To think men are still expected to earn more than women (relationships)

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SleepDreamThinkHuge · 08/07/2022 09:13

Do you think this is still the case in a lot of relationships? Is this still true in countries like UK, USA etc..

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AnaïsM · 09/07/2022 01:02

Is it still the case that the male partner is, on average, the older one in a couple? If so that’d tend to skew the numbers.

I think that females out-earn males in the U.K. nowadays into their thirties (in matched jobs), so unless there’s an age difference it’s going to be more normal for the woman to be the higher earners until milled-age.

AnaïsM · 09/07/2022 01:06

KingofLoss · 08/07/2022 13:55

I’m completely unashamed to say that when I was dating for a serious relationship (leading to marriage and kids) I absolutely only considered men who earned the same as me or more. I’ve worked extremely hard to get to where I am (which might not be much to many MN posters, but to me is more than I ever imagined earning). I’ve been bankrupt in my early twenties due to ill health and no support. Lived in poverty, and clawed my way out, knew I didn’t want to raise a child in a home unless it was financially secure and having only ever had relationships with very low earners knew that I wouldn’t want to have kids with someone who couldn’t provide.

I think it’s understandable when in a heterosexual relationship with children planned a woman’s career usually takes a hit. I didn’t expect someone to outearn me but I did expect someone to match me.

That’s going to be a problem though if they expect the same.

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