DH keeps on and on

[Abak123]

AIBU or is DH?
I had a dd just under 6 weeks ago and also have a DS who is (4). My DH keeps going on and on saying you should take both DD and DS out every day.

I am absolutely knackered my newborn has me up ever 3 hours and I drop my DS off to
preschool for 08:30 - 5 mornings a week.

once I pick DS up I come home,
make lunch for everyone. He goes oh you should take DS to the park/farm/soft play or text Sarah or Mel to see if they fancy a play date. I do take DS out but currently twice a week - he expects it every day!! He hasn’t done one night feed, plus I think it will be the summer holidays so have got 6 weeks to fill out and hopefully I’ll feel back to normal.

he does wfh so I stay downstairs and mostly in the garden - to not disturb him.

AIBU and should take them out every day!

He's a prick. There's no way I'd feel the need to get out every day. I'd tell HIM to take the kids out during his lunch time if he thinks they need to get out every day.

I'm sick to death of hearing about men who apparently believe that the night wakings are not their responsibility. They need to drag their sorry arses out of the fucking 1950s and start parenting 50/50.

The only reason he's getting away with it is because you're letting him OP. Let that sink in. Give him ten bells of shit every day until he starts to pull his weight

So when does this man parent his own children and give his wife a break?

She said she was concerned about the summer. I can see why with a 4 year old and new baby. I would be too. I didn't say anything about how she should structure her day, just offered some ideas that would hopefully mean she wouldn't feel more pressure to take her kids out when she's exhausted.

You do realise this is the OP 2nd child right?

@chilledbubble aka summer. Bottle of water, factor 50, sun hat and off to the park/beach/playground etc etc it really isn't "dangerous" outside, we don't live in America.

@Abak123 this

Fuck that.

Just to give the benefit of the doubt could he think he's trying to help you as he might think you feel a bit cooped up?!

You do you

I did go out every day with our two. But that was by choice and DH would often come out as well by choice. If you don't feel up to it, then tough - he can take them out!

I hope he’s taking them out in the afternoon on the weekends and giving you a break! Tell him to STFU!

Just tell him the suggestion is great and you'll start doing it when he helps out with the night feeds 😉

He definitely wants the house back for himself during the week. It will be very interesting if his suggestion pans out over the weekend when he's not working. I would definitely tell him that he should take DS to the park/farm/soft play or text Sarah or Mel (or their husbands/partners) to see if they fancy a play date.

I would remind him that when he's 6 weeks post birth, he can comment on what you do with your day.

Good grief, tell him to fuck right off to the other side of fuck.

Why are we giving the benefit of the doubt to this tremendous wazzock?

Where does she say she's concerned about the summer?

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He sounds like an absolute cock!

Why are you putting up with such an entitled arsehole ? Tell him to fuck off and do what you need to do. If he doesn’t like it remind him he is the other parent and has responsibilities.

If he's worried that YOU are not getting enough fresh air, sunlight, etc. and going out every day should be a benchmark, then he needs to do whatever he can to make it so you can do that. It's still your right to say no, of course, if you're not up to it.

If his concern is that the children need to go out every day, he should take them. If you're not fully recovered from pregnancy and birth (which wouldn't be unusual at six weeks post-birth) and he knows that, he should be proactively taking MORE than his usual 50% of responsibility for the children.

How often does he, has he, done what he is suggesting you do?

Yeah, right.

Tell the lazy arsehole to take your child to nursery himself and to use his lunch hour to take your baby to the park

@namechange30455

That's how I read the bit in her OP about having 6 weeks to fill out and hoping she was feeling back to normal. I don't think she has to feel like she ought be going out everyday in the summer holidays even if she does feel back to normal.

You tell him that is such a good idea to take DS out everyday, does he want to do his days every other day or a week each !!!!!!!