To be angry with the other woman in labour ward

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I'm due to be induced due to oligohydroamniosis or however you spell it.
I've been at the hospital since Friday. Been waiting around 72 hours
First 24 on a chair in a waiting room.
Not allowed to go home, baby needs to be monitored
Could be worse I could be one of the women in labour waiting on a chair outside
Completely fed up
Woman in the bed next to me is chewing loudly
And has a cold but has no idea about the concept of nose blowing
Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off with her?
Really I should be pissed off with the state of the nhs
I don't mind waiting
I need her to stop making noise
The hospital has capacity for 4 inductions a day
There are 17 of us in a day
Bottleneck is staffing and bed shortages
Neighbouring hospitals full
Local private hospitals also full
Please send help

No help, but sympathy. I’m a midwife and it’s tough at the minute

ante natal and labour wards are the worst places on earth. Nothing is more annoying than other people, more so when you’re vulnerable and want your own peace and quiet. Other people make noise which is so fucking irritating.

hope the baby gets a move on and you can be moved out soon

Get your earphones in and some music on

if you haven’t got earphones and you’re near a labour or postnatal ward you’ve made the biggest mistake of your life

You absolutely are allowed to go home, you are not a prisoner. Go home, pop back for any essential monitoring, otherwise they can call you when they are ready to proceed.

Oh your poor love, that would be sending my stress levels up too. I'm sure the chewing lady is also having a crap time, pregnant with a cold is no fun, but I totally understand how something like chewing noises just chip away at you. Not unreasonable to be pissed off, I very much doubt it's just with her, but she's getting the focus of it. With that in mind you'd be very unreasonable to have a go at her for it.

Do you have headphones, or ear plugs? If not, is there anyone who can drop some off for you? Headphones and a good audio book, block out the chewing and distract yourself.

Sounds awful and certainly not conducive to bringing on labour naturally. You need to be resting now not suffering.

I don't know the medical reasons for the induction but I would be tempted to go home and come back for monitoring as needed.

24 hours on a chair in a waiting room?!
Jesus the NHS is a mess.

Yes, you (anyone) is allowed to go home unless you're under an order of court, but they want OP in for monitoring, specifically incase her waters break and the cord becomes occluded if it washes down with the amniotic fluid. Still her choice though.

This is pretty awful, yeah.

Sympathy, OP. Sounds really shit.

Oh actually it's for oglio rather than polyhydramnios, sorry,. In that case I'd personally go home and come back twice a day for monitoring, but it's OP's choice to stay. Shit though. Also recommend headphones.

Close your curtains, put earphones in, ignore.

My friend was in 3 days in slow labour before being properly induced, it nearly drove her round the twist!

I'd be very frustrated too! Do you have earphones?

Oh god antenatal and postnatal wards are just the worst , I feel for you Op.

Being in labour is a breeze compared to the rubbishness of those wards.

have you got an iPad / tablet? I downloaded a million films and trashy episodes to watch tv when I was in… ear phones… iPad or music is needed.

i wonder if things are ever going to improve as it seems to have been awful for years and years and only getting worse.

Pull curtain accross get some ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones.😂😂😂

I don’t know how or why the nhs designed it’s antenatal and postnatal wards the way they are but they’re hellacious. It’s not any of the other womens’ fault - they are having a shit time too. I sympathise though I was having murderous thoughts about a snorer on an induction bay just over a year ago. The pressure on maternity services is insane. There are no midwives. Hope you get going soon OP - eyes on the prize - getting home with baby.

oh in my case I got up and wandered around as much as poss and just asked the midwives to call me if they needed me. Live not far from hospital so snuck home to kip for a few hours once…

If you're just sat on a chair are you being monitored continuously? If not go home and tell them you'll come back twice a day for monitoring?

Oh dear that sounds tortuous. Can someone bring you earphones?

You poor thing, 24 hours on a chair while heavily pregnant is really unacceptable

I was going to ask if you could leave? If you aren't receiving treatement is there any reason you can't wait at home? I'm sure they'd be happy to have the bed back.

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Yes exactly this.

Tell them to call you as soon as your induction will start, I’m sure they will hurry things along… in fact they will.

The NHS has collapsed. It really has. The standards of care are appalling. Ambulance waiting times children with potentially serious accidents of 5-8 hours. Four hour wait given for a heart attack patient.

it was in its knees before COVID and this has just pushed it over the edge.

Everyone I know with money is opting out of the NHS where they can, even the most committed lefties I know.

We are effectively moving into a system where there NHS is the rump service for anyone who can’t afford better, and the private system is for everyone else.

it should not be like this!

DD discharged herself when she'd had 3 days in the post natal ward, OP. She was beyond exhausted and had been kept awake the whole time by noise from the other women and their partners. She said it was so bad she's never having another and going through it again.

Some people have absolutely no awareness of others around them. Hope things go well for you

THIS!

They can not keep you there.
Really hope things progress soon for you op.

My antenatal & postnatal ward have a open curtain policy 😩 unless breastfeeding or changing.

Could not believe it after not sleeping in the hospital for 4 days before the birth then giving birth and finally drifting off, a midwife whipped the curtain open and shouted that curtains are to stay open, as the signs say.

I was FUMING.