Being "stalked" by Peri-Whisperer

[FatCatSkinnyRat]

I have a friend who has become a "therapist" in peri-menopause and has started holding weekend workshops to "equip women with tools for facing peri-menopause head on". I think it is hypnotherapy / thought control kind of stuff.

The thing is, even though I am 49, I don't have symptoms yet so I am OK actually for now. The first time she messaged me it was on FB as part of a group message so I just deleted.

Then, she messaged me directly and said "Hey hun just wondering if you will be joining us for peri-fest?" and forwarded on the original email. I replied that I am OK for now but will keep it in mind if issues arise.

The she started texting me directly, with the message "you are probably experiencing anxiety and fear around the upcoming peri-menopause - come and face it head on with us on xx weekend! I am here if you need!" I again replied "I am OK for now, thank you, please don't send me any more info about peri-fest. I will let you know if I need it".

She then messages my husband! "See if you can get FatCat to come to peri-fest! It will make her life (and yours!) much easier during the transition through the menopause. Even if she is not suffering now she definitely will be soon and it is best to get in front of it!"

I was so pissed off at this last one and have disengaged with her on FB and blocked her number on my phone. It is a shame I had to do this but it was getting too much. The problem is my DH has just started working with her DH. He thinks I should go to it not to talk about peri-menopause but to support my friend (by buying a ticket) who recently jacked in her stable career to become some kind of peri-whisperer.

But frankly I resent being fear mongered to, and basically stalked until I say yes. It feels like me to be some weird offshoot of a MLM by using friend network. My DH thinks I should just chill and go. The whole thought of the even makes me shudder. Plus I would just resent it all day. AIBU?

Isn't she breaking some sort of law by not being upfront about costs on the website? Either way she's an absolute CF who is not your friend.

I can tell you from experience that the main symptom of perimenopause is bleeding copiously every month for a couple of years and no amount of meditation is going to stop THAT.

The whole thing sounds like a scam. I'd tell her you're saving your money for extra bubble bath and chocolate . . . and bottles of peri-peri sauce, of course.

Reminds me of a friend who started working with his dad selling insurances. I was 22 and he spent ages trying to get me to buy life insurance!
I wouldn't be surprised to hear your friend's probably trying to turn those parties into a business and getting money out of them!

This ^
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In fairness Blue buying life insurance of my friend for the same reason when I was 21 was the best financial decision of my life.

Op your problem however gives me the rage, but the peri peri is funny

I hate this stuff: big business woo persuading the world that women are frail things who will fall apart physically and mentally at the age of 40

Oh poo, I wrote a jokey post about putting together a Nandos conference, and MN deleted it because I added a link to nandos dot co dot uk

MNHQ I promise I don't work for Nandos!

Ask her what a woman is.

Just say that you're sorry she is so desperate to drum up business, but you're not remotely interested, and if she brings it up again, with you, your husband or anyother relatives/friends she's likely to campaigh with on your behalf, you'll be blocking her and dropping all contact.
Rude cow.

Totally agree with PP saying it isn't a given that you will suffer through the menopause. Not only was I fine throughout my actual menopause, but now I'm having to take oestrogen blockers as part of my treatment for breast cancer, which can make your body react as if it was a second menopause, and I'm still fine!

You just know kale will be involved somewhere.

Made me Muttley wheeze - you make kale sound so ominous! 😂

I'm going to live forever. I'm going to freeze my body and come back kicking. Besides what would I do with life insurance at 22? Who would I leave the money to? Don't worry, I spent the money wisely, it tasted divine and looks fine on my feet.

Hi op this is very outing information.

If she said “hey Hun” then that’s a red flag for MLM for starters. There are a lot of serial MLM scammers who, on finally realising the business model doesn’t work, mutate into “coaching’ others to pay them to fail at what they’ve already failed at. Could she have hooked up with dodgy coach who teaches dodgy coaches? If you went along you might find you get the hard sell on some wellness bollocks products which could also turn out to be MLM. I have a menopause coach local to me who uses “coaching” as a cover to recruit mugs into her MLM (Arbonne).

I’m all for the new openness about perimenopause and menopause but I don’t want to get my support from someone who knows no more than I do. I don’t want to join a hot flush cult and I don’t want to be sold a “solution” or some kind of poorly evidenced hypnosis. Having got as far as the menopause (and past it in my case) I would not want to be patronised at this stage of my life.

Personally I’d tell her to get a proper job and keep her beak out of your menopause or tell her that actually you’re through it and it was a piece of cake; that way you’ll no longer be a potential sign up to the peri pyramid.

omg are you the peri poster?!

I'm probably a bit too young so I'm going with no... 😁

But the information is easily found and if someone wanted to be malicious they could

Why?

Work have set up a “menopause cafe” -just the thought gives me the ick! As for your friend’s woo nonsense…. Stay strong OP, keep avoiding her!

These people always think consumer law doesn't apply to their bizniz, ditto GDPR and paying tax. I, along with others, run a website called MLM truth and we are always getting stories of massive privacy breaches (for example the Forever Living Hun who put a picture on Insta of herself working her bizniz in front of her laptop on which could clearly be seen the names, home addresses, mobile numbers and dates of birth of all her downlines). It’s a Wild West out there in MLM land. The costs wont be clear and the inevitable refunds wont be forthcoming no doubt.

If this works…

Wellness word salad @nothingfound !

Will Perry Como be performing at Peri-fest?

I'm having training at work to be a 'menopause champion' which I think is just about learning how to be sensitive to women going through it and not the image I have of wearing a tracksuit and cheering people on 😁 So you could say you definitely don't need a course even if you were to need help as you have your very own (free) champion who won't sell you anything or make you eat kale.

Have found the website. Looks like a honey trap type thing.
'give us your details so that we can plague you with marketing materials:

Ummmm no thank you!!