To hate the big garden pool trend, and my neighbour who has one

[Bringbackwinter]

We live in a terrace so very close proximity to each other. The neighbour next door has a big pool crammed into the backyard. She’s been practically living in the garden all week. She has the one toddler, a boy, who seems to be quite naughty.

All I hear all day through my open windows is happy screaming, angry screaming, crying, lots of splashing, “wooooo”, “one two three go!” “High five!”. Must have heard the child’s name about 100 times today. They finally went inside at about 7, but not before I heard her say they’ll come back out tomorrow. I’m cursing that pool. Before she got it they never went in the garden. They’ve lived next door 2 years and I never heard a peep from them. I don’t think the pool is even safe. It’s quite deep and she’s set up a slide going onto it. And then there’s the environmental impact of filling it up everyday.

Not read the whole thread so this may have been said, maybe he’s not played in the back garden before because he was too young to be engaged with playing for a long time, hence the walks and park trips, he’s probably at the age now that he can appreciate having toys etc. it doesn’t sound like she’s doing anything wrong, yes their in the garden all day, but she’s not keeping him up all night, I’m sure if you were having bbqs early evening with friends and were making noise she wouldn’t be on here complaining because she’d been out all day - let her live her life and make happy memories with her son

YABVU! I would have some sympathy if the kids were screaming at the top of their lungs (I actively tell my own kids not to do that in the garden, absolutely no one needs to hear them screeching, me included!) but kids playing happily in their own garden during a heatwave and adults playing with them - come on!!

I like peace and quiet (not that I get much with small kids) and find it a bit grating when my neighbours play music in their garden, and when my other neighbour speaks loudly on the phone with the door open (she’s reeeeeally loud) but I recognise that we live in a semi detached house and sadly not in an isolated field.

Maybe, much like us, their garden hasn't been suitable for the child to play in until now, they've got it sorted, or child is old enough, and, considering it's summer, they're enjoying some time outside in their own garden. Kids make noise, it's a thing they do when they're playing. Get ready for it, when he's older it'll be footballs against/over the fence, and bikes, and skateboards, and all sorts of stuff you're obviously going to hate.

Well maybe last Summer he was too little to enjoy big things outdoors. My toddler is always running about the garden and we are very noisy

Surely this is a wind up?

This is got to be a wind up, you would hate living next to us. We live on a nice estate but still an estate, we are all detached one of our neighbours is currently having an inground pool dug. We can't afford to do the same for a few years so the husband is looking to do it himself. Pools are really common in America and Australia I'm glad kids over here are getting to experience them at home now even if they are above ground.

big pool trend?

Have you been living under a rock? Pools really are nothing new, and very normal

@Bringbackwinter

You have to be realistic

If you want more privacy and quiet then don't live in a detached house but you sound like a right misery guts they're only having fun in their own garden - stop being such a moaning Minnie!!!

Well fest not assume and judge then!

Sounds like normal garden noise. I was expecting a tale of loud music, swearing, smoking and being out in the pool at all hours.

Last year my neighbour put their pool right next to the house in the front garden pretty much under my bedroom window. The children playing was fine but the noise of the pump all night drove me mad. This year they have put it in their back garden away from the house. I can’t hear the pump, just the children playing so all is good. Think it’s lovely hearing children playing and doesn’t bother me at all.

Well she’s out there now, faffing around with the pool and pulling up weeds. That’s another thing. The garden is all paved with weeds coming out everywhere. I’d have thought she’d have pulled the weeds before setting up toys. Can hear the toddler shrieking about the “swimming pool” already. Calling it a swimming pool is a bit generous.

She sounds like a really fun mum. Lucky DC. Also, its not your garden so you have no say over what they do in it. I think you need to chill out, sorry.

i opened this thinking it was an in ground swimming pools!

buy is this a large padding in pool???

Your post reads like you’d not had children . Did you never buy anything for the garden fOr yours? A sandpit and a slide are pretty standard garden features
for a toddler.

Wow - you sound like a joy to live next door to. He’s a boisterous toddler whose mum is obviously going above and beyond to entertain in the warmer weather, getting him outside and playing instead of sitting in front of an iPad in the living room.

Could you get any more miserable? 🙃

So she's having a normal summer Sunday, doing a bit of weeding and setting up the pool for her child? Leave the poor woman alone!

You are not making yourself sound any better. What is wrong with faffing around? Is it worse because she didn't pull up weeds when you think she should. Let the little toddler enjoy themselves.

This struck a chord. My 2 dds are absolutely not naughty. Sometimes a bit silly, sometimes grumpy but honestly delightful and well behaved. The only time I find myself constantly telling them off is if they are making 'too much' noise and I'm worried people around are judging me. Your neighbour might be letting her son play and be cool in hot weather while being absolutely aware that she has a very judgy neighbour...

Ah you old grump.

Wtf is wrong with you?

She’s pulling up weeds! Is there no end to her unreasonableness!

YABVU. It’s summer, it’s hot. Children will play in their gardens (btw they also play out in the winter too). So if it annoys you that much you had better move.

Christ 😆. You get worse. She's up and being industrious and you're complaining. Why are you watching her anyway? Weird! And now picking at language of a 2 year old.

This has to be a wind up. To come back on here and say that after all that's been written.

So what if there are weeds. IF youare genuine you really need to get over yourself. The fact that you're children were "quiet" says a lot about you.

Sounds like a normal family with a normal toddler, doing normal things. Leave them alone, you sound bitter and weird.