years ago ) We had a tiny patio garden in a terraced house & I have one with Ds in a paddling pool on a hot day , with the garden hose and a pretend phone. Not sure what he thought he was doing but hose went over NDN's kitchen's windows - we apologised & offered to clear up - they laughed. There is a great deal to be said for getting on with your neighbours.

I used to have a large pool in my garden. My children were taught not to scream while using the pool out of consideration for our neighbours. Of course it was noisier than usual, but we tried to keep the volume down. You might consider using ear plugs for your own sanity.

I'm in my 60's, raised my children in this little semi and am only here until I retire when I will downsize to a flat. Either side are young families with trampolines, slides, paddling pools etc. Of course they are noisy during the summer but I just close my windows and thank my lucky stars they are usually all inside and in bed by 8pm. That pool is probably an absolute God send to his mum. Wears him out and keeps him happy. I wouldn't dream of complaining. The all adult family behind me however, who had a jacuzzi last summer and stayed in it till all hours laughing and talking did irk me a bit. I think their electricity bill has meant it's not been set up this summer, thank goodness!

I live in a terrace because it’s all I can afford.

so? That’s not your neighbor’s problem of responsibility. You sound incredibly jealous. It doesn’t suit you.

@willstarttomorrow hear hear. It's something that never ceases to shock me.

Yes you are definitely being unreasonable. By the time you posted this it was still only 10pm and you'd already had 3 hours of peace. This is only temporary and in a few months or will be dark by 5 so he'll barely be in the garden at all. It's also not strange that he's just started using it seeing it's likely the first summer he's been able to walk and properly enjoy outdoor toys. How old are your dc now? I suspect you have some rose tinted glasses re their volume levels

Ach @mathanxiety & @willstarttomorrow - not all of us. I would happily go back to now older DCs earlier years and hear them enjoying the most simple things so am happy to hear other children doing the same . Of course there would be a point which is irritating so maybe you are both both right - but in general I love hearing young children enjoying themselves. ( live a few doors down from a junior school & hearing them rehearse the National Anthem for the Jubilee cracked me up - they were belting it out & to paraphrase Morecambe and Wise - All the right words , but not necessarily in the right order 😁)

Bet you'd be the type to be judgy if she let him sit on the iPad all day instead too

I'm feeling very grumpy too. New neighbours opposite moved in 2 years ago. 3 or 4? kids playing on trampoline etc, running around just playing, but they are soooo loud, screaming, screeching, calling one boys name over and over. Was bad last summer, so far this year it's been bad too. My ds's (now older) never screamed and screeched that much. I hate it.

What a weird post.

Hope they have a lovely time in there pool. They have every right to do this.