To be angry with the other woman in labour ward

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I'm due to be induced due to oligohydroamniosis or however you spell it.
I've been at the hospital since Friday. Been waiting around 72 hours
First 24 on a chair in a waiting room.
Not allowed to go home, baby needs to be monitored
Could be worse I could be one of the women in labour waiting on a chair outside
Completely fed up
Woman in the bed next to me is chewing loudly
And has a cold but has no idea about the concept of nose blowing
Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off with her?
Really I should be pissed off with the state of the nhs
I don't mind waiting
I need her to stop making noise
The hospital has capacity for 4 inductions a day
There are 17 of us in a day
Bottleneck is staffing and bed shortages
Neighbouring hospitals full
Local private hospitals also full
Please send help

I asked to go home when I was induced as there wasn’t a bed. I was in for daily monitoring then came home at night waiting for the call for a bed in the labour ward. It was a bit of a mess having to track back and forth but much preferred being in my own bed at night / evening. I was for a high risk induction too so maybe ask if that’s possible?

I was told if I did this I would lose my bed.

I had dd 15 years ago in our reasonably new maternity unit. All single ensuite rooms. Every single one of them. Didn't feed me for 15 hrs day I gave birth but otherwise really couldn't fault them.
The main hospital? Actually sued them for my dad's death or at least tried. They found a loophole.
Really couldn't fault maternity though.

Hope you're out soon.

OP, could you go home with the balloon in? I had a balloon induction in November last year and they let me go home and just pop in every 3-4 hours to check BP/HR etc. I was high risk too so they kept the bed as I was an inpatient induction but the midwives said I would labour quicker at home.

Postnatal and antenatal are just hell. I can’t think of an instance where you need private rooms more.

I know exactly how your feeling OP, my baby is now 6 weeks old but I was admitted to hospital with pre eclampsia and spent 4 weeks in hospital. Honestly it was hell, I had to stay due to my condition. Post natel ward was horrific, no sleep for 3 day straight. The staff are amazing but work in a broken system.

Just to say - I know not everyone’s circumstances permit this, but for most hospitals you can ask to pay for a private room if they have them available. If you can afford it it’s worth checking

Poor you. My DCs are young adults now but I still remember my birth experiences so well. Neither were good!
DD - induced on maternity ward - contractions went from 0-100 in 10 seconds after the 3rd pessary. Eventually had emergency c/s the next morning. Thankfully a midwife took pity on me my after the first night and put me in a side room. (you’ll never be in a side room the night after birthing cos they need to keep an eye).
I hated the experience so much (more ante than post) and when it came to DS I went to a different hospital which was actually better as there were only 4 beds in ante and 2 in post after the night on the ward.
The side rooms were so small I declined and said we’d go home and come back the next day for a check up! Also had complications and was in for a week before induction- it was spring, but boiling hot and they moved me to a window. In those days you had to hire a TV and make do w your Nokia brick and gossip mags!

I know, that was my thought too. Outrageous. But yes the noises too - other people are the worst. Very best of luck OP.

I recognise your user name from a November/October baby group on Mumsnet, congratulations on your second pregnancy!! I was originally due October 31 but went overdue to November 21 😂so was a November baby after all!

And the parts that were broken before are now horrific.mental health and social care my god it was shambolic before,it's frightening now. And everytimr i see or hear those prgrammes that always cosily say " dont suffer ,ask for help" I want to scream. No don't ! There is no help,or the shirshow of itit will kill you.😞

Just reading this in an ambulance. My 92 year old mum fell at 2 pm yesterday. Ambulance arrived at 10 pm. She was outside, on concrete in the heat and couldn't be moved. It's just gone 6 am and are still in an ambulance queue. The NHS is not fit for purpose.

My Dsil was induced on Friday but not given a drip until Monday. By that point she had already been contracting for 30 hours.

What the hell. That is horrific and I would absolutely go mad and panic if I had to wait on a chair for 24 hours. I’m so sorry OP what a shit show.

As a nurse working in the NHS I can only say how very very sorry we are that this is happening. Your poor mum - I hope she is okay.