AIBU to wonder why mumsnet is so quiet these days!

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It's such a disappointment, what has happened?

@PaceFalm. I think you've summed it up perfectly, great post.

Mumsnet was more apealing to me when it was smaller and you got to know people a bit.

You're quite right in your memory about the Daily Mail - HQ were up for making it an official partnership after that MNetter/journalist wrote her "Today on Mumsnet" piece.

I wasn't in the Cod circle or moldies but those early pioneers did set the tone of the site and upheld the unwritten rules like no hunning or text speak.

Maybe I look back through rose tinted specs but Mumsnet was a lot less viperish a decade or more ago. There was less anger.

This. I miss the humour and the good advice- also many of the regular posters have been banned or left.
Maryz, Langcleg, Hullygully and many many more.

😂

Theres not as much gentle humour anymore and a lot more snippiness.
There’s not as much disrailing threads because of a joke.

Nowadays “Is that you UCM?” would be “well you have obviously not namechanged have you, because you have been posting under that name since forever, I’ve showed you up, I win!”

My scrolling thumb is also getting tired of working through threads where the quote function is over-used!!

Yes, very easy to trigger a sensitive mind these days. I think this site is air b and being it, it is on the way out. For a forum to work, it has to be able to run close to the edge of acceptability; and this one is too wound up now. everything is deleted.

Well there comes a point when most subjects pertaining to practical things have been covered:

How often do you shower?
Do you take your shoes off indoors?
How often do you change your bed sheets?
Best batch cooking recipes?
...all been done to death!

And more emotional topics can't really be explored with any sensitivity or nuance nowadays BC many posters are so aggressive, that people don't dare to post about any personal problems they may have.

Which leaves a few topics which are helpful and interesting (such as feminism and politics and some advice in relationships ) but that's about it

On a slightly different but related tack, the daily round up choices have been really boring for a few months now and so maybe people aren't clicking through and seeing other threads while there? I have seen some interesting threads (as OP states, not many!) but they're never the ones in the round up.

I've been here years. I think people are sick of social media. In all forms.

This. Social media was a novelty, when everyone was on it the content was pretty good, then everyone got bored so now the content is crap and no one with a brain uses it as much. Facebook has been hit far worse than mnet though. No one uses it at all it's just full of crap.

Oh and the deleting/policing of certain types of threads is too much like censorship for my liking.

and yes the new layout follows all accessibility 'ideals' to a tee and then alienates probably about 50% of users that don't require the accessibility characteristics applied. Of course you lose traffic. A better web company would have catered for both types of user 🤔you just lose confidence in the whole shitshow and there are users on here who are experienced programmers who would say the same. It would be interesting to hear their perspective. Lots of money paid I bet and lots of users lost.

So where has everyone gone??? What site are they on now?

It reminds me of the 80s when you had a great popular pub where all your friends go, them the landlord would change it and everyone went somewhere else.....SO WHERE IS THE NEW PUB?????

Maybe because mumsnet is very fond of deleting posters.
A poster can give 100+ nice comments, great advice, be empathetic but wow betide that same poster gives a wrong answer or calls a trans man a man! Account deleted without so much as a right to appeal.
How many times do you think those posters will return?

Far too many angry people on here now. I see the same usernames piling on to an OP time and time again - tedious as fuck.

Very little humour, There used to be so much fun and irrelevance but nada now.

A lot of forums are much quieter these days, compared to say 5-10 years ago

It's the re-platforming.

It is. MNHQ, sort it out.

Don't like the new app style. Hate it.

I'm fairly new to MN but check and post quite regularly. Here's what irritates me and is making me slowly less engaged...

1. The biggest frustration is when you've engaged with a thread thinking you're genuinely helping someone to realise that it was likely a f%*ing journalist deliberately starting a thread to write a none-story about. Unbelievably distasteful especially when the thread has been deliberately created to stir up racism/political extremism

2. As pp have said you can't make a joke without someone jumping down your throat. I guess this is the same IRL as well though 🤣

3. The anti-doctor/anti-teacher etc vitriol that seems to sneak into so many posts even that aren't about these professions

4. The general bugginess of the site. Little things like not being able to change typos after I've posted. Not being able to check back what I've posted without trawling back through the rest of a thread etc.... I'm sure someone cleverer than me will probably tell me that these things ARE possible now haha

I think people are generally becoming more disillusioned by social media as well. It's a fake world and dangerously it's still managing to affect lives and have a heavy impact on the real world. It's quite scary and sad really..

That's been fixed, wt least on my version. You now only see the last post and there is a link to inside the quoted quotes.

Because you can be nice as pie for 100-200 threads, you say one tiny thing that people disagree with MN ban you.

It's over policed, not much freedom of speech and the new platform is awful it's constantly breaking.

Reddit is the new pub.

The default position seems to be 'an op's place is in the wrong' - of course people are going to stop posting if they get attacked all the time.

I use to go on a lot more but to be honest some of the topics and comments have made me feel a bit crap about myself sometimes. I then start to wonder if the outside world thinks the same way as mumsnet . I’m not from the U.K. originally and I’ve always felt a tiny bit like an outsider and mumsnet makes that worse for me .

I’ve used MN since my eldest was born and she’s nearly 15 but recently adverts and a access denied access pop up so often it’s really difficult to use. I also get the screen asking me to accept consent every time I click on a new page. Its so frustrating!

Oh yes, that elitist shite where if you were one of the groovy gang you were "allowed" to crack the in-joke and everyone swarmed round and paid homage, otherwise you were ignored.

yup bring back those happy days (not)