AIBU to wonder why mumsnet is so quiet these days!

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It's such a disappointment, what has happened?

Maybe I look back through rose tinted specs but Mumsnet was a lot less viperish a decade or more ago. There was less anger.

I think you're right, unless we just go to the same optician?

There seem to be a lot more posters who are looking for an argument and/or have no sense of humour at all.

I think you can check a consent box and also "stay logged on" which definitely sorted it out for me. I haven't had to consent for ages now.

Maybe I look back through rose tinted specs but Mumsnet was a lot less viperish a decade or more ago. There was less anger.
And more empathy and support.

The site is so much bigger and there is too much chance of being outed if you post too many details. I think people are too frightened to post their problems. I certainly would dare post anything too personal. Years ago I would, as the audience was so much smaller.

The constant deletions. There's no point following an interesting thread because chances are it'll get zapped for some arbitrary reason.

I was given a right old 'flaming' more then 10 years ago (...gets out calendar to calculate ... )

I couldn't give a shit nowadays but back then it was awful

I've used this site for over 15 years. The responses have become so predictable but that may be that I've spent too much time on it and seen it all! The other thing is that users tend to plop in dreary 'you do you', 'aye' 'cool story bro' types comments so that it instantly becomes a discussion about the veracity of the poster...then it gets deleted.
To me it's still the most informative site if you want practical info (my friend has split with her husband and I found myself using 'ducks in a row' and urging her to get on the divorced and separated page for support, so I'm just as culpable!)

Too many deletions. I'm here for entertainment, I don't care if the OP is a troll, or a journo, or it's made up.

I also realised how much time I used to invest here when I could've been doing far more useful things, and now I have far less free time I'm a lot more choosey how I spend it. Invariably that means doing something other than social media.

Absolutely! There's some prolific 'reporting' posters who I've seen and been threatened by 'I'm reporting your post and I'll also be telling hq it should be deleted and you get a suspension'! Or threads deleted for any reason at all generally not going the posters way!

I feel like it's got quieter. Maybe we've actually covered every single possible issue now 😉

But I actually think it's been since covid has died down for whatever reason.

Since the new mobile version, I use MN less. It’s only minor changes but I find some tiny things annoying and it’s a bit more clunky on my phone.

This is a big part of the problem - it’s not worth taking the time to reply anymore.

My “I’m watching” threads are full of deleted threads.

I quite like the new layout though - the upgrade works fine for me.

Abc Street and rainy puddles 🤔

This, this, this!

Whenever I get drawn into a post, which isn't very often these days, it seems to get deleted. So many deletions. Sometimes I go to post a reply but think what's the point, the whole post will be deleted soon.

All those of you moaning that there's no 'freedom of speech' - what is it that you want to post, that you can't or will get deleted for?

This is a genuine question.

@A580Hojas

Maybe I look back through rose tinted specs but Mumsnet was a lot less viperish a decade or more ago. There was less anger.

Where do you think the nickname 'nest of vipers' came from?! Cod and her circle were endlessly bitchy. All the 'see you on MSN', making it really clear that other posters were being excluded etc. (Although I think you're right that there was less anger)

@Nahimjustaworm

The general bugginess of the site. Little things like not being able to change typos after I've posted

Not being able to edit your posts isn't an example of bugginess - you've never been able to do that. If it really bothers you if you make a mistake, you should use the preview button before you press post

Not being able to check back what I've posted without trawling back through the rest of a thread etc

Bookmark your posts if you want to do this. There's a button underneath each poster's post.

I use it a lot less. There seems to be a larger number of aggressive/unhelpful replies to posts, it’s less enjoyable to read. I’m not sure if a bunch of trolls found the site or it’s just some people are more stressed post-pandemic etc.

@BIWI
For example the last post I had deleted was someone asking AIBU for going for divorce for disliking the way dh speaks to gay son. I replied that I thought many people seeking divorce could be seen as being unreasonable as it is such a big commitment it's worth working things through and would inevitably affect ds negatively too as he likely loves his father dearly.

Low and behold DELETED

You don't have to agree but to delete is pure hypocrisy as there's nothing quite like making women feel non existent than deleting all the views of those you may disagree with. It really is pathetic in my eyes. No posts by me are ever made to offend, and its intention that should matter.

I am a more recent convert, maybe a year or so, so possibly view things a bit differently, as I don’t have anything to make comparison.

I can see that there are some fairly aggressive responses to some posters, and sometimes I have no idea why. It looks like the first response is often the grumpiest, and I assume that is more a reflection of what is going on for that person than any real animosity towards the OP.

In my experience, however, in the few posts I have made ( all related) the overwhelming response was very positive, and I appreciated this very much.

Even though I don’t think my posts were controversial I had several suggestions to delete one of them. I didn’t ask for my post to be deleted as I find it so frustrating when looking for updates on a thread to find it has gone.

Even the more trivial posts though its as if people can't handle negative responses that disagree with them. This offends them as if like they havnt been socialised properly to deal with others pov and become 'offended' by 'trolls' disagreeing with them.

Update is a disaster. Quote function a nightmare.
Fortunately for me I seem to get the old site come up. The odd times I have the new one its completely unusable

Yy to the moderation. Insult someone, troll hunt was about the limit of it. I know one thread that was deleted for privacy reasons and frankly that really was serious safeguarding reasons.

The latest upgrade, the trolls, the cool wives, and fake threads. It's become a really unpleasant place to be.

There's also been too many of the "what? I was my towels after every use! Anything else is grim!" poster; out competing everyone else on their cleanliness etc. Becomes tedious. Even if the thread isn't the utterly tedious "how often do you wash your towels?' question

I've been here since this was all fields (DD1 was born in 2000) and I shouldn't really still hang around as my parenting days are over. Maybe the new generation of mums are more confident and able to access advice easily? The early 2000s were a different place - MMR was still contentious but it was very difficult to find both sides of the story, for instance. It was just MN, Netmums, BBC Parenting and the Bounty chat rooms on a dial up connection.

FWIW, I find MN tedious after covid - any thread about children was trampled on by teachers. Some of the hysterical language has stuck and is now trotted out at any opportunity (see school closure threads). The update with quotations makes it hard work to keep track and the adverts are too big for a mobile phone screen.

Too many tedious in my post

Because there was a phase where it was unusable just after the update. People buggered off.