I choose not to smoke so why should I suffer!

[Mummywheel]

Have had new neighbours for the last 6 months. She smokes not in the house but at her back door which is right next to ours. If my back door is open then of course the smoke blows into my house and also into ds bedroom if his window is open. Surely I should be able to open my door or window for fresh air. It's now starting to drive me mad, Do's anyone have any advice? Maybe I'm being too much of a coward and should speak to her about it.

It is tricky. I smoke in my garden. If my neighbour approached me and told me the problem in a nice manner I'd be horrified and would certainly move to a different area in the garden. If she was rude about it then I would not move, no way no how - after all it is my garden.

VVV I like your style!

I am sorry i think YABU.....You have to give and take i feel. I smoke, in my garden, nowhere near next doors back door or windows. Meanwhile he has a coal fire, which he burns really smelly stuff, not coal thats for sure, in. The smell, smoke and smut that comes from his chimney everyday from September till about the end of April, if i am lucky is awful, it has ruined all our garden furniture, gets in the house and smells all the time. I can't mention it as he is unreasable but also i know that it is his only means of heating.....so i am letting him live his life....

Open your back door and spray really vile cheapo air freshener for several minutes at a time, directed towards her door. She'll soon find somewhere else to blow her smoke.

Inspired idea re air freshener AB I will try it with my faggy Waynetta Slob neighbour who does the same.

What makes it worse is that she is 9 months pregnant. Judgey judge judge but really...and its not just fags she smokes either (twitches net curtains)

YANBU to be annoyed but it's a difficult one as clearly better than them smoking in their house if they have kids. I totally sympathise though as I had this problem at our old house. Our back doors were very close togethet so her smoking at her doorstep was a problem. I'm a childminder and she quite often did this near pick up time and I'd immediately shut the door/windows but it would still smell in the house and I was paranoid parents would think I'D been smoking!

My husband smokes and it even annoyed the hell out of him as it was coming in and it was boiling hot in the summer and so had to let fresh air in until she'd light up. I'd say if you had a nice polite word about it and ask if she'd mind moving a little further away, that should be fine, most would understand. Just don't say it with the attitude that she has to as she could get funny. We never spoke to our neighbour about it as we already had problems with them and didn't want to add to them.