NOT being unreasonable at all. Just have to come up with a new strategy I think.
Have a story, hope it helps.
My best friend growing up was my next door neighbor, Lizzy, who came from a household where all the kids had chores and schedules. Nothing in the house was out of place, kids stuff only ever in kids room, bags and shoes always by the door, etc. Except when they’re dad came home. He was like King of the Castle, dropping things wherever he wanted, doing things however, which was fine with their mom. She just picked up after him. The doting wife.
Well, Lizzy had 2 younger sisters and 1 older brother. When their dad died, her brother was 24. Still mostly living at home. Finally finished university. Lizzy and I were 20, renting an apartment together. Her twin sisters were 18, heading off to school. Suddenly, Lizzy’s brother started to act like his dad. Coming inside, dropping things everywhere, doing what he wanted when he wanted. Lizzy’s mother was calling the whole family several times a day asking for help.
Everyone offered suggestions , which she took. These 3 generated the most action:
(1) She told him he had 1 month to find a place, pack up, and move out. He replied he needed to save money first. So, he found 2 part time jobs and after 6 months, still hadnt saved any money.
(2)She changed the locks—turns out her address was her son’s legal mailing address on everything and she was “informed” by “authorities” you cannot “evict” someone without notice. He was outraged that she would attempt to lock him out and responded with rude and disrespectful words and criticisms from then on—which shocked his sisters because they were never allowed to speak to their parents the way he was speaking to his mother.
(3) She put her house up for sale. She gathered her daughters over to the house and a few other family members that had her back and they sat waiting for her son to come home. When he walked in, she told her son in front of them that she was moving and the agent expected the house to go quickly. He yelled obscenities and insults and told her she couldn’t do it. And she said nothing, let her daughters and other family respond to his outrageous behaviour. By the end of the
next day, moving boxes filled the lounge, thanks to family dropping them by. End of day 2, agent came over with the paperwork to sign, and said you have 2 weeks to be completely moved out. And the agent said it in front of Lizzy’s brother. Long story short, the brother was gone in 10 days. He got his own place and new legal address. Lizzy’s mother changed the locks right after. And the mother is still there in her own home in piece. “Agent” was really just My boyfriend’s mother acting the part.
Hope it helps !!!